Am I mentally mature for a 15 year old male?!
Question: Am I mentally mature for a 15 year old male!?
I may seem naive to you, especially since this is over the internet and you know virtually nothing about me, but I'll try to explain this as much as possible for obvious reasons!.
I'm 15, bi-racial with Chinese and various European countries (though classified as White American), I've been to over 20 countries, all with leaning experiences!. I've mainly been under the influence of Asian, Arab, and American people but I've mixed, learned, and got along with every race out there!.
I was born in Saudi Arabia and lived in the middle east for 8 years!. I now live in Texas!. I know what's "out there" as many people claim I do not!. I know the world has a lot of bad people out there, and bad as hell I mean!. I know that life isn't a walk in the park and I'm kidding myself if I were to think I'd be a succesful man in seconds by my own self, but one can fantasize!.
I don't mix with the kids at my school because they have crap for brains and I do not like to joke around about sex ie; "Mt!. Everest" (referring to male sexual organ)!. I think it's horrendously stupid and I do not agree with the way these kids think!.
They are not nice to me because I'm "different" but I know not to care or get into a fight with them!. Other kids who seem to like me, I still do not like because they are posers and they too are immature!. I only get along with a limited amount of people!.
I know that my mom is right 95% of the time when I do something wrong!. I acknowledge the fact that I am wrong and what I do as a teenager is wrong ie; Don't like to do my studies, get distracted on the internet, ect!.
I can act "mature" if needed, though I understand that at age 15 I am growing and I cannot stop my hormones no matter what!. I only like girls at least 2 years or older because I cannot stand being in a relationship with an inexperienced only-make-out kind of girl!. And I tend to be attracted to women who have a cultural background and have traveled quite a bit!.
In the sole fact that I am curious, based on what you have just now read, could you deter whether I am considered "mature" or at least "mature for my age"!?
And if it is not too much, could you also deter on whether I could be in a stable relationship with women older than me!?
I guarantee the 10 points to anyone who can answer me well, whether you aim to comment or criticize!. Thank you in advance, assuming you actually read all that and answered!.
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I'm 15, bi-racial with Chinese and various European countries (though classified as White American), I've been to over 20 countries, all with leaning experiences!. I've mainly been under the influence of Asian, Arab, and American people but I've mixed, learned, and got along with every race out there!.
I was born in Saudi Arabia and lived in the middle east for 8 years!. I now live in Texas!. I know what's "out there" as many people claim I do not!. I know the world has a lot of bad people out there, and bad as hell I mean!. I know that life isn't a walk in the park and I'm kidding myself if I were to think I'd be a succesful man in seconds by my own self, but one can fantasize!.
I don't mix with the kids at my school because they have crap for brains and I do not like to joke around about sex ie; "Mt!. Everest" (referring to male sexual organ)!. I think it's horrendously stupid and I do not agree with the way these kids think!.
They are not nice to me because I'm "different" but I know not to care or get into a fight with them!. Other kids who seem to like me, I still do not like because they are posers and they too are immature!. I only get along with a limited amount of people!.
I know that my mom is right 95% of the time when I do something wrong!. I acknowledge the fact that I am wrong and what I do as a teenager is wrong ie; Don't like to do my studies, get distracted on the internet, ect!.
I can act "mature" if needed, though I understand that at age 15 I am growing and I cannot stop my hormones no matter what!. I only like girls at least 2 years or older because I cannot stand being in a relationship with an inexperienced only-make-out kind of girl!. And I tend to be attracted to women who have a cultural background and have traveled quite a bit!.
In the sole fact that I am curious, based on what you have just now read, could you deter whether I am considered "mature" or at least "mature for my age"!?
And if it is not too much, could you also deter on whether I could be in a stable relationship with women older than me!?
I guarantee the 10 points to anyone who can answer me well, whether you aim to comment or criticize!. Thank you in advance, assuming you actually read all that and answered!.
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Answers:
You sound like a young man with more experience in the world than most of your fellows at school!. It sounds like you choose your friends carefully, and are impatient with shallowness or superficial appearances!. You know enough not to blame all your problems on other people!. It's not surprising that you like older girls, since you are discerning in your friendships!. I don't know if I want to advise you to seek relationships with "older women" - there are probably some girls close to your age, maybe a little older, they you could get on with very well!.
I don't have enough information or experience to determine whether you're mature for your age!. Maybe you should ask a familiar adult who you trust and who knows you, like a teacher, counselor, or church minister!. I can say you sound like a young man with lots of potential who wants to make something of himself and be the best you can be!.
It's normal to really like only a few people!. Maybe a lesson from my own life can help you!. Up until the middle of high school I was very sensitive to other's comments!. I had maybe one or two friends, they were kind of outcasts like me!. I resolved in my junior year to let all insults and put-downs to slide off my back, to just go with the flow and not worry that I didn't always fit in!. Being less sensitive, I developed a sense of humor and the teasing died down because they couldn't get a rise out of me!. I spent the next three years as a sort of chameleon, taking on the colors of the society around me and blending into the background!. When I got into junior college I met some more mature people and formed some genuine friendships that are lifelong, close relationships!. This is just what my mother had predicted when I was going through hard times!. Perhaps you can view the society of kids that you don't fit in with as just like another society with its own rules, like others that you've learned to adapt to!. You could maybe figure out the rules that will help you blend in and be overlooked if not embraced!.
