Need a honest dudes opinion?!
Question: Need a honest dudes opinion!?
I'm putting this up in the mens health section because i need a man's perspective
I have been dating this guy for the past year!. Before me, he was in a relationship that, as he describes, completely jilted him and lead him to "loose his faith in people"
Essentially he has become jaded!.
at first we were fine!.!.!. he really seemed like he care and trust me ( he use to turn to me about personal emotional issues)
Recently however he has changed!. he is more hot and cold!. sometimes is is extremely loving!. but he also snaps at me more!. He pulls my card over small stuff, and sometimes he down plays the things i do ( example: recently i cooked dinner and brought it to his house, and then he told me, as a joke he later said when i asked him about it, not to expect a pat on the back for cooking and bringing him dinner)
I have asked him many times if he feels that we have grown apart, or if he wants to see other people, and he always responds that everything is fine!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have been dating this guy for the past year!. Before me, he was in a relationship that, as he describes, completely jilted him and lead him to "loose his faith in people"
Essentially he has become jaded!.
at first we were fine!.!.!. he really seemed like he care and trust me ( he use to turn to me about personal emotional issues)
Recently however he has changed!. he is more hot and cold!. sometimes is is extremely loving!. but he also snaps at me more!. He pulls my card over small stuff, and sometimes he down plays the things i do ( example: recently i cooked dinner and brought it to his house, and then he told me, as a joke he later said when i asked him about it, not to expect a pat on the back for cooking and bringing him dinner)
I have asked him many times if he feels that we have grown apart, or if he wants to see other people, and he always responds that everything is fine!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
The guy is still hurting over his last relationship and doesn't realise the crap he's causing to you so he's screwing up this relationship as well and there's not a whole lot you can do about it cept cut your losses and leave before you too get stuck in a rut like he is!. It's sad but true we don't realise what it is we've got till it's gone!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Considering how it happened recently, this may be some emotional/personal issue that may have nothing to do with you!. You may want to ask what is bothering him, and what you can do to help him get over it!. People change personalities and habits often, so be sure to approach him carefully, as you don't want to permamently damage the relationship!. Also, depending on the age, he may be going through mood swings and will probably get over it soon!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
this happend with my ex boyfriend n then it just turned that he wud stop comin to c me as often, stop calling all he was bothered bout was stupid video games, so i dumped him n got with someone else!. u deserve way better girl!
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his name isn't chris is it!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am assuming that you are a guy from you emoticon and this is a gay relationship!. Those don't always fit the mold and are seldom lasting!. It sound like you are coming on a little strong with cooking and bringing food over to him!. To be honest it seems a little desperate!. He obviously has some problems he's not telling you about!. He just may not be ready for another serious relationship!. He's hanging with a different crowd that you are not a part of and he may find himself attracted to somebody else!.
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Are you sure there are no issues with his personality!. I am not suggesting bipolar or anything!. However, you need to consider possibilities!.
In regard to attitude!.!.you need to sit down and start inquiring as to what brought about this change in attitude!. What occurred to prompt or promote this change!.
If this is the type of relationship that you intend to become long term you may need to consult a relationship expert!. That way you can bring your thoughts forth in an environment that can be facilitated!. Some times a person brings out their issues and deals with them better when you have some one who has that expertise in that area!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
In regard to attitude!.!.you need to sit down and start inquiring as to what brought about this change in attitude!. What occurred to prompt or promote this change!.
If this is the type of relationship that you intend to become long term you may need to consult a relationship expert!. That way you can bring your thoughts forth in an environment that can be facilitated!. Some times a person brings out their issues and deals with them better when you have some one who has that expertise in that area!.Www@Answer-Health@Com