Erection issues...Males please help?!
Question: My boyfriend and I are trying to have sex. He is always erected untill its time for him to enter. This has happened twice, the first time i thought nothing of it but then it happened again today. I dont think that normally happens, so what exactly is the problem. We like eachother alot and we have waited but now we are ready to do it but we have encountered the same problem twice. What is going on?
Answers: My boyfriend and I are trying to have sex. He is always erected untill its time for him to enter. This has happened twice, the first time i thought nothing of it but then it happened again today. I dont think that normally happens, so what exactly is the problem. We like eachother alot and we have waited but now we are ready to do it but we have encountered the same problem twice. What is going on?
This happened to me too when I had sex for the first time and I dont have a problem getting it up. Its performance ANXIETY. Hes nervous and is worked up over the whole thing. This is it. Impotence at this age is purely pschological and isnt permanent. Just try to make him as relaxed and comfortable as possible and tell him thats okay and its all psychological. Theres nothing wrong with him or you.
Maybe he isn't ready? Or deep inside his mind he doesn't want to do it for various reasons?
Not Sure about this so don't kill me haha
oh hun have no worries. first of all i assume since your not sure if it normally happens your fairly new to the sexual aspect. he is most likely very nervous. stage fright so to speak. he is so nervous and excited he is psyching himself out and loses it. or he is so nervous about performing well he ends up losing it. you need to reassure him and let him know everything is fine and just to relax and be comfortable. let him know your not expecting something and just relax and let it happen.
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He must be very insecure about himself ,I guess.And puts himself under a lot of pressure to perform well,so you are not disappointed.
Just massage each other,be nice to each other.When he gets comfortable enough,I ASSURE YOU,THERE WILL BE NO MORE PROBLEM.
We are talking about preforming under his own built up pressure.Reassure him that all will be fine.
It could be that he is so anxious about performing that he forgets where he is and loses it... sex is not just about penetration and you can enjoy kissing, being naked together and exploring each other without any hurry. Don't force it and let him do what comes naturally... if all else fails then you could try using a rubber ring or (not too tight) hair band to keep him in the upright position (be careful with this though because if the band is too tight after a while this will damage his delicate tissues).
I had a similar problem with my gf sometimes and it was because I felt under pressure not to disappoint her. sometimes the moment just isn't right... you could also try getting him a little drunk and lighting some candles or put on some music to ease the tension.
Subconsciously he is feeling fear or guilt or both.
I am no medical expert so i don't know why that happens to him. do you guys do it with the lights on or off? if u leave them on then the next time turn the lights off or the other way around and see if that makes a difference. also do u guys use alot of foreplay or just jump right into it? maybe try other things like foreplay, oral etc to see if the same thing happens or if thats the case only when it comes to intercourse