Why is masturbating feel dirty?!
Question: Why is masturbating feel dirty!?
I am 17 and rarely masturbate but lately I have been wanting too but when I do, after its all finished I feel good but really dirty, like I have done something wrong!. I know its not but how do I get my head around that fact!. I don't masturbate with anything that needs a lot of cleaning and I still feel dirty!. So then I have like an 1 and a half long shower and scrub my hands until I think they are clean!. I have tried wearing gloves, a condom, I have tried using a cloth but nothing makes me feel any better!. I am not religious, I have never been told its bad, it is just something I have put in my head!. Please help!? There has to be some one out there who has over come this problem!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I guarantee you that you have been told it is bad -- possibly when you were very young!. The most common cause of this problem is a child - 2 or 3 -- who discovers his penis and starts playing with it (extremely common) combined with parents who are embarrassed by their child being normal and tells him "no, don't, its bad, its dirty, its!.!.!. fill in the blank!." Then, years later -- tada -- the exact problem you are describing, with no or at best fragmentary memories of the cause!. There are various self-affirming exercises you could do -- but yours is combined with clear OCD -- OCD comes from over zealous toilet training -- which reinforces my theory about your parents, most likely your mother or maternal figure!. Given the combination I suggest that you try self-affirming exercises ("I accept and love my penis, and the good feelings it gives me, and enjoy touching it" - three times a day, while looking at your naked body in the mirror, for example) which may help over a few months -- and a psychiatrist if those exercises don't help!. You do not want to live like this, it is abnormal and harmful to you -- and help is available!.
Kind thoughts,
HermesWww@Answer-Health@Com
Kind thoughts,
HermesWww@Answer-Health@Com
By dirty do you mean unclean, or you think it is wrong for doing!. I think most people feel dirty and guilty after masturbating, its perfectly normal, just wash your hands afterwards!. Religion condemns masturbating, but for no good reasons (and there are none) masturbating is good for you, it has health benefits, it relieves stress, and it feels good!. The majority of the people who do it feel guilty afterwards, but that is normal, there is nothing wrong with making yourself feel good!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
It sounds like you have an OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) where you have convinced yourself that masturbation is 'dirty' and that you need to 'clean' yourself when you are done!.
There are many OCD's!. The one where people compulsively clean is one of the more common ones!.
You need to see a councilor or psychiatrist to work out why you feel this way and how to stop it!.
PS!. Contrary to what Amber said masturbation is NOT a sin!.!.!. in fact it's not even mentioned in the Bible AT ALL!. The 'lay with yourself' thing she said is completely made up and is not in the bible!. Beware of liars!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There are many OCD's!. The one where people compulsively clean is one of the more common ones!.
You need to see a councilor or psychiatrist to work out why you feel this way and how to stop it!.
PS!. Contrary to what Amber said masturbation is NOT a sin!.!.!. in fact it's not even mentioned in the Bible AT ALL!. The 'lay with yourself' thing she said is completely made up and is not in the bible!. Beware of liars!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i don't really know how to overcome it, but you probably feel this way because everyone from little children is always taught to was your hands extra after going to the toilet/touching down there!. (Even though its probably the cleanest part of the body, as its cleaned put under layers of cloths then it comes out for a few mins, then its washed again) So you probably feel dirty because its sort of inbuilt that touching down there is dirty!.
After doing it a bit more it should go away!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
After doing it a bit more it should go away!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
oh honey its okay!. It sounds like youve got a lot of cultural or religious beliefs drilled into you about sex and masturbation!.
Theres nothing wrong with masturbation or sex, and theres no reason to feel ashamed or guilty!. if you start feeling bad about it now you're not going to be able to enjoy sex at all!. So just accept that it feels good and its okay to do it as long as you dont lock yourself in your room and do it for hours and hours and never leave the room!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Theres nothing wrong with masturbation or sex, and theres no reason to feel ashamed or guilty!. if you start feeling bad about it now you're not going to be able to enjoy sex at all!. So just accept that it feels good and its okay to do it as long as you dont lock yourself in your room and do it for hours and hours and never leave the room!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Doing it and all the emotions attached is something everyone experiences, no matter how much they might deny it!. There is nothing to be ashamed of and it's a totally normal part of maturing!. Be worried if you weren't in this situation! BTW,Try doing it in the shower!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I never feel guilty nor dirty when I masturbate!.!.!. its just something in your head!.!.!. believe me nothing to feel dirty aboutWww@Answer-Health@Com
There is nothing to feel guilty or dirty about u masturbating!. so just enjoy it!. Most guys, especially at your age are masturbating all the time and really enjoying itWww@Answer-Health@Com
i feel exactly the same as you , i clean things like my hands and floor untill i think its clean Www@Answer-Health@Com
just ignore it!.Although masturbation is a sin,may be that makes it dirty!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Jasus !!.!.!.it's really not that bad
just let yourself go, then!.!.!.!.!.!.!.
JACK IT TO THE MAX !!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
just let yourself go, then!.!.!.!.!.!.!.
