I'm scared of men, especially about sex?!


Question: I'm scared of men, especially about sex!?
I'm not scared of sex, I'm scared of men!. I had an abusive father, my former boyfriends did not physically hurt me but emotionally hurt me really bad!.

Now I'm 23 but am still having trouble on trusting men!. Especially when it comes to sex!. Ironically, I like rough sex and a little wild guys! I'm scared because I feel like they would not stop if I ask them to!.

What can I do about it!? How can I change the image I have about men!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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Aww hun!!!. You sound quite like my girl!. I understand your fear for men!. But let me tell you one thing!. There are good people and bad people!. But the second type is still a minority due to god's grace!. You just have to be more careful about your choices!. Just don't jump into relations!. Get a patient and understanding guy and spend quite a long time with him before getting into a relationship with him!. And better don't go for alpha-male type of guys!. You are just not built for that!.

I'm a man and leet me tell you one thing!. hurting my girl is the last thing i want to do as long as i draw breath no matter how she behaves to me!.!.!.except for the spanking she begs for with her cute and naughty eyes!.!.!.lol!. Even then i make sure she's enjoying every last bit of it and not finding it least bit uncomfortable!.

The key here is to make good communication with your guy!. Talk to him and open up about everything!. Let him understand and feel what you are!. And trust me there are lots of men out there who would die before they would see their girls hurt!.

But i certainly advice you meet a therapist and take a couple of sessions to change your notions about men and improve your self-image!. Bcoz you should learn to stand your ground when someone starts to play with your feelings!. As you were having an abusive father, and you were young back then, you might be having a feeling that you are vulnerable and helpless in front of an abusive man!. That notion needs to be uprooted from your mind!.

Contact me if you need to talk more!.!.!.!.!.good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

you, now everyone in one way or another has experience one crazy curl experience in their lives at one time!.
honestly to say, i had a bad experience but i found my self looking deep in my heart and the desire i really had to love someone and to be really loved by some one was the i would be the only person in my way of happiness if i allowed other peoples mistake to take control of the way i view men I would end up as one sad, lonely, honey, woman!. and the honest truth, Never give anyone that much power to stop you from living you got to take control of your live and emotions, not giving them away or putting your self in situation that will cause you to hate yourself or the other!. sex, race, person!. its your live, you got to live it, and you are the only one that control your happiness!. and you can do it!. (live it up)Www@Answer-Health@Com

i know how you feel, i like it rough too lol, but the first guy i did it with was very mean about it, he didnt stop when i said i wanted him to and he hurt me emotionally, so now i have a loving boyfriend but when we get a chance to do anything sexual i get very scared and i tense up so we end up just layin together, he is fine with us not doin anything and he is supportive of me and doesnt try to make me feel bad and i feel like ive let him down somehow but im startin to feel better about guys because my boyfriend is very nice and patient with me, you just to need to find a very nice and patient guyWww@Answer-Health@Com

We are not all bad!
But unfortunately we all get lumped in the same group because of some nasty inconsiderate people!

We have emotions to!.!.!.!.!. the same as you ladies, but we tend to keep ours hidden! And we also get emotionally and psychologically screwed over from time to time!

Talk to men, communication is the only way!
:-)Www@Answer-Health@Com

Talk to a therapist, try to resolve this issue, it could ruin future relationships!. I had a girlfriend who was in a abusive relationship for a very long time before i met her, and the biggest issue was she did not trust me and she had a wall between us!. she was a very special person but i got tired of all her drama now we do not talk and are not friends!. its a very tough thing to go through but you can do it with help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

What you have to do is put your past to rest!. You'll have to begin trusting men!. Whenever you date, just get to know them real well!. Most men can be trusted and once you find Mr!. Right, he should take it at the paste you want to!. You'll learn to trust them!. I'm sorry you wen through that!. I hate that anyone goes through this!. Hope this helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

im a 14 yr old virgin so whether u think its stupid for a 14 yr old to giv advice whatever but images of men is bad and replaced as rapists,murderers and brutal hairy men raping lil kids THIS IS NOT TRUE!. im still a virgin so sexual experience = 0 minus masturbation but ive been told im a good friend cos im considerate but i dont stand much of a chance getting a girlfriend because im so ugly!.

Good luck

AshWww@Answer-Health@Com

u sound like a girl who likes to suk her man good!.!.!.!.!.let him grind u good in all the ways she can!.!.!.!.!.get down and dirty most of the times!.!.!.like to be spanked and sometimes told what to down like turning around for instance!.!.!.!.and still someone who is a good girl in public!.!.!.!.!.u need to realize ur the one thats in control!.!.!.what u have is priceless !.!.!.no man will dare try to hurt u for they know u wont give it up anymore!.!.!.!.change ur perspective!.!.!.dont give it up so easily!.!.challenge the men u want and the ones that one it that bad will give u the out most respect /!.!.!.thats the one u want!.!.!.now u go get em !.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You seem to have the desire to be with a man!? You seem to know yor concern and can verbalize it!. The right mate will be heaven for you!. Date gentle, shy, non-drinking men who respect their mothers, I'd say!.
Look at photos of men who have done well in life!. Talk with a counsellor!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Go talk to a psychologist and get this resolved!.
Your image of men in general is ruined by bad experiences!.
I have news:most men aren't like that at all!.
And you are attracted yourself to the wrong guys!.
Sky!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

There are some evil men out there, but there are many more good ones too!. If you like a guy but you start to feel threatened walk out!. If you meet a guy you like take your time and get to know him!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Become a lesbian!.

Or asexual!.

Sex will lead to the destruction of mankind!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Go to a therapist or get your best guy friend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

ya I think you should go see professional help!. Its the best way ro help you with your problem!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

In the wise words of Dr!. Phil, "Not all men are bad men!."Www@Answer-Health@Com

dont have sex with them!.!.!.
give up on men!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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