How to have sex for the first time?!
Question: What am I suppose to do?Do guys go on top or bottom?HELP!
I am a male
PS.I know where the penis goes and all,but what am I suppose to do?
Answers: What am I suppose to do?Do guys go on top or bottom?HELP!
I am a male
PS.I know where the penis goes and all,but what am I suppose to do?
To me there are at least four main elements for successful sexual encounter: reasonable sexual attraction if not love, reasonable match of penis and vagina, male confidence, technique, and reasonable duration.
The reasonable sexual attraction or love, I'll leave to you. But both males and females will note if it is missing. And you have not asked about size which is refreshing. In most cases size does not matter. 70% of males and females have average size genitals which fit each other nicely as they have done for 120,000 years. The size of genital only becomes an issue when the extremes are matched together: for example, a small vagina with a large penis which can be tight and painful for both especially if the penis hits the cervix or vice versa where a small penis encounters a large vagina.
But that is just the physical side of sex. Successful sexual relations are much more complex. There is confidence. The female requires a degree of confidence about their males. The female job is to relax themselves so they lubricate their vagina and expand it so it can accommodate the penis, and finally so they can orgasm. They don't want to have to be concerned that you feel like you are too small or too stressed to focus on them. Be ready to play and slowly have fun.
A brief word about duration. This is very hard for especially young guys. Young people are wound real tight sexually. The women so tight they can hardly climax in a reasonable time. Young guys so tight they can climax in an instant. Not sure what you can do: I can tell you it gets better as you get older. About 35 to 40 years of age the sexes seem to come together: the guy can last long enough for the woman to climax regularly and the woman can climax in a reasonable amount of time on a regular basis When I was young like you I used to masturbate before going out if I thought I might get lucky so I could last a little longer. You could practice Kegal exercises to control your ejaculation: tighten and relax the same muscles you use to stop your pee. You can practice this daily and when you masturbate.
And the second thing is to try not to even enter her until she has somewhat climaxed from clitoria stimulation. More on this below. Just remember be ready to engage in a lot of foreplay: the lips, the ears, the neck, the breasts, and then south. Heat will make her vagina secrete her natural lubricant and her vagina will double in size more or less to accommodate the penis.
Now there are advanced techniques. Women will notice right away if you have some knowledge of good techniques of sex. For example, rule no. 1 called the ICS rule: it's the clitoris stupid. Most women do not obtain an orgasm via vaginal intercourse especially the young ones; and fewer younger one do so before their thirties. Find out where the female clitoris is: just north of the entry to the vagina: it is like the penis in that it engorges with blood and has thousands of nerve endings. This is how girls masturbate. It is very tender and so be carefully; ask her to show you how she likes it. And be ready to stroke it gently and then how she directs you with your tongue. Get comfortable and flicker the tongue gently getting under the hood of the clitoris and drive her into excitement.
The second rule is: "ladies first." Try like hell to get her to climax via her clitoris before you even try to enter her vagina. After she has climaxed, she will have more patience with the difficulties and relatively diminished pleasure for her during vaginal intercourse.
Finally, as noted above, there is the enrichment of emotional, spiritual, and even sexual attractions that are there or not there in the process and women and men notice their absence.
With the first time, it may be better for her to be on top at first so she can control the entry of the penis into her vagina. And then see if she can take you on top. But be patient and talk to her. Remember it's mutual play time.
Finally, take notice, the first couple of times are rarely enjoyable for most girls. The first several times can be painful for the girls and may result in the taring of the hyman, tissue that more or less partially covers the entry to the vagina. There may be a little bleeding but it should not much. So don't be on top of grandma's quilt. This bleeding is normal and natural and will stop shortly. You should consider having some personal lubrication available. And be safe and careful as to procreation. Women will usually forgive you for the first couple of times if you are sincerely trying. But by the third time, you better be ready for her to enjoy herself. Good luck my man and have a great time.
Hope this helps you.
relax!! really, it will come naturally when the time is right. most guys are on top at first. go slow, be gentle, and enjoy. you'll know what to do from there. trust me
just relax. when me and my bf started having sex, he coulnd't even get it in, it's hard the first few times, but just laugh about it. And ask her what she wants. You can be on top, bottom, or side, upside down, whatever.
most first timers use missionary which is guy on top. just make sure you get her good and ready with the foreplay. finger her, lick her, kiss her down there then you might have to use your hand to direct your penis in the whole. and go slow and enjoy it!
it should come natural