My best buddy is GAY its very hard for me to accept it...need help?!
Question: My best buddy is GAY its very hard for me to accept it!.!.!.need help!?
its 8 days since he confessed to me that he's gay and i tried to avoid him even in school!. our basketball practice this morning (we are both member of the school varsity) i tried to be very hard on him foul him hard, bump him hard and he fell real hard on the floor and he didn't complain!. usually if he fell dowm i hold his hand to get up, this time i just turn my back kick his shoes and throw him the ball!. our coach called me and ask whats the problem i tell him nothing!. my mom, friend and my gf also asked me if something is wrong between us and i told them nothing!. it seems theres a wall between us now unlike before, i have the burden to tell a lie to my family and friends coz i can't tell them the truth!.!.his birthday is this Sat and i dont know what to do or what gift to give him!. i guess i just freaked out that my best buddy knowing him since were in diapers until now that were 17 just suddenlly became gay!. i really dont know what to do!.!.!.need your help!.!.thanksWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
he didnt suddenly become gay!.
hes been gay forever, man!.
and obviously he is NOT your best buddy because you're being a *** to him when he trusted you with something!.
i feel sorry for you!.
you're never going to get anywhere when you don't have friends!.
not everything is about you!.
he wanted to let you know, and you freaked out!.
it's not like he likes you!.
people don't like their best friends that theyve known forever!.
trust me!.
you need to apologize in private, and tell him that you accept it because thats what freinds do - even though EVERYONE should!.
just think, he's been hiding this HUGE thing inside forever, and he finally gets the guts to tell you cause he has to tell somebody!. he trusted you with it, and you're a **** to him about it!.
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hes been gay forever, man!.
and obviously he is NOT your best buddy because you're being a *** to him when he trusted you with something!.
i feel sorry for you!.
you're never going to get anywhere when you don't have friends!.
not everything is about you!.
he wanted to let you know, and you freaked out!.
it's not like he likes you!.
people don't like their best friends that theyve known forever!.
trust me!.
you need to apologize in private, and tell him that you accept it because thats what freinds do - even though EVERYONE should!.
just think, he's been hiding this HUGE thing inside forever, and he finally gets the guts to tell you cause he has to tell somebody!. he trusted you with it, and you're a **** to him about it!.
:/Www@Answer-Health@Com
You can't treat him in a bad way just because he is gay, you have to help him right now, because maybe he is only confused and he thinks he's gay!. You should buy him a good present and show him you support him!. You should try to talk to his very interior person because maybe he is not gay, maybe he is just passing a very hard moment in his life!. Good luck and take care man!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you should be more accepting!. I think he was just being honest with you!. Considering both of you have been friends since in diapers maybe it is also hard for him to confess it but it shows that he appreciate you as a friend, don't want to hide it from you!. Imagine if you have known that his a gay from another friend!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wow!.!. must be hard for you to accept that he is gay!.!. and I think thats normal but you can't treat him badly just because he is gay!. He is your best friend and he must be a really nice person!.!. so don't judge him based on that!. I mean would you rather have a gay friend that is a great guy, or a straight friend that is a real jerk and cannot be trusted!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
no offense man but your being a douchebag!.
he cant help it!
and he trusts you as his friend to accept it and you dont!?!?
its like having a really good friend thats a girl, just because shes a girl doesnt mean she has to like you!
and just because he is gay doesnt mean he has to like you!
even if he did, explain to him that your straight!.hes your friend, he will understand!.
but seriously thats pretty stupid how your treating him!.
you should apologize!.
and soon too!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
he cant help it!
and he trusts you as his friend to accept it and you dont!?!?
its like having a really good friend thats a girl, just because shes a girl doesnt mean she has to like you!
and just because he is gay doesnt mean he has to like you!
even if he did, explain to him that your straight!.hes your friend, he will understand!.
but seriously thats pretty stupid how your treating him!.
you should apologize!.
and soon too!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
wow!.!.you are a terrible person, he obviously trusts you therefor he told you!. and you bully him!? what is wrong with you!? how would you feel if you told your friend something that is probably one of the most difficult things you can say, then he bullies you and avoids you!. go apologize!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well he obviously isnt your best buddy now, you just need to grow up & realise just becuase he's gay, you cant catch it, and just becuase he's gay, doesnt mean he fancies you or is any less of a man!.
Make up your mind quickly, its not fair to treat him like dirt!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Make up your mind quickly, its not fair to treat him like dirt!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Dude, he is gay!.!.!.not you!. Lighten up and give your friend a break!. He hasn't changed!. You are just freakout because you probably showered together after the game, told him about this woman or that one, and thought that women was something you had in common!.
Accept him!. He is still your friend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Accept him!. He is still your friend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He must be a really good friend of yours to be able to tell you something like that, he must have been really hurt by your reaction!. Stop being so harsh!!! he is the same person you knew before he told you he was gay!!! dont be homophobicWww@Answer-Health@Com
Quit being a f'ing baby!. If he is your friend it shouldn't matter!. I'm sure if he had his way, he wouldn't choose to be gay just to p*ss you off!. Seriously, you need to get over!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just accept it, and make sure he doesn't hit on you girls like straight guys who have gay guys as best friends!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
So what you fly a viper and he's part of the deck gang does it matter his work is just as important as yoursWww@Answer-Health@Com
well than i guess u have to suck it up!! and deal with it!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
So!? What's the problem!? We're you not acting "normal" even before he confessed he was gay!?
