Guys advice please....?!
Question: Okay Edgar and I went out for three months. We broke up but we still have feelings for each other. He said he needs to focus on graduating and his job right now. But yet we still kiss and go on dates
We never went on date while being gf and bf. We kiss and hold each other. He texts me 24/7 still. We act like close friends with nothing sexual. He fell for me as a friend and keeps saying " If I fell for you once as a friend I might fall again."
I still feel like we are going out just less fighting and more caring. He said he kinda feels single.
Am I friends with benefits?
What would you do in my situation?
Answers: Okay Edgar and I went out for three months. We broke up but we still have feelings for each other. He said he needs to focus on graduating and his job right now. But yet we still kiss and go on dates
We never went on date while being gf and bf. We kiss and hold each other. He texts me 24/7 still. We act like close friends with nothing sexual. He fell for me as a friend and keeps saying " If I fell for you once as a friend I might fall again."
I still feel like we are going out just less fighting and more caring. He said he kinda feels single.
Am I friends with benefits?
What would you do in my situation?
Don't try to label it, and don't try to ask him what you guys are take it in stride and just go with the flow, you can't push for anything else, he sounds like he's not ready for a serious relationship and just call it dating if you want boundaries ask him if you guys are seeing other people and if he saids yes, then do it, go out with guy friends and enjoy yourself if he saids you guys are exclusive than so be it. Don't let him know that you're still in love with him, don't pine after him keep yourself busy But since he's already said he feels single than you're single. And that line he uses on you "If I fell for you once as a friend I might fall again." Look at him and tell him not to say that, tell him about the guys that you hang out with see if he reacts treat him a friend talk to him about other guys see what he does. That's what I did when my boyfriend broke up with me, and I got him back because I showed him I didn't need him that he wanted to play the friend card so I went along with it and when I treated him like a friend he didn't like it, he wanted me to be his girl but at first he played the single thing and when I started being single it annoyed the crap out of him.
Don't do nothing..
Just act cool
Best luck!
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He may have someone else on the side, and doesnt want to feel like he is cheating.
tell him straight up hey i like you and im not gonna be hooking up with you unless your my boyfriend.
and it sounds like you have respect foryourself so let him hear what you need to say.
and if he dosent like it he wasnt that good of a friend in the first place
If you're not having sex, I'm not sure what the benefits would be. Personally, I would move on. Sounds suspicious.
No offense but it sounds like there are no real benefits with what you have so I would call you friends. Find somebody who will not say "I might fall for you again" and will make you happy. Do not let yourself get strung along.
friends with benefits are friends you have sex with but dont have to be faithful to... since there is no sex, you are not fwb's... i'd say just close friends.
He might be going through stuff. IE: He might be bicurious or just straight up gay, and can't tell you. The best advice I can give you is just talk to him. It may not be the easiest thing to do, but it will definitely resolve your problem.
It sounds to me like he felt like he was being forced into committment.
If you aren't uncomfortable and don't feel used then, just be happy and take it for what it is. You are good friends, you care about each other and spend time with each other. Maybe he enjoys your company and spending time with you but was scared that you were expecting more when there was a "boyfriend/girlfriend" term attached to it and he didn't feel like he could give that to you on top of school/work.
But, if you find out he is giving that committment to someone else then I'd definitely feel betrayed and used and just watch your back. He shouldn't treat you like a girlfriend but then act single.
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You said nothing sexual, so no benefits there, up to you, are you content? want more? talk to him, see where he see's himself in 2 years?? and if you are included or not...
friends with bennys is what he wants. 100% Do you like that or not? If not move on.
yea a friend with benefits. Kinda sounds like hes waiting for more options. Might wanna get out or finalize the relationship
I think he wants to keep you as a friend with benefits and then when he finds someone else he is going to stop calling/ texting you. You should just be his friend but no kissing or holding hands
Hmm.. that's tough..
Well, what I would do is ask him why you arent together anymore if you still date and act flirty.
It's just like HAVING a boyfriend but without being able to call him that. If he broke up with you, it's basically saying he can have the benefits of having a girlfriend and have time to date you, but he doesnt have time to call you a girlfriend?? does that make sense?
Sounds to me like you should chill on the kissing if your just friends. I'd think I would have to tell them how I really feel, and go from there. Without talking about your feelings, your not gonna have a good relationship or friendship with anyone.
Well "kinda feels single" is not acceptable enough for me. Be straight forward with him and tell him plainly to make up his mind. Some guys use this tactic to get into your pants and when you fall for them, they try to act like they didn't want anything serious and offered you no guarantees. Don't fall for it. It sounds like you just might be getting played. Maybe not, but I wouldn't go so far as automatically trusting someone just because you see him as a "nice guy". Remember, he's still a guy. If he's truly about a relationship, let him know that you're willing to make the first move, but be direct and tell him that if he waits to long that you'll have to move on and find someone else who is more ready to get serious.
okay im a girl and to be honest you shouldn't be letting a bunch of guys answer this question they don't dick. okay well i would say you are just close friends NO PHYSICAL [anything]. You broke up if he knows he can get some while your broken up then hes gonna think its okay to use you. When your with someone that means you give them Body and Soul. but since your not together he needs to understand he can't have all of you because he if really wanted it than you wouldn't have broken up. Wow! this is kinda hard to explain but i hope you understand. : )
if you are nothing sexual, then you are not a "friend with benefits", atleast not in my book.
This is a weird one, i dont know what your situation is...
idk