How do I encourage my friend to drink less?!
Question: How do I encourage my friend to drink less!?
I have a male friend who's a lot older than me, almost 40!. He drinks nearly every night I think, at home by himself!. I dont think that he sees a problem with it as he doesnt get drunk all the time and just sees it as part of his evening relaxation after work!.
His face is all blotchy though like people get when they drink too much though, and I dont think he can go without his drink!. Even he himself makes comments that he'd like to cut back on drinking and smoking!. When I mention it though it comes out preachy and he takes it as moaning!.
I think his girlfriend doesnt like it but just accepts it!. Im worried that he'll soon experience the effects of his bad diet etc though!.
Does anyone have any ways I can gently encourage him to cut down on his drink or tips I can suggest to him!?
Thanks in advance!Www@Answer-Health@Com
His face is all blotchy though like people get when they drink too much though, and I dont think he can go without his drink!. Even he himself makes comments that he'd like to cut back on drinking and smoking!. When I mention it though it comes out preachy and he takes it as moaning!.
I think his girlfriend doesnt like it but just accepts it!. Im worried that he'll soon experience the effects of his bad diet etc though!.
Does anyone have any ways I can gently encourage him to cut down on his drink or tips I can suggest to him!?
Thanks in advance!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
It is very admirable for you to be concerned about your friend's well being!. But - I doubt there's anything you can say or do that will make a difference!. It must be HIS decision to quit drinking and/or smoking!. He must admit to himself that he has a problem - then seek help to overcome it!. Take it from someone who's alcoholic father drank himself to death at age 60!. Nothing anybody could do would get him to stop!. Preaching, pleading, shaming, scolding, praying, wishing & hoping did no good!. He never did admit to himself he had a problem!. What a waste!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
In my experience, talking to someone about their drinking problem is very difficult!. Many times they will deny that they have a problem!. Because they are in denial, they will not admit that they have a problem!. Even if the person knows that they have a problem, they most likely will not admit it out of shame!. So, talking to them about it can result in an argument!. In my experience, I know that it is very difficult to change someone with this problem - they only change if they want to change!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
unless he wants to change himself, there's nothing you can do about it, it has to start with him and then you can help him anyway you like!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
if they dont want to change, you cant make themWww@Answer-Health@Com
I recently encountered the same thing, what I did was say about the harm is causes this just went whoosh, so i came online and got a quiz asking are you an alcoholic and I did this without saying anything just asked them to answer honestly, I think it was quite an eye opener but so hard when someone is in denial and doesn't believe they have a problem, I still keep mentioning it in a joking way hoping someday it will get through, good luck, perhaps do what I did :) oh and get some info and print it out and show them or relay to them aothough when I did this I still got the 'its not me am fine thing'Www@Answer-Health@Com