Just because he confesses does that mean that you have to drastically change your attitude and viewpoint about him (or other people)!?
You may want to re-evaluate your personal opinion and this "friendship" thing; I for one, if I found out that one of my friends was a homosexual then, while I do not necessarily agree with the lifestyle, but I will be more accepting and TREAT HIM THE SAME WAY AS BEFORE HE CONFESSED!. SEXUAL ORIENTATION / RACE / SKIN COLOUR / RELIGION / DISABILITY SHOULDN'T BE A BARRIER OR A WALL BETWEEN WHAT COULD POTENTIALLY BE THE GREATEST FRIENSHIP / RELATIONSHIP!.
AND STOP BEING A HOMOPHOBE!. YOU ARE THE ONE OVERLY-FREAKING OUT HERE, NOT YOUR FRIEND!. AND WHAT GIVES YOU THE RIGHT TO TREAT PEOPLE WHO DON'T FIT THE "NORMAL" STANDARDS, LIKE DIRT!?
EDIT: I JUST FIGURED IT OUT -- YOU ARE INDEED A HOMOPHOBE!. WANNA KNOW HOW I SOLVED IT!? YOU CAPITALIZED THE WORD "GAY" IN YOUR QUESTION HEADING!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just because he confesses does that mean that you have to drastically change your attitude and viewpoint about him (or other people)!?
You may want to re-evaluate your personal opinion and this "friendship" thing; I for one, if I found out that one of my friends was a homosexual then, while I do not necessarily agree with the lifestyle, but I will be more accepting and TREAT HIM THE SAME WAY AS BEFORE HE CONFESSED!. SEXUAL ORIENTATION / RACE / SKIN COLOUR / RELIGION / DISABILITY SHOULDN'T BE A BARRIER OR A WALL BETWEEN WHAT COULD POTENTIALLY BE THE GREATEST FRIENSHIP / RELATIONSHIP!.
AND STOP BEING A HOMOPHOBE!. YOU ARE THE ONE OVERLY-FREAKING OUT HERE, NOT YOUR FRIEND!. AND WHAT GIVES YOU THE RIGHT TO TREAT PEOPLE WHO DON'T FIT THE "NORMAL" STANDARDS, LIKE DIRT!?
EDIT: I JUST FIGURED IT OUT -- YOU ARE INDEED A HOMOPHOBE!. WANNA KNOW HOW I SOLVED IT!? YOU CAPITALIZED THE WORD "GAY" IN YOUR QUESTION HEADING!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He's your BEST FRIEND!. Deal with the fact that he likes guys!. And most people make this mistake!.!.!. his being gay does NOT mean that he will automatically like you and try to do stuff to you!. It's not like straight people like everyone of the opposite sex that they see!. It's the same for gay people!. So get past your personal prejudices, and be nice to him!. Don't hurt him!. And don't be homophobic!. Think about it, he's just begun to come out to people (it seems), don't you think he needs a good friend right now!? He needs you!. Be nice!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
u should talk to u family about this an ur girlfriend!. im not expecting u to hav a deep an meaningful with them about it but just tell them that he told u he is gay an u freaked out
most of all talk to him!!!!
he is ur best friend after all an just coz he says he is gay doesnt mean he will ever crack onto u if thats wat ur worried about!?
u need to get ur thoughts off ur chest
i hope u are man enough to do thisWww@Answer-Health@Com
most of all talk to him!!!!
he is ur best friend after all an just coz he says he is gay doesnt mean he will ever crack onto u if thats wat ur worried about!?
u need to get ur thoughts off ur chest
i hope u are man enough to do thisWww@Answer-Health@Com
You have to ask yourself what it is you really have a problem with, is it the fact that you couldn't tell!? is it the fact that he's gay!? is it the fact that he hadn't told you before!? what!? you have to figure that out and deal with it, and then decide from there!. It sounds to me like he only confided in you, and is most likely testing the waters so to speak, to find out if he should come out to everyone else; and your reaction as his best friend is telling him that nobody will stand by him!. I'm not gonna tell you what to do, but think about what your doing and why your doing it and ask yourself if thats really the result you want!.
Once you decide, you at least owe him an explanation of your actions, wheather or not you ever speak to him againWww@Answer-Health@Com
Once you decide, you at least owe him an explanation of your actions, wheather or not you ever speak to him againWww@Answer-Health@Com
If he's gay, he is gay!. Being gay is not his fault!. He was gay at time of birth if he is gay now!. He may have just recently "came out of the closet"!. If you want to be a real friend, I would continue to be his friend no matter what his sexuality is!. If you are uncomfortable around him when he is with a "Boy friend", etc!.!.!.then avoid him at those times!. Go to his party and have fun!. Just simply don't mention the "gay" thing!.
If you need any advice or if you have any questions, comments, etc!.!.!.feel free to email or IM me at nicknrm@att!.netWww@Answer-Health@Com
If you need any advice or if you have any questions, comments, etc!.!.!.feel free to email or IM me at nicknrm@att!.netWww@Answer-Health@Com
Pull back the blinds and open all their eyes!. Let the sun drown you all!.Www@Answer-Health@Com