Stressing over circumcision decision?!
Question: Stressing over circumcision decision!?
My husband and I are at odds!.
He feels VERY strongly that our son must be circumcised!. I am due to give birth in a couple of weeks and up until now I was dead set against it and I had decided that my say goes period and it's not going to be done!.
Well, I don't want to drive a wedge in my marriage and I don't want to deny my husband the right to make decisions about his son but I also don't want to give my son a surgery that isn't necessary, but he feels SO strongly about it!.
I'm agonizing!. I just want to make the right choice for my baby and I don't want to make a choice based on cosmetics or myths!. Of course, I also don't want to make a choice based on fear mongering propaganda!.
HELP!Www@Answer-Health@Com
He feels VERY strongly that our son must be circumcised!. I am due to give birth in a couple of weeks and up until now I was dead set against it and I had decided that my say goes period and it's not going to be done!.
Well, I don't want to drive a wedge in my marriage and I don't want to deny my husband the right to make decisions about his son but I also don't want to give my son a surgery that isn't necessary, but he feels SO strongly about it!.
I'm agonizing!. I just want to make the right choice for my baby and I don't want to make a choice based on cosmetics or myths!. Of course, I also don't want to make a choice based on fear mongering propaganda!.
HELP!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
We have been there!!! You have to decide the pro's and con's of this!. You didn't give any con's besides not wanting to make a wrong decision!. Not telling you what to do, but please take your man's side of this issue!. Not to step on your toes, but your not a man and don't know what it's like!. We guys grow up with other guys who are or are not cut, we have seen the pro's and con's and in my opinion being cut is much cleaner, safer and healthier!. Yes it is hard to have that done to your baby, or at least it was for us, but my wife trusted me that we were making the right decision!. And I still do stand behind my choice!. If you still feel really strongly about not having it done please talk to your man and talk about through and through, yes if you don't give your man the time of day to defend his opinion it will be with ya'll for the rest of time!. To me there was no greater joy than us having a boy, a little me!. I bet your man feels the same way!. Please don't believe much of what you read on the internet about being cut, about cutting the most sensitive part of the penis off!. (most guys on the internet gripping that they had lost the most sensitive parts, they don't know because they never had them, and the guys who are cut don't know how sensitive cut guys are) If it's done right by a doctor with years experience cut boys will lose close to none of there most sensitive parts!. I was done well, and also the doctor did great job on my son!.
Hope this helped!.!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hope this helped!.!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
NEVER get your son circumcised! I am a 14 year old Canadian male and I am not circumcised and I am SO HAPPY about it! I love my foreskin and if someone robbed it from me, I would sue them!. Your husband is probably circumcised himself and is ignorant about foreskin, so he does NOT know any better, just because he suffered circumcision does not mean your son has to damn it! NEVER circumcise!. I am so serious about this do not cut your son's foreskin!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I agree with you!. Don't let them give your son a circumsicion!. It is an unecceary surgey!.
Every boy/man deservis the right to make that decision on his own, unless there is a health problem that developes with his penis before he is old enough to make his own decisions!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Every boy/man deservis the right to make that decision on his own, unless there is a health problem that developes with his penis before he is old enough to make his own decisions!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It should be every males right to decide for himself whether to be circumcised or not!.
I am not against circumcision, as such!. What I am against is it being preformed on people with out their expressed consent or knowledge!
If I were you, I would tell my husband that our son will not be circumcised unless HE chooses to be!. And that means waiting until he is old enough to make that decision!.
Check out this question I posted some time ago about the right to choose:
http://answers!.yahoo!.com/question/index;!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am not against circumcision, as such!. What I am against is it being preformed on people with out their expressed consent or knowledge!
If I were you, I would tell my husband that our son will not be circumcised unless HE chooses to be!. And that means waiting until he is old enough to make that decision!.
