Trouble with my boyfriend's erection/orgasm -serious answerers only, please!!


Question: Trouble with my boyfriend's erection/orgasm -serious answerers only, please!!?
Ok, here is the deal!. Been seeing this guy, really like him, but!.!.!.!. When we first started having sexual relations (hasn't been that long - only about a month since we first had sex), he was able to orgasm during sex, although he said that I am the first one he could do it with (but he only had one partner before me)!. Took sometime, but still happened!. He still had to masturbate during sex to get there!. Now though he has trouble staying erect and achieving orgasm!. He doesn't have problems getting me there (stays hard for that), but when it comes to him, it's like his system shuts off!. Recently he has just been masturbating himself in the end to achieve orgasm, but even that sometimes doesn't happen!. Obviously when I try to talk to him, he shuts down and says he doesn't want to have that conversation!. This makes me unhappy, even though he says it has nothing to do with me!. Reasons as to what caused it!? Suggestions as to what I should do!? Please!? Really like him, but this is a strain, especially now that I worry that maybe if the relationship progresses he won't be able to conceiveWww@Answer-Health@Com


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Anxiety can be a lot of it!. And once a guy has troubles, we might begin to expect it!.!.!.so it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy!.

It might be something he could discuss with a urologist!.

Also, if he's able to get you to achieve orgasm, but not himself later, it might be linked to the excitement he feels with you before orgasm!.

I would wonder what might happen if you tell him it's cool if he doesn't have one every time!. And, if later, he feels like it, you're willing to help, if he wants!. sometimes just a little time and some relaxation can chill a guy out!.!.!.seems like he really is trying to perform, for you!.

Lie with him, relax, and enjoy that part!. That could help take some pressure off of the performance aspect of sex!. And it just feels nice to be close to the one you love!. Playing the game is more important sometimes than scoring points!. Love is bigger than sex and sexis much bigger than orgasm!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

first of all people who have this problem is either or rather has a diabetis!.
also when a person who had a heart attack and was prescribe by a doctor of
a certain medicine to calm them down does not have any erection anymore, thankful for me i have enjoyed my sex life when we were young!.
now we are just like brother and sister, does your BF has a problem at work maybe over stress!?
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Maybe you should have him go see a healthcare professional!. Maybe the professional can help your boyfriend and yourself out with this situationWww@Answer-Health@Com

This should help, try out this link:
http://paydotcom!.com/r/17967/jdresults/2!.!.!.
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is he using a condom!. the first times i had sex i could not get off while using one!. tried it without one worked fine!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

Do you give him oral!? Maybe that will help!. I hope that you are using condoms!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It sounds like he just may not be totally interested!. Maybe his mind is on something else - another girl - a car he wants to buy - something at work bothering him or it could be a chemical imbalance!. Here's another stickler for you - how would you manage talking him into seeing a doctor to find out what his problem is!? It could be a lost cause - and even though you like him a lot - if he's unwilling to talk about it or do anything about it - it might be time to move on to someone that will appreciate you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It sounds like he thinks his situation is "normal" but you know otherwise!. you should tell him that he should really go to a urologist and have a chat about his sex drive!. this sounds alot like somethings up with his blood levels!. the doctor will do a battery of blood tests like FSH, LH, prolactin levels, and total/free testosterone levels!. google these blood tests and you will better understand the results when he gets checked out!.

he needs a diagnosis and to get better for the sake of himself and his relationships!.

and never compromise on your desires, namely childbearing!. best of luck!.

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also make sure he is taking a good multivitamin and exercising frequently!. guys need to have vitamin c, zinc, unsaturated fats, bioflavinoids, good nutrition, and a decent level of fitness in order to perform satisfactory and beyond!. do these with him and you both will reap benefits!. steer clear of herbal supplements for his problem - they are a waste of money!.
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as the poster said below, diabetes and stress also play a big role too!. good thoughts!. this still reaks of poor blood levels to me though!. make sure not to pressure his performance too!.

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men see it as shameful and embarrasing, but it is for his benefit and there is nothing else to lose to try to get better!. offer to go with him to the appointment and show your support!. but this is pretty important stuff he shouldnt slack off on!. if he still procrastinates on it, you will have to face that he doesnt want to get better and will be a victim to his own problem!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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