Why is he so upset with me?!


Question: Why is he so upset with me!?
I was in a 4 year relationship with my ex boyfriend!. We broke up in August as he is in a dangerous gang, i couldn't take it anymore!. We have some of the same friends and whenever we some of my friends go for a night out and he's there with friends i try keep my distance from him and leave but he follows me out to 'talk'!. although i still love for him i know i did the right thing!. Anyway whenever im dancing he never takes his eyes off me, and gets pissed at me and calls me names!. He gets into my face alot, he grabs my arm if i walk away!. My friends are under the impression he is pissed off because am trying to move on!. They also think part of the reason he is angry is because he screwed up badly and he doesn't want anyone else to have me!. would that be true!?!.I feel intimidated by him!. He keeps telling me he wants me back!.he wont back off me!.
Please give me some advice if you can, thank you so much


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It will take him awhile before you can go around him & have him be ok around you!. You won't be safe around him until he's over you & it doesn't sound like that's going to happen any time soon!.

You have to be very clear with what you say, how you say it & your body language!. Your being timid may come across as playing coy!. Think about a woman acting coy & how that looks & think about a woman being timid because they're scare & how that appears!. The 2 very different actions can sometimes be confused!. If your scared- you still have to stand up & be herd!.

It sounds like it's time to find new locations to hang out/dance at!. Maybe it wouldn't hurt to take a break from your current scene until it's safe (6 months or more)!.

It's restraining order time when you rearrange your life to not go around him & he shows up everywhere you are/go!. It's better to be safe & alive than worried about hurting someones feelings!.

Whether he screwed up or not that was his responsibility not yours- don't be the victim!. I didn't hear you say a word about no longer taking part in gang activities or has done _______ to turn his life around!. Therefore, the same issues are present that lead to the break up!.

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let him know what's up! ask him straight up what's more important - you, or some gang he's in!. you'll find out real quick where his head and priorities are, and that should tell you a lot about your future together!. last thing to remember is that actions speak louder than words, so if he says some nice stuff just get you back, but keeps in his old habits, than you know what to do!. good luck hope all works out the way you want!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

you did the right thing!.!.!. stay out of the clubs now,,, then you won't be running into him!.!.!. good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com

He's angry because he cares about you and still loves you :)
He still has feeling for you, but do you still have feelings for him!? You need to talk with him (if you already haven't) about why it simply can't work out as boyfriend and girlfriend, be clear and stand your ground!. Don't keep your distance from him and avoid him, that would anger anybody! At least try and be mutual, just say hello and ask how he is - be polite, you know!?
But I think it's most wise to sit him down and speak with him so he knows where you stand, perhaps he thinks you're just trying to tease him by dancing in front of him!.!.!.
You can do it !

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