Roomate Help?!
Question: Roomate Help!?
Do you think it would be helpful for both roommates to initiate a conversation with the other guy to set ground rules for stuff like nudity, masturbation, etc!. Do you think you would be comfortable if I started this conversation as your roommate!? What should I say!? I am fairly liberal on these issues and am willing to accommodate my roommate's feelings as well!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I've lived in dorms for seven years of my life (prep school and college) and I definitely understand your situation!. My advice to you is to approach the issue in a clever way!. Do not bring up these topics in your first day living together, because that might be really awkward!. If I were you, I would begin, not by talking, but by doing something like returning from the shower and getting naked to dress!. If your roommate is freaked out at this, you'll probably notice!. Give it a week or two!. If he begins to do the same thing, it probably means that he is fine with such normal nudity like getting dressed!. After a few weeks you will know him better as a person and if you think that he would be comfortable talking about such topics, this might be a good time to have the conversation!. However, keep in mind that he might not be open to nudity and masturbation, and you will need to respect that!.
In my case, high school was a free-for-all!. My roommates were all very liberal with that stuff!. In college, however, my roommates were very conservative and I never once saw them naked and they never saw me!. Both situations worked out well and living around more conservative people just prompted me to change my routine to involve getting dressed and doing!.!.!. errr!.!.!. other things in the shower!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
In my case, high school was a free-for-all!. My roommates were all very liberal with that stuff!. In college, however, my roommates were very conservative and I never once saw them naked and they never saw me!. Both situations worked out well and living around more conservative people just prompted me to change my routine to involve getting dressed and doing!.!.!. errr!.!.!. other things in the shower!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm a chick, but moving into dorms next month!. I would rather we address the situation before it happens because it's better to get those things out, rather then wait for a controversy or issue to arise!. Beside general respect for each other and property, personal preferences are always important to address!. Communication is always key!.
It may not be comfortable, but just be upfront, and like " This works!.!.!. and this I prefer not to see this, etc!."
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It may not be comfortable, but just be upfront, and like " This works!.!.!. and this I prefer not to see this, etc!."
Hope this helpsWww@Answer-Health@Com
You should be up front with your room mate concerning the issues!. You could do two things either wait for the incident to happen then say something about it or say something about it before the incidents happens!. Remember don't be mean about it!. Also if you know your room mate very well and you know for a fact that he does those things, then you should deal with the issues before they become a problem!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yea, I think you should!. I've thought about this for like when I go to college in a couple of years!. If you're gonna live with a guy everyday in the same room, well it's just normal to masturbate, so why should guys pretend that they don't!? Then you'd have to go to the bathroom to masturbate and that's kind of gross!. It's not like you have to masturbate each other but just agree that it's ok if the other guy wants to do it!. Maybe wait for you guys to go to bed so it's dark but just not pretend that you don't do it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm not sure I'd have the conversation unless there was an obvious problem in the first place!.
If you ARE the problem!.!.!. like you wanna walk around naked or something!.!.!. (not that being naked is a problem but you know what i mean)!.!.!. it's a good idea to tell the roommate up front so he can decide if he is comfortable with that BEFORE he moves in!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you ARE the problem!.!.!. like you wanna walk around naked or something!.!.!. (not that being naked is a problem but you know what i mean)!.!.!. it's a good idea to tell the roommate up front so he can decide if he is comfortable with that BEFORE he moves in!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well, it doesn't sound like any conversation I would want to have!.
Are you worried that your roomate is going to use common rooms to do said activities!? Or is it you who want to do that around him/her!? I've had mulitiple roomates over about 8-10 years and this has never been an issue!.!.!.I guess just talk to whomever you're having the problem(s) with!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Are you worried that your roomate is going to use common rooms to do said activities!? Or is it you who want to do that around him/her!? I've had mulitiple roomates over about 8-10 years and this has never been an issue!.!.!.I guess just talk to whomever you're having the problem(s) with!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would think that kind of thing would be a given - you know, dignity and respect!. Has there been a problem with this person!? Maybe he's an exhibitionist!.
Just tell him to close the door - that you don't want to come home to his hand to his wang!:)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just tell him to close the door - that you don't want to come home to his hand to his wang!:)Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you are both sensible, mature people, there really shouldn't be anything to discuss!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't mind having that conversation because I understand these kinds of situations!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
as long you dont say something nasty, they wouldn't think if u trying to be a fag or anything!. so becareful!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Don't talk about that with your roommates, and when they are there or are likely to come!.!.!. don't masturbate, or be naked!.Www@Answer-Health@Com