Check out this question I posted some time ago about the right to choose:
http://answers!.yahoo!.com/question/index;!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Convincing a circumcised father-to-be that his son does not need to be circumcised is a difficult task, but are a LOT of resources out there which could change his mind!.
Tell him you feel strongly about this issue too, and that you want to research it together!. The below links may open his eyes to how unnecessary the procedure is!.
This blog was written by a father, so your husband might be able to relate to it more:
http://www!.viewofcircumcision!.blogspot!.c!.!.!.
Check out Mothering!.com's forums for more insight and help from other moms on this issue:
http://www!.mothering!.com/discussions/for!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell him you feel strongly about this issue too, and that you want to research it together!. The below links may open his eyes to how unnecessary the procedure is!.
This blog was written by a father, so your husband might be able to relate to it more:
http://www!.viewofcircumcision!.blogspot!.c!.!.!.
Check out Mothering!.com's forums for more insight and help from other moms on this issue:
http://www!.mothering!.com/discussions/for!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
ask him why he feels strongly- most doctors advise against it now days unless it's for religious reasons!. ask the doctor while your son is there!. i got my son done and i regret it so much and both my fiance andd i agreed that if we have another son i will not do it again!. even the doctor who performed it tried to get me to change my mind but i was too stupid to listen- tell him that it should be his son's choice and if he really wants it done then he can do it when he is older!. 50% of boys today are left intact in the US and 80% world wide!.
risks for circumcision are: infection resulting in amputation, erectile dysfunction, too tight of foreskin causing sensitivity and pain, too tight of forekin resulting in hair growth on penis, too tight of foreskin resulting in a crooked or leaning penis, disrupting the potential growth in the penisWww@Answer-Health@Com
risks for circumcision are: infection resulting in amputation, erectile dysfunction, too tight of foreskin causing sensitivity and pain, too tight of forekin resulting in hair growth on penis, too tight of foreskin resulting in a crooked or leaning penis, disrupting the potential growth in the penisWww@Answer-Health@Com
You are right in your stance to not have your son circumcised!. It is not a harmless procedure as there are complications that show up later when your son is a teenager!. You are growing a perfect baby in your womb,!.!.!.why would anyone want to cut parts off him!?
There is no medical reason for circumcision, and the number and detail of the answers already provided will go into great account of the reasons not to!.
I have four sons who are happy and healthy, the way nature intended them to be, and there have never been any problems!.
It is male gential mutilation hidden behind a more socially acceptable clincial name like circumcision!.
Check our the video on the infant being circumcised and you will see the agony that poor little guy goes through!.
When your son is born, his foreskin will be fused to his glans by connective tissue!.
The doctors will strap your son to a board so he cannot squirm in his agony!. There is no pain medication safe for use on newborns so often there is none given!. Some topical creams only numb the searing pain but do not give adequate relief!. They will apply a clamp to your sons foreskin, shove a blunt probe under it to peel the foreskin from the glans, identical to you having your fingernail ripped off, then they will use scissors and scalpal to cut the skin off!. Routinely a nurse stands at your son's head to turn it sideways so he does not choke on his vomit as he howls in pain!.
This is a horrendous act that should be outlawed, instead of promoted!.
Your husband should not force his son to be circumcised!. Read up on the function of the foreskin and see that having one is actually cleaner!.
There are lots of myths about circumcision and they have all been brought to light as falsehoods!. Yes, your son can feel pain at that age!.
If your husband is concerned about being cleaner, why not have your son's fingernails ripped off as well!. That will prevent dirt from collecting under them before he places them in his mouth!. You sound like you have a good grasp of the mutilation involved in this procedure!. Please try your hardest to stop your husband from carrying through!. At least, give the little guy a chance to grow up and make the decision for himself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There is no medical reason for circumcision, and the number and detail of the answers already provided will go into great account of the reasons not to!.
I have four sons who are happy and healthy, the way nature intended them to be, and there have never been any problems!.
It is male gential mutilation hidden behind a more socially acceptable clincial name like circumcision!.
