He can't last for more than five minutes.?!


Question: He can't last for more than five minutes!.!?
When my guy and I have sex, he can never last for more than five minutes!. More graphically, I mean that he comes very quickly! He tries to hold it, but just like clockwork the act usually only lasts for 5-7 minutes!. We have been together for a number of years (over 5) and I love him very much!. But I'm honestly not getting anything out of the act of having sex from him!. I have not had an orgasm from sex in about 4 years!. Sure, the foreplay is ok!. But sometimes I dread having to have sex with him after, and now it is more like a job than a pleasurable experience! I usually fake it because even after he's done he'll keep going and straining himself, he's still trying to get me one!. Usually he's getting soft anyway so I just fake it and end my misery!. I don't want to make him feel like a loser! He is very sensitive about the subject and gets upset with himself but he can't help it!. But I lie and say, it's ok I came so it's ok!. I don't even want to have sex much anymore, and I've been blaming it on birth control!. My sex drive has gone WAAAY down within these years!. At first it was no big deal but now it is starting to wear on me!. I'm starting to lose a little respect for him!. But honestly what am I getting out of the deal!? I deserve to be satisifed too, you know!? I know that sounds selfish but I have been dealing for a long time!. What should I do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
sex does effect relationship, whether anyone wants to admit it or not, trust me, faking it all the time will eventually make you less attracted to him, and i know for sure he wouldn't appreciate knowing he can't satisfy you, so don't ever bring that up!.!.!.it'll hurt his ego
so if you can't fix him the only thing to do is find ways to help yourself

i'm pretty sure you two are comfortatble with the idea of mutual masterbation!.!.!.or better yet if you two have been together for so long!.!.!.try experimenting with toys!.!.!.to help with clitoral stimulation!.!.!.!.get a little mini vibrator something you can hold in your hands comfortably during sex to give you that extra stimulation!.

pleasuring yourself b4 you two have intercourse will help too!! my bf likes to watch me play with myself (what guy wouldn't like seeing his gf pleasure herself!?) !.!.!.he finds it more arousing if i reach orgasm!.!.!.so i'm happy!.!.!.!.and he's happy because my muscles down there are tense!.!.!.so when he finally sticks it in it's super tight and the sensation will feel just as good for you after you've had an orgasm then intercourse! so even if he does come in 5 mins it shouldn't matterWww@Answer-Health@Com

ive never had this personally but ive heard that sex can become a choir and its hard sometimes but try and stick with it but do new things and maybe try climaxing before he penetrates, you might come then!. and if you still cant get no joy, tell him!. you cant fake it for ever + you need to orgasm once in a while so that you unwind and de-stress! Www@Answer-Health@Com

Instead of penetrating and thrusting at one go and explode at the end of 5 mins, the should do it till he cannot hold it and then stop!. He can then stimulate you with his fingers!. He can then penetrate again and so on!. When you have your orgasm, he can then have his too!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Check out this on PE!.!. i just asked a question simular to yours!.!.!.

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have him take breaks every like 2 minutes, and during those breaks ask him to rub your clit, so that when he goes farther away from climaxing you'll be close enough to climax!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

if you trully love him you will deal with it ,otherwise if it concerns you so bad than leave him but you really didnt love him than Www@Answer-Health@Com

For him:

In general, practice and relaxation will help you deal with the problem!. Some men try to distract themselves by thinking non-sexual thoughts (such as naming baseball players and records) to avoid becoming excited too fast!.

Some helpful techniques include the following:

Masturbate an hour or so before having sex!.

The "stop and start" method:

This technique involves sexual stimulation until the man recognizes that he is about to ejaculate!. The stimulation is then removed for about thirty seconds and then may be resumed!. The sequence is repeated until ejaculation is desired, the final time allowing the stimulation to continue until ejaculation occurs!.

The "squeeze" method:

This technique involves sexual stimulation until the man recognizes that he is about to ejaculate!. At that point, the man or his partner gently squeezes the end of the penis (where the glans meets the shaft) for several seconds, withholding further sexual stimulation for about 30 seconds, and then resuming stimulation!. The sequence may be repeated by the person or couple until ejaculation is desired, the final time allowing the stimulation to continue until ejaculation occurs!.
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i have the same exact problem

and me and my girlfriend overcome this with ease


there is something called a "cock-ring"
it is a tight rubber ring that is supposed to either hold back ejaculation, continue an erection after ejaculation, or a combination of the two
i would suggest visiting your local adult store and talking to the associate working about what type of brand to buy


another option
is to have your partner bring you to orgasm with his hand!. there are multiple web sites on the internet that can show your partner how to if he does not know how


the third option
is to either have your partner or yourself to masturbate him to climax/ejaculation, then have foreplay, and when he is able to have an erection again, he will last significantly longer during sex

(you could also combine option one and three)



you do have a right to seek sexual satisfaction
but it is not right to lie to your partner (faking an orgasm) even if it is for his benefit


i hope i have helped
for you and your partners sake

happy humping :)Www@Answer-Health@Com

The first thing you need to do is figure out why your sex drive is low and try to help get it back!. I was in your situation and it's not fun without being horny and feeling in the mood when needed!. I also felt like my orgasms (if I would even get one) were really weak!. Probably because of my sex drive!.

However, I tried exercising and dieting but nothing seemed to be working!. I thought I was screwed!. I then found something just as amazing as the vibrator!.

My friend at work told me about this stuff she took to raise her sex drive!. It was a natural herbal supplement and was I lucky to of found it!. Theres no side effects and the sex drive is just tremendous along with orgasms that are blasting!. The stuff is called Hersolution pills!. At the time I saved money on them at herenhancement!.com

What I did was tried out for 3 months and that was really it!. I found taking them every other day or so was the best to stretch it out!. After the months were up, I was back to normal with a beating sex drive and my orgasm strength in increased so much!.

Well good luck and I hope this helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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