Okay So I have this feeling...?!
Question: Okay So I have this feeling!.!.!.!?
that one of my friends are gay!. (I am and would like to know if he is)!. If been having dreams about him off and on the past few months!. He likes to shop alot, he is a singer, and he is very Feminine!. He used to deny it all the time and when I used to text him alot he said it was "weird to have a guy texting him so much!." He doesn't have girlfriends and he just reeks of homosexuality!.!.!.!.how should I go about letting him know I have a thing for him!? Without freaking him out of course!.!.!.!.!.
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Sometimes just having these strong feelings will mask other signs that he may not be gay and although you see all those pointers that could be , you do not see others that may mean he is straight
If you see this guy around school and talk to him , you need to find any common interests and try and get a more friendly relationship and therefore get to know him a lot better
yes it would be a mistake to just tell him that you have feelings for him , and you need to prepare the ground first by getting more of a close friendship and trust
It is always difficult at this age when you know that you are gay but do not yet have confiding to let other know so it is best to take things slowly
In the meantime there is certainly nothing wrong about fantasising about him whilst you dream Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you see this guy around school and talk to him , you need to find any common interests and try and get a more friendly relationship and therefore get to know him a lot better
yes it would be a mistake to just tell him that you have feelings for him , and you need to prepare the ground first by getting more of a close friendship and trust
It is always difficult at this age when you know that you are gay but do not yet have confiding to let other know so it is best to take things slowly
In the meantime there is certainly nothing wrong about fantasising about him whilst you dream Www@Answer-Health@Com
my two best friends are gay and please take no offense to this but gays can spot gays!. So I think your inclination is correct!. He is just having a little difficulty admitting it!. Maybe it's just harder for him to be open about it!. I'm pretty sure that he wouldn't have a problem with you sitting down and seriously talking to him!. I would get him to admit that he was gay before you "hit on him"!. I wouldn't be like, look i know you are gay, and i've got a thing for you!. Like I said, get him to admit to you that he is gay and then later (even if it is later in the conversation) I would just be honest and tell him that you have a thing for him!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
He may not be ready to recognize his sexuality; or he may simply be a straight man with some feminine traits - that's not uncommon!.
Your main problem is your sexual interest in him!. Even if he was gay, he might not return your feelings!. Not every gay man is attracted to every other one!.
So I would back off and leave him alone!. If something develops it must be at his speed, not yours!.
Find some other guys who are interested in you, and stop worrying about him/texting him!. Maybe if you give him some space, he'll end up missing you; maybe not!. Either way, what you are doing now is not healthy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your main problem is your sexual interest in him!. Even if he was gay, he might not return your feelings!. Not every gay man is attracted to every other one!.
So I would back off and leave him alone!. If something develops it must be at his speed, not yours!.
Find some other guys who are interested in you, and stop worrying about him/texting him!. Maybe if you give him some space, he'll end up missing you; maybe not!. Either way, what you are doing now is not healthy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Does he know you're gay!? If not, you might try broaching the subject by telling him!. If he already knows you might ask him directly if he's gay!. If he says he's not then leave it alone, he's not ready to come out!. Just continue being his friend and channel your romantic feelings elsewhere!. Of course you could also just ask him out on a date and see what his reaction is!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would just be very polite and ask him!.My son is gay and he has alot of respect for peoples feelings but he can usually spot a gay person pretty well!.Wishing you luck !.Www@Answer-Health@Com
probly but wats the big deal!? if hes a cool guy it shouldnt matter right!?Www@Answer-Health@Com