JACK IT TO THE MAX !!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Get rid of that silly thought and have fun dude!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well, just do it with your gf, if you live alone nothing to worry aboutWww@Answer-Health@Com
i feel exactly the same so i dont do it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
do it morWww@Answer-Health@Com
It happens to a lot of people!. Usually because after you masturbate you realize just how wrong it is to do it by yourself!. I knew someone who had the same problem!. You do it, and then you feel ashamed that you've done it!. You realize that if somebody finds out that you do it, they'll disgusted that you do, so you do it more to get rid of the anxiety!. Is something bothering you, and that is why you do it!? Talk to somebody you know you can trust to keep your secret, or talk to your family doctor, counselor, or therapist to get it off your chest!. Talking to to someone helps release the pressure a lot!.
As for the religious part it is a sin in the Bible to lay with just yourself!. Maybe that is why you feel guilty!? If so, just pray for forgiveness, and tell God and Jesus that you need their help, and they will forgive you of the sins you've done and help you move on with your life!.
Hope this helps!.
Later!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
As for the religious part it is a sin in the Bible to lay with just yourself!. Maybe that is why you feel guilty!? If so, just pray for forgiveness, and tell God and Jesus that you need their help, and they will forgive you of the sins you've done and help you move on with your life!.
Hope this helps!.
Later!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm a religious man, and can tell you that the Bible says it is not good!.
The fact is that we as humans know what is good and what not, and the conscience tells us when we don wrong!.!.!. As Religious man, i believe it is the voice of God in man!. *(one simple example> a child will never look into the eyes of the parents when did some wrong, mature ones, try to avoid the people to whom they did injustice)!.
Sexual relationships, are reserved for after marriage!.!.!. (in the normal way, though we are not anymore so!.!.!.)!.
when you start your family life, do not need anymore to masturbate, you'll have your wife!.
The only way to escape gilt and feeling dirty is stopping doing it!
God help you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The fact is that we as humans know what is good and what not, and the conscience tells us when we don wrong!.!.!. As Religious man, i believe it is the voice of God in man!. *(one simple example> a child will never look into the eyes of the parents when did some wrong, mature ones, try to avoid the people to whom they did injustice)!.
Sexual relationships, are reserved for after marriage!.!.!. (in the normal way, though we are not anymore so!.!.!.)!.
when you start your family life, do not need anymore to masturbate, you'll have your wife!.
The only way to escape gilt and feeling dirty is stopping doing it!
God help you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You may not have been told its bad, but over the years you may of heard someone talk about it which has stuck in your head, society brings everyone up to believe its wrong and as you have said it is not bad or wrong it is a very natural thing, you also may feel dirty as again you may have heard or seen somewhere that pleasure is also a bad thing which really it isn't, but if you feel you have gotten pleasure then you feel dirty,if it is bothering you to much you could always go see a sex therapist and ask his/her advice!. hope this has helped it is only my opinion though!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
You need to think of sex as something good and beautiful!. Please read the following, and make sure you read it right through (the beginning is a bit confusing):
http://www!.jackinworld!.com/bios/bio233!.h!.!.!.
It also helps to understand that masturbating is very good for your health; this is from Wikipedia:
"A 1997 study in the British Medical Journal based upon 918 men age 45-59 found that after a ten year follow-up, men who had fewer orgasms were twice as likely to die of any cause as those having two or more orgasms a week!."
Other studies have found that frequent masturbation reduces the risk of prostate cancer - a doctor who studied the evidence recommended that teenagers masturbate at least six times a week!.
This may seem silly - but - try smiling as you do it! Good luck!
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http://www!.jackinworld!.com/bios/bio233!.h!.!.!.
It also helps to understand that masturbating is very good for your health; this is from Wikipedia:
"A 1997 study in the British Medical Journal based upon 918 men age 45-59 found that after a ten year follow-up, men who had fewer orgasms were twice as likely to die of any cause as those having two or more orgasms a week!."
Other studies have found that frequent masturbation reduces the risk of prostate cancer - a doctor who studied the evidence recommended that teenagers masturbate at least six times a week!.
This may seem silly - but - try smiling as you do it! Good luck!
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uhh religion and the media have brainwashed you so much to the point where you think being sexual in any way is bad!. are you gonna let others effect your beliefs!? masterbation is not a bad thing it hurts no one, it might make you a bit perverted but then again what guy isn't
p!.s!. the bible says it is bad not because it's bad to jack off but because of the things you think of when you jack off, premarital sex, and lust!. the religion wants you to keep your mind clean and pure!.
so when you jack it just dont think of anything naughty just go real fast so you don't have time to think of anythingWww@Answer-Health@Com
p!.s!. the bible says it is bad not because it's bad to jack off but because of the things you think of when you jack off, premarital sex, and lust!. the religion wants you to keep your mind clean and pure!.
so when you jack it just dont think of anything naughty just go real fast so you don't have time to think of anythingWww@Answer-Health@Com