Check our the video on the infant being circumcised and you will see the agony that poor little guy goes through!.
When your son is born, his foreskin will be fused to his glans by connective tissue!.
The doctors will strap your son to a board so he cannot squirm in his agony!. There is no pain medication safe for use on newborns so often there is none given!. Some topical creams only numb the searing pain but do not give adequate relief!. They will apply a clamp to your sons foreskin, shove a blunt probe under it to peel the foreskin from the glans, identical to you having your fingernail ripped off, then they will use scissors and scalpal to cut the skin off!. Routinely a nurse stands at your son's head to turn it sideways so he does not choke on his vomit as he howls in pain!.
This is a horrendous act that should be outlawed, instead of promoted!.
Your husband should not force his son to be circumcised!. Read up on the function of the foreskin and see that having one is actually cleaner!.
There are lots of myths about circumcision and they have all been brought to light as falsehoods!. Yes, your son can feel pain at that age!.
If your husband is concerned about being cleaner, why not have your son's fingernails ripped off as well!. That will prevent dirt from collecting under them before he places them in his mouth!. You sound like you have a good grasp of the mutilation involved in this procedure!. Please try your hardest to stop your husband from carrying through!. At least, give the little guy a chance to grow up and make the decision for himself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My boys have intact foreskins!. 12 yrs old, 10 yrs old, and 1 yr old!.!.!.none have had issues!. they get proper care, and know how to clean themselves!.
i researched and learned all i could about my decision before the births and knew i was making the right choice!.
i shared this information w/my husband, who is circumcised!. and asked him to tell me all the things he'd heard about NOT having it done, then we TOGETHER researched his questions for real answers on medical sites that were non-biased, but just plan text book medical facts!.
he came to understand why docs know now it has no real benefits!. and if the 'infection rate' was so darn horrible for an uncircumcised boy then 80% of Europe would be over run w/penile infections and forced circumcisions on older children, which is not the case!.
all you can do is calmly and rationally talk about the issue w/out getting heated!. IF he cannot communicate w/you in a calm manner, just ask him to tell you as best as he can w/out getting so darn upset WHY he feels it "must" be done!.
then suggest he google his concerns for real information and not old wives tales!.
edit:
just wanted to add this for those posters pointing out the "supposed" STD reduction benefits of circumcisions- it's only a 1% reduction in the chances of STDs, and considering we are a developed country (USA) w/readily avalible protection (condoms) i don't see why this is such a huge benefit!. 1%!?!? really!? not worth cutting my sons, sorry!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i researched and learned all i could about my decision before the births and knew i was making the right choice!.
i shared this information w/my husband, who is circumcised!. and asked him to tell me all the things he'd heard about NOT having it done, then we TOGETHER researched his questions for real answers on medical sites that were non-biased, but just plan text book medical facts!.
he came to understand why docs know now it has no real benefits!. and if the 'infection rate' was so darn horrible for an uncircumcised boy then 80% of Europe would be over run w/penile infections and forced circumcisions on older children, which is not the case!.
all you can do is calmly and rationally talk about the issue w/out getting heated!. IF he cannot communicate w/you in a calm manner, just ask him to tell you as best as he can w/out getting so darn upset WHY he feels it "must" be done!.
then suggest he google his concerns for real information and not old wives tales!.
edit:
just wanted to add this for those posters pointing out the "supposed" STD reduction benefits of circumcisions- it's only a 1% reduction in the chances of STDs, and considering we are a developed country (USA) w/readily avalible protection (condoms) i don't see why this is such a huge benefit!. 1%!?!? really!? not worth cutting my sons, sorry!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm glad that you don't want to do this to your son!.
Convincing your husband may be impossible!.
Most men who are circumcised aren't aware of the fact that their sexual sensitivity has been diminished; sex still feels good to most of them, and they can't conceive of how it could actually be better with a foreskin, they just view the foreskin as "extra skin," and if they were raised with peers who were mainly circumcised also, this seems natural and normal to them, even though it's far from that!.
