A Serious Question For Guys!!?!
Question: This is a serious question, and i truly hope someone can help me with it. I was going to ask my Physician, but it was a little too embarasing, so I am seeking help here first. When my husband and I have sex, it doesn't last as long as I would like. And when it's over, it's over! I thought if I shortened the foreplay some it would help, but it doesn't. The entire process generally lasts 15-20 minutes, that is including foreplay, like oral sex and so forth ans so on. Now when I give my husband JUST oral, he seems to last for an eternity. What can I do, or can he do, to help him last longer. he gets super hard, that isn't the problem. The early jackulation is.... Any advice?
Answers: This is a serious question, and i truly hope someone can help me with it. I was going to ask my Physician, but it was a little too embarasing, so I am seeking help here first. When my husband and I have sex, it doesn't last as long as I would like. And when it's over, it's over! I thought if I shortened the foreplay some it would help, but it doesn't. The entire process generally lasts 15-20 minutes, that is including foreplay, like oral sex and so forth ans so on. Now when I give my husband JUST oral, he seems to last for an eternity. What can I do, or can he do, to help him last longer. he gets super hard, that isn't the problem. The early jackulation is.... Any advice?
this is a very common situation for older men. now there are many ways to help him last longer, but if you don't want to try pill right away here are a few suggestions. make four play longer, some people think that if you skip four play and go right to sex then the guy will be able to last longer but the opposite is true. if you skip four play the sex will actually last shorter. you see four play is a very big and important part of sexual anticipation. also you can surprise him. mix it up a little. now im not saying go crazy and right when he walks through the door from work through yourself at him. you should ask him if he has any sexual fantasies or something along that line. but you need to understand that he might be very emmabast to tell you his fantasies so dont try to force it out of him
try...just wen he is going to u know do his buisness...pull out and try a new position....keep doing that and it should last longer
you guys need to try some other positions so you can get your cookies, too. try being on top and find a position that stimulates you. or go doggie style so he can massage your clit while he's stroking in and out. that should solve the problem.
Play with the testicles when you are having sex, when giving oral too! That can help delay things. There are some lubes which help dull sensation for men - and condomes which do the same.
spend a while playing sexy games and just feeling and playing with each other, penetrative is for the end, try new positions and roles.
You need to tell him that YOU need more foreplay. If he is young enough that he can get it back up in a reasonable time, he or you could get him off before the "main event" and he should last longer he second time.
if he can hold on for so long in the oral then that is what should precede and when you are about to come you can have him in this way you can synchronize and prolong the act and synergise.
Have an affair.
Apply any position, but just act upon my advice.
When he enters into your "V", give him a paper writing figures from 99 to 00 and tell him to count backwards i.e. from 99, 98, 97 and so on but slowly slowly. You must take concentration on sex and full enjoy yourself. When he finishes, tell him to repeat the same.
It will give your husband ever long lasting during x and it is the best solution, I think.
Men respect oral, and so do I, just do what works.
Nikki, In order to slow him down he should concentrate on giving you as many orgasms as you like either with his hands or orally first. After all, you are his partner during the dance and you should be the receiver of better foreplay and enjoyment
If your husband is really serious about pleasing you much longer try the following: Men can learn when the impending plateau or the very first chill of an orgasm is approaching. For him to be more mindful of when an orgasm is close he should practice slow in and out stroking paying strict attention of any onset of an orgasm. *He should IMMEDIATELY remove himself from you and change positions every time the first chilled feeling takes place. By doing this the impending sensation of having an orgasm will vanish in seconds. After he's mastered it and gained a lot of confidence you both may try the following: When you are having intercourse, remind him to stroke you slowly. When he "feels" the first wave or chill of an orgasm approaching communicate together and just stop stroking with his penis resting still inside you. Believe it or not the wave will pass.
I strongly suggest that your OB Dr.refer both of you to a registered sex therapist. It's very important to do this early in your marriage or you'll both wind up in a rut. Some young people such as yourselves suffer terribly because they can't communicate their inner feelings to each other adequately or know how to fix the problem.
Sex theripists (men or woman) communicate well with their patients. It's very much like talking to a coach. Believe me no question is too silly and there is no reason to feel embarreassd. We took advantage of a therapist early on in our marrage for almost the exact same reason.
Best wishes to both of you. I hope everything improves and goes well.
See Ya,
i KNOW that i am not a guy... but i was reading an article about a couple having sex everyday.... and at first he would only last for about 5 min... and the more they had sex, the longer it lasted... it was a very interesting article...
so the more you do it the long he will last... !!!
GOOD LUCK!
Stop just before he is going to *** and let him finger you for a bit. Then switch to a new position. That should help!
that's a common issue, yes there are things you can do, just can't say them all on here
It sounds kinda gross, but when a guy is about to ejaculate his balls will rise up to his body and when relaxed they hang low. Dont do this hard, but very gently pull them away from his body (be careful!) and keep them from moving up and tightening to the body b/c thats right when we orgasm. I used to do this with a girl and it helped sometimes.