What to do about my step-son's Masturbating :S Long, sorry?!
Question: What to do about my step-son's Masturbating :S Long, sorry!?
Sorry this is long!. If you are, have been or have a 13 year old boy, how often do they masturbate (That you're aware of)!? My step-son is doing it up to 10 times between the hours of 3:30pm-9pm!. How can I get him to limit this!?
It isn't just the masturbating that's the problem!. It's also where he's doing it!. I've caught him doing it in the lounge room, bathroom and in the car while we're all in there!!! It's disgusting!. I ask him to brush his teeth at night, and he goes and has a **** instead!.
There is also the issue of!.!.!. My husband and I also have an 8 month old daughter!. My step-son was playing with her the other night, and I noticed that he was almost intentionally holding her against his penis!. Like, he would pick her up and sit her on it, and just make her rub against it!. I kept telling him to just leave her on the floor and eventually he went to bed!. I feel really uncomfortable talking to him about this, because I don't think that I should have to, because he isn't my son, and I am only 9 years older than him!.
I have spoken to my husband about the masturbating all the time, and he defends him saying that it's normal to do it that much at that age, he has spoken to his son about appropriate places to do it though!. I'm worried about speaking to my husband about the issue of our daughter because I don't want him to just defend his son, and turn a blind eye to it, and I don't want to get in an arguement about it because I might be wrong!. It might have been totally innocent of him, and I don't want to wrongly accuse him!. But according to my husband, his son never does anything wrong!.
Another point is that when he is at his mothers house, her boyfriends 7 year old daughter stays there, and she told her mum that my step-son touched her inappropriately!. It was all investigated and turned out to be unsubstantiated, but it still stays in my mind that maybe he did do it, and it just wasn't proven!.
I know that I'm going to need to talk with my husband about this, but I'm not sure about the best way to approach it would be, because it's a very serious issue!. And do I need to talk to him some more about the masturbating, or should I just leave it for now, as long as he does it in his room or in the shower!?
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It isn't just the masturbating that's the problem!. It's also where he's doing it!. I've caught him doing it in the lounge room, bathroom and in the car while we're all in there!!! It's disgusting!. I ask him to brush his teeth at night, and he goes and has a **** instead!.
There is also the issue of!.!.!. My husband and I also have an 8 month old daughter!. My step-son was playing with her the other night, and I noticed that he was almost intentionally holding her against his penis!. Like, he would pick her up and sit her on it, and just make her rub against it!. I kept telling him to just leave her on the floor and eventually he went to bed!. I feel really uncomfortable talking to him about this, because I don't think that I should have to, because he isn't my son, and I am only 9 years older than him!.
I have spoken to my husband about the masturbating all the time, and he defends him saying that it's normal to do it that much at that age, he has spoken to his son about appropriate places to do it though!. I'm worried about speaking to my husband about the issue of our daughter because I don't want him to just defend his son, and turn a blind eye to it, and I don't want to get in an arguement about it because I might be wrong!. It might have been totally innocent of him, and I don't want to wrongly accuse him!. But according to my husband, his son never does anything wrong!.
Another point is that when he is at his mothers house, her boyfriends 7 year old daughter stays there, and she told her mum that my step-son touched her inappropriately!. It was all investigated and turned out to be unsubstantiated, but it still stays in my mind that maybe he did do it, and it just wasn't proven!.
I know that I'm going to need to talk with my husband about this, but I'm not sure about the best way to approach it would be, because it's a very serious issue!. And do I need to talk to him some more about the masturbating, or should I just leave it for now, as long as he does it in his room or in the shower!?
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It sounds to me like he needs some kind of therapy!. He may not be a bad person, but it never hurts to play it safe!. I find it weird that he actually does it in the areas you've mentioned, because his dad should kick the crap out of him for that!. I never heard of anyone at the age doing it in the car, which is disgusting!.
I hope you guys can help him, because his actions just seem to abnormal to ignore it!. I agree with your stance on it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I hope you guys can help him, because his actions just seem to abnormal to ignore it!. I agree with your stance on it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He needs a therapist!. 10 times is out of control!. He has a severe problem and needs help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
wow!!!!
see a therapist before he grows up and rapes little kidsWww@Answer-Health@Com
see a therapist before he grows up and rapes little kidsWww@Answer-Health@Com
Don't be afraid to confront him about things that you think are inappropriate!. Don't accuse him of anything he didn't do - like motivations he may not have, etc - just talk to him about what he is actually doing that needs to stop!.
Tell him that he can have private time in his room or the bathroom with the door shut, but anywhere else is nor appropriate, and if he doesn't stop there will be consequences!. If he does not obey, follow through - ground him or something!.
Tell him that when he's playing with the baby, it's not appropriate to hold her like that; that it's not a big deal but some adults may see it and think the wrong thing!.
The thing with the stepdaughter is something his Mom will have to deal with, unfortunately - whether it is true or not, you weren't there, and you cannot base decisions on something that was discounted!.