I suffered from more than the usual loss of sexual sensitivity because of circumcision, and I am, of course, biased against it, as I don't want to see this done to other helpless infants!.
About 200,000 men are currently restoring their foreskins, but this doesn't fully restore sensitivity, but it does indeed improve it, and sexual function!.
Those of us who are aware of what was done to us as infants bitterly resent having had this perpetrated on us without our consent!.
In my opinion, after what was done to me, it is assault, infant sexual abuse and mutilation!. I shall campaign against male genital mutilation of infants as long as I live!.
Your husband may be content with the status of his genitals, your son may or may not in future!.
I contend that it's your son's body, and should be HIS decision when he's able to make an intelligent and informed decision when he is of age!.
I hope that you can change your husband's mind, but the old myths about the so-called "benefits" of circumcision are very ingrained in some people!.
My own father was intact, but this wasn't an issue, as I didn't know what was wrong with me for years, until after he had died!. I had never given it a thought that his penis was different from mine; I didn't realize it was different, didn't pay any attention the couple of times I saw him getting out of the shower!. "Looking like daddy" was never an issue!.
I applaud your desire to leave your son intact, but am at a loss as to how to convince your husband to do so!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Convincing your husband may be impossible!.
Most men who are circumcised aren't aware of the fact that their sexual sensitivity has been diminished; sex still feels good to most of them, and they can't conceive of how it could actually be better with a foreskin, they just view the foreskin as "extra skin," and if they were raised with peers who were mainly circumcised also, this seems natural and normal to them, even though it's far from that!.
I suffered from more than the usual loss of sexual sensitivity because of circumcision, and I am, of course, biased against it, as I don't want to see this done to other helpless infants!.
About 200,000 men are currently restoring their foreskins, but this doesn't fully restore sensitivity, but it does indeed improve it, and sexual function!.
Those of us who are aware of what was done to us as infants bitterly resent having had this perpetrated on us without our consent!.
In my opinion, after what was done to me, it is assault, infant sexual abuse and mutilation!. I shall campaign against male genital mutilation of infants as long as I live!.
Your husband may be content with the status of his genitals, your son may or may not in future!.
I contend that it's your son's body, and should be HIS decision when he's able to make an intelligent and informed decision when he is of age!.
I hope that you can change your husband's mind, but the old myths about the so-called "benefits" of circumcision are very ingrained in some people!.
My own father was intact, but this wasn't an issue, as I didn't know what was wrong with me for years, until after he had died!. I had never given it a thought that his penis was different from mine; I didn't realize it was different, didn't pay any attention the couple of times I saw him getting out of the shower!. "Looking like daddy" was never an issue!.
I applaud your desire to leave your son intact, but am at a loss as to how to convince your husband to do so!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There isn't any additional information that I could offer that hasn't been well covered already!. The only thing that I can add is that my gear is natural, and I really thank my parents fro respecting my body and caring enough for me to not have parts cut off from me!.
I'm 24 and married to a beautiful Lady with an amazing Love Life!. I know what I would loose, and why, if I had been circumcised!. I have a detailed sense of feel in my parts that a circumcised dude couldn't ever experience!. I would never give that up to have a certain look or mushroom shape as some call it!. It's about how it feels and the feelings that it gives, now having a certain traditional look!. We aren't going to sit on the bed and just look at it together! She loves the way that it looks anyway, but the feelings and the function is what it's all about!.
I'm not down on any Dude over the type of penis that he has, but when you have the choice to keep your son whole!.!.!.!.Just do that and he will thank you for having more when he becomes a Dude!
Me! :- )Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm 24 and married to a beautiful Lady with an amazing Love Life!. I know what I would loose, and why, if I had been circumcised!. I have a detailed sense of feel in my parts that a circumcised dude couldn't ever experience!. I would never give that up to have a certain look or mushroom shape as some call it!. It's about how it feels and the feelings that it gives, now having a certain traditional look!. We aren't going to sit on the bed and just look at it together! She loves the way that it looks anyway, but the feelings and the function is what it's all about!.
