Why do i tense when i enjoy the feeling?!
Question: Why do i tense when i enjoy the feeling!?
My partner really turns me on when he uses his finger in my bum during intercorse, i always seem to have more intense orgasms!. We have tried double (using a small toy in my bum while having sex) and this is great but when we try anal it hurts too much and we have to stop!. I was wondering if anyone had any advise, we have tried lube etc and have no problems with the toys but as soon as he tries to enter me i tense up!.
Please dont judge me if your not into it, everyone likes different things!.
Thanks in advance :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Please dont judge me if your not into it, everyone likes different things!.
Thanks in advance :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I agree with "Hummin Bean" regarding the use of toys!.
You and your partner obviously have alot of trust in eachother and that is the greatest thing to have in a sexual relationship, besides sexual compatability!. Using that trust, consider looking into toys specifically made for anal sex!. There are plenty of anal stimulating toys available, such as anal beads that will begin with a small size bead, but each subsequent bead will be a little bigger in diameter, helping you get used to the bigger sizes at your own personal rate!. Your lover can also begin with one stimulating you with one finger (and plenty, and I mean plenty of lubrication), then gradually try to penetrate with another finger!.!.!.!.!.!.patience, time and open comunication is of the essence in this endeavor!
Eventually, you will be able to enjoy full penetration and it will be incredibly satiafying for both of you!
Best of Luck!~Www@Answer-Health@Com
You and your partner obviously have alot of trust in eachother and that is the greatest thing to have in a sexual relationship, besides sexual compatability!. Using that trust, consider looking into toys specifically made for anal sex!. There are plenty of anal stimulating toys available, such as anal beads that will begin with a small size bead, but each subsequent bead will be a little bigger in diameter, helping you get used to the bigger sizes at your own personal rate!. Your lover can also begin with one stimulating you with one finger (and plenty, and I mean plenty of lubrication), then gradually try to penetrate with another finger!.!.!.!.!.!.patience, time and open comunication is of the essence in this endeavor!
Eventually, you will be able to enjoy full penetration and it will be incredibly satiafying for both of you!
Best of Luck!~Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you want to venture to double pentration, in your private time like during a warm bath use the dildo for anal penetration allowing your body to adjust to anal pentration!. The first time allow 1 inch, the 2nd time 1!.5 inch!. As you allow more length up the rectum tense the spinlter muscles to ADJUST to the "pain"!. Know your limit and work past it each session!.
Be sure to use a lube during the bath time also, be careful of the increased amount of oil in the tub!. Also be near a toilet when the urge to release may occur!.
One book explains it well - The joy of gay sex!. I've found copies @ my local library!. check and see if you could borrow it and read the section about anal sex!.
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put a condom on your finger and use your finger to learn your tolerance level!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Be sure to use a lube during the bath time also, be careful of the increased amount of oil in the tub!. Also be near a toilet when the urge to release may occur!.
One book explains it well - The joy of gay sex!. I've found copies @ my local library!. check and see if you could borrow it and read the section about anal sex!.
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put a condom on your finger and use your finger to learn your tolerance level!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Starting with toys is a good idea - work your way up in size, until the toy has at least your partner's diameter!. This could take weeks, until you're really comfortable with the big sizes!. Then, even within one session making love, work from small to big again!.
Make sure that the lube goes all the way inside, not just around the edge!. There's a gadget that lets you shoot it in where it will keep the interior tissues slippery!.
Go slowly - he's probably very eager, and might not give you all the time you need to relax into it!.
Play with his bum, too!. It will help him remember just how important the gentle touch is, and might give him a lot more sympathy for your discomfort!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Make sure that the lube goes all the way inside, not just around the edge!. There's a gadget that lets you shoot it in where it will keep the interior tissues slippery!.
Go slowly - he's probably very eager, and might not give you all the time you need to relax into it!.
Play with his bum, too!. It will help him remember just how important the gentle touch is, and might give him a lot more sympathy for your discomfort!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Two possibilities!.
Either you are tensing up or you're just too small to take his penis!. You could be intimidated by the size or the idea of impassioned thrusting with something so large!. You might also be a little too small to take much more than the toy or his fingers!. There are all kinds of sex shops (online) that sell lubes specifically for anal sex!. I recommend that you buy one and try that out!. If that doesn't work, then you might just have to accept that anal sex with his penis won't work for you two!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Either you are tensing up or you're just too small to take his penis!. You could be intimidated by the size or the idea of impassioned thrusting with something so large!. You might also be a little too small to take much more than the toy or his fingers!. There are all kinds of sex shops (online) that sell lubes specifically for anal sex!. I recommend that you buy one and try that out!. If that doesn't work, then you might just have to accept that anal sex with his penis won't work for you two!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you tense up because he is entering you with his "toy" and not a toy!. This might be giving you a bit of anxiety, therefore you tense up!. You need to relax!. Once you relax then you can go about it the way you have been trying!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
your guy has to use lots of lubrication and go in very very slowly, so that your anus has time to accomodate the 'stretching' feelingWww@Answer-Health@Com
use a toy and lube to warm up and then he has to go really slow getting in until you are ready for it to get more intenseWww@Answer-Health@Com