My boyfriend cant " last" its so annoying!?!
Question: My boyfriend cant " last" its so annoying!!?
okay so my boyfriend is 20
and everytime we have sex he lasts about 5 minutes before ejucatlating!. even if we have sex!.!. wait an hour or so and do it again , he cant last!. hes always apoologizing and such and i pretend like its no big deal cus i feel bad but hontesly OMG !.
so we have been together for 3 years now and we decided to try a few times without condoms and seriously he cant even last that long now cus more sensation i guess!.
i really am in love with this guy
and seriously see myself marrying him in a few years!.
what can i do to change this
omg!? i cant have sex like this forever!.!.
it doesnt last!Www@Answer-Health@Com
and everytime we have sex he lasts about 5 minutes before ejucatlating!. even if we have sex!.!. wait an hour or so and do it again , he cant last!. hes always apoologizing and such and i pretend like its no big deal cus i feel bad but hontesly OMG !.
so we have been together for 3 years now and we decided to try a few times without condoms and seriously he cant even last that long now cus more sensation i guess!.
i really am in love with this guy
and seriously see myself marrying him in a few years!.
what can i do to change this
omg!? i cant have sex like this forever!.!.
it doesnt last!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
First of all, as others have said, 5 minutes is probably above average for a 20 year old!.
If you're going to marry this guy, you have a long time to work things out!. I'd suggest getting the book 'the multi orgasmic man'!. It has the exercises for him and you two as a couple that can help you out!. In the mean time, a few ideas/thoughts:
- Stress either makes men impotent !.!.!. or finish fast!. If he's worried about NOT finishing, he'll finish sooner!. Try to take the pressure off!. Let him know that _in the long run_ you'd like him to learn to last longer, but on any given day, he needs to relax and not worry about it!. Figure out how he CAN get you off so that there's less pressure!. I mean, have you not heard of oral!? It may not be your favourite, but it will take some pressure off and increase the chance of you finishing during sex!.
- Oral for you till you are closer, then sex !.!.!. if you can't get to a point where you're within 5 minutes of orgasming, I gotta question what you're doing in bed!. Make sure you're using a position for sex that either rubs his body against your clit, or use a rear entry position and have one of you manually stimulate your clit!.
- Most guys last longer if the woman is on top!. He can relax, breathe slow, and lack of thrusting all will let him last somewhat longer!.
- Slow deep thrusts work best for my wife and I!. She seems more depth-sensitive then me, I'm more speed-senstive then her, so when I'm trying to hold off and get her along, I move slow, but very long deep strokes!.
- If you're 20, I'd suggest an hour is too long to wait if you're hoping to have him last longer!. Try 15 minutes later!. try as soon as he can get erect again!.
- Initiate, don't wait for him to initiate!. When he initiates, he's allready turned on!. He's allready ahead of you! You think about sex, then go jump on him!. He'll have more of a 'cold start' so to speak!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you're going to marry this guy, you have a long time to work things out!. I'd suggest getting the book 'the multi orgasmic man'!. It has the exercises for him and you two as a couple that can help you out!. In the mean time, a few ideas/thoughts:
- Stress either makes men impotent !.!.!. or finish fast!. If he's worried about NOT finishing, he'll finish sooner!. Try to take the pressure off!. Let him know that _in the long run_ you'd like him to learn to last longer, but on any given day, he needs to relax and not worry about it!. Figure out how he CAN get you off so that there's less pressure!. I mean, have you not heard of oral!? It may not be your favourite, but it will take some pressure off and increase the chance of you finishing during sex!.
- Oral for you till you are closer, then sex !.!.!. if you can't get to a point where you're within 5 minutes of orgasming, I gotta question what you're doing in bed!. Make sure you're using a position for sex that either rubs his body against your clit, or use a rear entry position and have one of you manually stimulate your clit!.
- Most guys last longer if the woman is on top!. He can relax, breathe slow, and lack of thrusting all will let him last somewhat longer!.
- Slow deep thrusts work best for my wife and I!. She seems more depth-sensitive then me, I'm more speed-senstive then her, so when I'm trying to hold off and get her along, I move slow, but very long deep strokes!.
- If you're 20, I'd suggest an hour is too long to wait if you're hoping to have him last longer!. Try 15 minutes later!. try as soon as he can get erect again!.
- Initiate, don't wait for him to initiate!. When he initiates, he's allready turned on!. He's allready ahead of you! You think about sex, then go jump on him!. He'll have more of a 'cold start' so to speak!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try suggesting to him to withdraw when he feels an orgasm impending and just continue caressing and kissing you until it subsides slightly then reenter you!. As he learns to be able control his PC mucles, he'll be able to last longer!. Don't stop having sex for so long, but just during intercourse have him stop a short time and continue!. Hope this helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
2-5 minutes is the average a guy normally lasts!. Your bf is on the high end of average!. The only problem the two of you have is your technique - both of you - because of your ages and experience!. There really isn't a problem here!. And there's certainly nothing wrong with your bf!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
YOU need to learn better foreplay!. Guys last longer if you know how they work! Sex isn't all about YOU but, your partner too!Www@Answer-Health@Com
He's 20!. He's in his sexual prime!. It happens!. If you love him like you say you do, deal with it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm sorry to hear that!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!. :\Www@Answer-Health@Com
When he gets close he needs 2 stop; just kiss or he can continue 2 stimulate u start again, repeat!. It will take time but might help!. Also, he might be concentrating on himself to much!. Tell him to try focusing on pleasing you!. I have had only 1 girl that I sometimes had to focus a lot more on her then myself that
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