Boyfriends self esteem?!
Question: Basically I am 32wks pregnant with my boyfriends baby. He is so concerned about the way he looks (honestly I cannot fault anything about his apearance) and he is very unhappy with his body shape as he is a little chubby but loosing weight. I have told him numerous times I think he is soo gorgeous the way he is. He also thinks he cannot keep up with me sexually and sometimes goes "soft" due to lack of trying new things.
How can I make him realise there is nothing wrong with him? I have tried and tried and it makes me feel bad that nothing I say makes him feel better..
Answers: Basically I am 32wks pregnant with my boyfriends baby. He is so concerned about the way he looks (honestly I cannot fault anything about his apearance) and he is very unhappy with his body shape as he is a little chubby but loosing weight. I have told him numerous times I think he is soo gorgeous the way he is. He also thinks he cannot keep up with me sexually and sometimes goes "soft" due to lack of trying new things.
How can I make him realise there is nothing wrong with him? I have tried and tried and it makes me feel bad that nothing I say makes him feel better..
This boyfriend will feel more secure if he felt he was helping you and focusing on your needs rather than on how he looks. He would like to be thought of as handsome rather than gorgeous. And his going limp does not mean he cannot enjoy you every bit as much. - just lightly stroke his penis for him and it will firm up.
Slap him
* fangs emerge as he hisses and falls back onto the chair covering his eyes *
aaargh! another question with the word 'pregnant' in it - get it off me get it off me - get it off MEEE...
Oh I know the feeling.
My boyfriend is beyond perfect, both outside and inside. He is incredibly handsome (which he should know since many girls have told him this!). I'm just the one who was lucky enough to end up with him!
The difficult part about self-esteem is that it has to come from one person-yourself. No matter how much you love him and adore the way he looks, only he can really change how he looks at himself. You can help though! Bring him up whenever he's down on himself. Even when he makes little comments that he thinks no one else hears...have a comeback for his put down. Tell him lots that you love the way he looks. You say he's lost weight, make sure to recognize his accomplishment. When he pulls you in for a hug, hold him close and comment on his strength, or how handsome he is. You don't want to be over-the-top. It's most important to be sincere and understanding. Eventually he will come to know and love what you have seen in him all along.
sit somewhere with him nice and quiet and have a talk with him about him xD
AHHH i hate men in these situations...
They are all sad and have low self esteem however they dont want help!!
they just resist and theyree damn egos are so big they wont take any help, but they wont solve it themselves.
I dno just seduce him. tell him how sexy he is send him sexy text messages...
U gotta stroke his ego all day long.....Its AN ART....i have it mastered hahahaha cause guys love it (most) i dno just make him feel like macho man.
Have him talk to you about the history this belief he has about his appearance. What age was he when he began to believe this and who told him in words or by inference? Ask him what the feeling was that accompanied the decision he made to believe it. Encourage him to reflect on that childhood experience and decision with his adult rational mind. He may need a counselor to help guide him through the process. good luck