One final thing I noticed!. Check out the definitions of "deter" and "determine"!. I don't think "deter" means what you think it means!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't have enough information or experience to determine whether you're mature for your age!. Maybe you should ask a familiar adult who you trust and who knows you, like a teacher, counselor, or church minister!. I can say you sound like a young man with lots of potential who wants to make something of himself and be the best you can be!.
It's normal to really like only a few people!. Maybe a lesson from my own life can help you!. Up until the middle of high school I was very sensitive to other's comments!. I had maybe one or two friends, they were kind of outcasts like me!. I resolved in my junior year to let all insults and put-downs to slide off my back, to just go with the flow and not worry that I didn't always fit in!. Being less sensitive, I developed a sense of humor and the teasing died down because they couldn't get a rise out of me!. I spent the next three years as a sort of chameleon, taking on the colors of the society around me and blending into the background!. When I got into junior college I met some more mature people and formed some genuine friendships that are lifelong, close relationships!. This is just what my mother had predicted when I was going through hard times!. Perhaps you can view the society of kids that you don't fit in with as just like another society with its own rules, like others that you've learned to adapt to!. You could maybe figure out the rules that will help you blend in and be overlooked if not embraced!.
One final thing I noticed!. Check out the definitions of "deter" and "determine"!. I don't think "deter" means what you think it means!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I hate to say this, but what it comes down to is that you are very arrogant!. It's probably just a front for your deep feelings of insecurity!. Drop the front, and be a normal 15 year old!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You sound like a guy at my old school!.
He was a dick!. Stuck up and thought the world revolved around him!.
Harsh but true!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He was a dick!. Stuck up and thought the world revolved around him!.
Harsh but true!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
With all due respect you sound somewhat like I used to and no, you have a lot of learning to do!. You are trying to act the way you think you should or to attain a certain model!. Trust me live your life and be honest to yourself!. I am a fairly succesfull well educated person who has finally learned that life is about having fun - not living up to standards!. But you sound intelligent and I know you will "get it" in the long run!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hmmm!.!.!. Interesting question!.
To answer thoroughly I would have to know you much better than I do!.
From what you have written however, I think that you are very intelligent and very experienced -- but that you also try too hard!.
Life is really all about caring about all the other people, about community and love and hope!. Openness and friendliness and determination!.
You are trying to be mature -- it is your mantra!. You are sacrificing having friends and having a good life as a result -- I think!.
TO ME (not to anyone else) that does not seem mature or immature - either one!. Instead, it seems sad!.
Life is wonderful!. I was (and I hope am) smart too -- but I never had any need to prove anything!. I was friends with everyone and graduated most popular male in my class (which for an out-gay male in a rural district, 20 years ago -- was uncommon at best)!. I was able to be the person I was, and the person I am -- and to succeed in life, not because I was mature (although I was) but because I didn't care whether I was or not - I cared about people -- ALL PEOPLE -- even those that didn't care about me!. I loved and nurtured anyone who would allow it -- and even the most virulent homophobes quickly stopped being homophobic about me once they knew me!. To be honest, they still do!.
I suppose that by the standards of society you are very mature -- and I understand that to be very important to you -- but don't give up life, embrace it (ALL OF IT -- EVEN THE IMMATURE PARTS)!.
I wrote my first "political letter" to the local paper when I was 11 (it was published), but I also played with toys and played sports!. I read at the college level in 7th grade -- but I also wrestled my friends for hours!.!.!.!. It doesn't have to be one or the other -- and I think I sense that your need to be mature is coupled with a deep seated insecurity about a lack of connection, and MUTUAL lack of understanding with those who are not mature!.
You can do better -- and you can make a difference!.
You are wonderful just as you are -- but there is a corollary to that -- so are they!
Kindest thoughts with peace and love,
HermesWww@Answer-Health@Com
To answer thoroughly I would have to know you much better than I do!.
From what you have written however, I think that you are very intelligent and very experienced -- but that you also try too hard!.
Life is really all about caring about all the other people, about community and love and hope!. Openness and friendliness and determination!.
You are trying to be mature -- it is your mantra!. You are sacrificing having friends and having a good life as a result -- I think!.
TO ME (not to anyone else) that does not seem mature or immature - either one!. Instead, it seems sad!.
Life is wonderful!. I was (and I hope am) smart too -- but I never had any need to prove anything!. I was friends with everyone and graduated most popular male in my class (which for an out-gay male in a rural district, 20 years ago -- was uncommon at best)!. I was able to be the person I was, and the person I am -- and to succeed in life, not because I was mature (although I was) but because I didn't care whether I was or not - I cared about people -- ALL PEOPLE -- even those that didn't care about me!. I loved and nurtured anyone who would allow it -- and even the most virulent homophobes quickly stopped being homophobic about me once they knew me!. To be honest, they still do!.
I suppose that by the standards of society you are very mature -- and I understand that to be very important to you -- but don't give up life, embrace it (ALL OF IT -- EVEN THE IMMATURE PARTS)!.
I wrote my first "political letter" to the local paper when I was 11 (it was published), but I also played with toys and played sports!. I read at the college level in 7th grade -- but I also wrestled my friends for hours!.!.!.!. It doesn't have to be one or the other -- and I think I sense that your need to be mature is coupled with a deep seated insecurity about a lack of connection, and MUTUAL lack of understanding with those who are not mature!.
You can do better -- and you can make a difference!.
You are wonderful just as you are -- but there is a corollary to that -- so are they!
Kindest thoughts with peace and love,
HermesWww@Answer-Health@Com