My husband and our lack of sex life?..How do i get him to be more open in talkin!
Question: My husband and our lack of sex life!?!.!.How do i get him to be more open in talking about this!?
He is almost 44 and im 40 and we have been happily married 17+yrs with no kids!.!.!.We havent made love since late february but we are both still very affectionate with each other with lots of hugs,kisses and lots of cuddling!.!.We get along great,rarely fight,are still very much in love with each other and are totally devoted to each other and our marriage!.!.!.We are both strongly against infidelity so neither 1 of us is cheating and neither 1 of us would ever cheat!.!.!.We have talked numerous times about why we havent done anything but neither 1 has made a move!.!.!.Whenever i bring the subject up to him and ask him why he hasnt tried anything his response is always "why havent you"!.!.!.I guess i havent cause i have been waiting for him!.!.!.During most of our marriage i am the 1 who has intiated the most and of course he is always ready for some "action" and has never said no to me and the times he has initiated i have NEVER said no to him and i never would cause i love making love with him!.!.!.Also when i bring the subject up about not doing anything for how long i have asked him if he hasnt wanted to have sex and he will say "yea i have been wanting to" but yet he makes no attempt and i know i could and should initiate but im still waiting to see how long it takes him to initiate!.!.!.Like i said i have been the 1 who has initiate the most in our marriage!.!.!.What should i do about this situation and why if he has been wanting to do something why doesnt he just intiate something!.
Of course during our marriage he has initiated but i am the 1 who has initiated most of the time and like i said he is always ready and willing and has NEVER turned me down!.
There has been numerous times in our marriage that i have told him that he should initiate more often and he always says he will but nothing has really changed so i dont even bother saying this to him anymore cause i figure why bother if he wont!.
He has always seemed uncomfortable talking about this stuff so its really hard trying to get him to open up!.
We have always had a routine but satisfying sex life but a few times in the past before this current situation started i asked him just out of curiousity NOT cause i thought he was bored if he ever got bored with our sex life and wanted to try something new or different and he has always said "no i like the way things are"
When we met he was 25 and i was 21 and we were both still virgins!.
He has NEVER had erection problems so im sure thats not the problem!.
He has no stress in his life work is going great!.!.!.He is not depressed or taking any medicines!.!.!.He is always happy-go lucky!.
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Of course during our marriage he has initiated but i am the 1 who has initiated most of the time and like i said he is always ready and willing and has NEVER turned me down!.
There has been numerous times in our marriage that i have told him that he should initiate more often and he always says he will but nothing has really changed so i dont even bother saying this to him anymore cause i figure why bother if he wont!.
He has always seemed uncomfortable talking about this stuff so its really hard trying to get him to open up!.
We have always had a routine but satisfying sex life but a few times in the past before this current situation started i asked him just out of curiousity NOT cause i thought he was bored if he ever got bored with our sex life and wanted to try something new or different and he has always said "no i like the way things are"
When we met he was 25 and i was 21 and we were both still virgins!.
He has NEVER had erection problems so im sure thats not the problem!.
He has no stress in his life work is going great!.!.!.He is not depressed or taking any medicines!.!.!.He is always happy-go lucky!.
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In all the years you all have been together - it has been the same old same old!. Why would he want to buy new shoes when the old ones are prefectly comfortable!? Why, after all these years are you wishing HE would intitiate the spark when most of the time in the past it has been YOU that started the ball rolling!. You said he's willing but he's not a self starter!. He likes it better & is willing to participate when you start the iginition!. What, pray tell, is the problem!? As long as the end results are the same - I can't figure out where the problem lies!. I realize you wish it were the other way around - but it's not - so - now what!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
17+yrs with no kids may be the problem!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
maybe u should dress a little bit sexy in ur house especially when he's around!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com