And talk to your husband about this course of action!. Ultimately this is his son, but more than that the kid has to know that you guys agree and that what you tell him is what his dad would tell him too!.
It's hard to know if this will help, but sometimes making the matter really clear will help him understand what you have a problem with!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell him that he can have private time in his room or the bathroom with the door shut, but anywhere else is nor appropriate, and if he doesn't stop there will be consequences!. If he does not obey, follow through - ground him or something!.
Tell him that when he's playing with the baby, it's not appropriate to hold her like that; that it's not a big deal but some adults may see it and think the wrong thing!.
The thing with the stepdaughter is something his Mom will have to deal with, unfortunately - whether it is true or not, you weren't there, and you cannot base decisions on something that was discounted!.
And talk to your husband about this course of action!. Ultimately this is his son, but more than that the kid has to know that you guys agree and that what you tell him is what his dad would tell him too!.
It's hard to know if this will help, but sometimes making the matter really clear will help him understand what you have a problem with!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
that boy needs his *** beat!. it's normal for boys to do this!.!.!.but in private!. don't let him near your baby and give the other mom a heads up so she can keep her 7 year old daughter away from her!. i used to have a step son like this!. he was molested and in turn he molested two little children!. i hate to say this, but i couldn't stand that kid!. when he came over for visits, it was such a hassle!. i kept my two daughters within arms reach of me at all times!. good luck to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Its normal for a kid to masturbate!. Just has to be a limit on where he does it at!. Video tape him with your daughter and show it to his dad, don't accuse him or anything yet just let him watch it and see what he says!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Have read the storey carefully:seems to me that this boy himself was victim of abuse:it does not justify his behavior at all:nor with your baby or with the friends daughter,There is a pattern here!.And it should be dealt with!.
The number he masturbates is not such a issue:but the inappropriate places are!.And was his father in the car when he was doing this!?
Think it is high time to see a child psychologist!.And find out the reason behind this
Wishing you a lot of success with this:
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The number he masturbates is not such a issue:but the inappropriate places are!.And was his father in the car when he was doing this!?
Think it is high time to see a child psychologist!.And find out the reason behind this
Wishing you a lot of success with this:
SpaceWww@Answer-Health@Com
your husband is wrong!. your step-sons condition is not "normal"!. no guy masturbates 10 times a day on a regular basis!. while 95% of males do it, 10 times a day is never that common!. It is possible that your step son was sexually abused and his behavior is a manifestation of psychological harm!. And the fact that he has touched other girls inappropriately is even greater evidence of abuse!. If your husband loves you, he would listen to your concern!. In the mean time, just to be safe, keep your innocent baby away from him!. I dont think this boy has bad intentions, but he isnt mentally well and needs treatment!. He may not have been abused at all, but regardless of what may have caused this, he needs help ASAP!.
I wish you well and i hope this helps!. take care
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I wish you well and i hope this helps!. take care
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Seek help for him immediately!. Ten times a day is way to much and the innapropriate touching can lead to something more serious if it is not intervened right away!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That is NEVER right for anyone to ever sexually play with a little girl!.
I'm 13, and I KNOW that he does have a problem!.!.!. please, just talk to him and tell him to NEVER touch your girl again!.
It's not right, nor is it legal!. If anyone sees him playing with a little girl, he can be arrested and put into jail!.
If you do ever catch him abusing your daughter, if I were you, I would call the police!. It's not a joke and it's not funny at all!.
If you don't stop your son from messing with your daughter, your daughter in the future may have MANY SERIOUS MENTAL PROBLEMS!.
Prevent your daughter's life from being ruined!.!.!.
Your husband has the right to know what he's doing, please, don't be afraid!. Protect your daughter!.!.!. if he doesn't stop, your daughter can get crazy when she's older!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm 13, and I KNOW that he does have a problem!.!.!. please, just talk to him and tell him to NEVER touch your girl again!.
It's not right, nor is it legal!. If anyone sees him playing with a little girl, he can be arrested and put into jail!.
If you do ever catch him abusing your daughter, if I were you, I would call the police!. It's not a joke and it's not funny at all!.
If you don't stop your son from messing with your daughter, your daughter in the future may have MANY SERIOUS MENTAL PROBLEMS!.
Prevent your daughter's life from being ruined!.!.!.
Your husband has the right to know what he's doing, please, don't be afraid!. Protect your daughter!.!.!. if he doesn't stop, your daughter can get crazy when she's older!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you could consider a child therapist, there is something going on, maybe he has nothing better to do or doesn't full understand sex
you are taking the place of his mom and as such it is your job to step up and take charge when you need to, stress how it should only be done in moderation and in private
you could try videotaping it to show his dadWww@Answer-Health@Com
you are taking the place of his mom and as such it is your job to step up and take charge when you need to, stress how it should only be done in moderation and in private
you could try videotaping it to show his dadWww@Answer-Health@Com