Is there a chance he will forgive me?!
Question: Is there a chance he will forgive me!?
I am 25 and my husband is 28, we have been married for 4 years!. I am crazy about him in every way as is he!. About 2 months ago i made the biggest mistake of my life, i had a one night stand!.I have been under a lot of stress lately as my dad is being released from jail & wants to be part of my life(he is very dangerous) i don't want anything to do with him and i lost a baby in September!. I told my husband about it myself & he let rip at me which is understandable he also hit me across the face in a act of rage(his only time to do it) but said he never wants to lose me!. I have been regretting it & kicking myself over it & am doing everything to win his trust back!. He can bearly touch me anymore & wont hold my hand let alone have a proper conversation with me if is does say something to me he yells, although he still sleeps with me when he feels like it!. If he cant even talk to me then why is he sleeping with me!? He is the only stable man i have in my life as my dad has been in jail since i was a child & my mother died of an overdose when i was 16, so he has always been there for me and i owe him everything, i need him!. i have taking full responsibility for what i have done!.
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Answers:
I think you need to sit down and have a calm, but open and honest conversation with him!. Start off by saying just that: it needs to remain civil, you're adults and you shouldn't have a yelling match!.
Don't give him your excuses for cheating, I'm sorry but there is no excuse!. He should not have hit you!.!.!. that's never OK!. You need to say "I absolutely know what I did was wrong, and there's no excuse and I feel terrible for putting you through this, but you should never hit me!." Hurting someone emotionally is no excuse to hurt someone physically, and him hitting you could cause some underlying problems for you being afraid he'll do it again!.
Tell him that if he wants to be with you, he has to make up his mind!. You can only be forgiven if he's willing to forgive!. And it's an all or nothing deal, he can't say he forgives you, but still act resentful!.
Do not let him use you for sex until you get this all out in the open!.
I sincerely hope that you can work this out, but if things don't change after you have this conversation unfortunately you may have to have a conversation about getting a divorce :-(
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Don't give him your excuses for cheating, I'm sorry but there is no excuse!. He should not have hit you!.!.!. that's never OK!. You need to say "I absolutely know what I did was wrong, and there's no excuse and I feel terrible for putting you through this, but you should never hit me!." Hurting someone emotionally is no excuse to hurt someone physically, and him hitting you could cause some underlying problems for you being afraid he'll do it again!.
Tell him that if he wants to be with you, he has to make up his mind!. You can only be forgiven if he's willing to forgive!. And it's an all or nothing deal, he can't say he forgives you, but still act resentful!.
Do not let him use you for sex until you get this all out in the open!.
I sincerely hope that you can work this out, but if things don't change after you have this conversation unfortunately you may have to have a conversation about getting a divorce :-(
Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
Well!.!.!. first of all I do not think it is right that he hit you!. But, have you talked to him about this!? Maybe you should try to tell him how you are feeling!. I really hope that you work this out!!! Good luck :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Actually, you shouldn't forgive him for hitting you!Www@Answer-Health@Com
whyd u even do the one night stand newayz!? if u wanted to have s3x then u should of told him u wanted s3x!. or get him in the mood!. think about ur morals!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
there's always a chance, even a good chanceWww@Answer-Health@Com
He should forgive you, I know why he hasnt been touching you though its probably him thinking about the other man touching you!. Thats all I would be able to think about if my girlfriend told me that!. If he is a nice guy hell get over it!. He cant blame you for cheating on him after all 21 is a young age to get married!. I hope things work out between you two!. May God be with you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He sleeps with you because he is a man and he has desires which override his feelings towards you at this time!.
His sexual urges must be released and you are available to do that!.
He sounds like he is either in shock and has not decided what to do about it;
or he has made a decision to get rid of you when it is convenient for him!.
You have betrayed him and like most of us he is hurt and probably quite a bit selfish about it all!.
Were he to forgive you then he would tell you so!.
if he does not even talk to you then he is still carrying his resentment!.
Don't give up hope that he will forgive you but it would not hurt to put some trust in God instead of all your trust in him!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
His sexual urges must be released and you are available to do that!.
He sounds like he is either in shock and has not decided what to do about it;
or he has made a decision to get rid of you when it is convenient for him!.
You have betrayed him and like most of us he is hurt and probably quite a bit selfish about it all!.
Were he to forgive you then he would tell you so!.
if he does not even talk to you then he is still carrying his resentment!.
Don't give up hope that he will forgive you but it would not hurt to put some trust in God instead of all your trust in him!.Www@Answer-Health@Com