I'm not down on any Dude over the type of penis that he has, but when you have the choice to keep your son whole!.!.!.!.Just do that and he will thank you for having more when he becomes a Dude!
Me! :- )Www@Answer-Health@Com
Like the person above me stated, there is nothing I can tell you that hasn't been covered!. What I can give you is my experience!. When My boyfriend and I found out we were having boy he really wanted him circumcised!. I did not!. I started doing my research and found out about how awful it is!. The one thing I did that changed his mind!? I had him watch a circumcision online!. I have never seen him get that upset before!. He was angry that this happens!. He cried and soon after started restoring his own foreskin!. A long and painful process but it is working!. Sex is better than ever!. There is no "smell" and it is clean!. We left our son intact and found that in the hospital after his birth, every doctor and nurse was extremely happy and supportive we decided not to as was his pediatrician!. We ultimately decided that it was his body and his decision!. We also set money aside and decided that if he wants it done when he is older he can!. If you need any help finding resources or just some help please email me!. And remember, even if you are married you are the mother and the hospital will not do a circumcision without your expressed permission, no matter how hard he tries to push you o have it done!. Your doing whats right by leaving your son intact!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There has been over 100 years of propaganda saying that circumcision is a good thing to do!. So it's not surprising that he has believed his circumcised penis is superior to an intact one since he was a kid!. His opinion will be based on half-truths he has heard all these years!. He's wrong!.
Since its introduction into the west as an anti-masturbation measure in the 19th century, circumcision proponents have trotted out endlessly changing justifications for the procedure, as earlier ones are disproved!. Most of these proposed reasons have later been proved to be based on flawed studies but the myths continue!. Even if the claims for benefit were accepted the level of any protection from disease is so low as to be easily outweighed by the risks involved in the surgery!. A few babies even die each year from circumcision complications and some lose their penis from necrotic infection!. More common complications of infant circumcision, like skin bridges or too much skin removed, do not show up until much later in life!. So the statistics do not include them in the complication rate!. (A penis with a skin bridge is much harder to clean and causes major sexual difficulties!.) However even on these artificially lowered statistics all the major medical authorities in the world now say that these risks outweigh the dubious benefits of routine infant circumcision!.
Circumcision removes over half the skin of the penis (about 15 square inches or 40 square centimetres, in an adult) and it's not just simple skin!. It's packed with nerve endings, special anatomical features like the ridged band and has a unique elastic gliding action, allowing it to slide on itself and act like lube!. This action is what most males use to masturbate with!. Circumcised males use what skin they have left, except those who are cut so tightly that they have to use lube or just rub it dry!. The intact male can stroke the entire length of his penis using his foreskin and also has the option to use lube too, if he wants to!. During intercourse the foreskin acts like lube on entry and may act as a dam, preventing lubricating secretions escaping from the vagina!. In one study women reported that sex with an intact partner was gentler and more satisfying since he doesn't have to thrust as hard to feel enough stimulation!. Removing the foreskin turns the surface of the glans from an inner mucosal membrane to outside skin!. Newly circumcised adults usually go through some weeks of intense discomfort as the glans is constantly exposed to rubbing on clothing, until it develops a thicker keratin layer and becomes less sensitive!. A recent study has shown real differences in fine touch sensitivity between circumcised and intact penises and that the most sensitive parts of the intact penis are those that would be removed by circumcision!.
Another very recent study in New Zealand followed a cohort of boys through life from birth to age 32!. About 40% were circumcised!. The intact males had a slightly lower rate of sexually transmitted infections than the circumcised but there was no significant difference!.
A few intact males have problems with tight foreskin but this is only a tiny proportion of intact males!. The condition can now be almost always treated with simple stretching exercises, sometimes in combination with a steroid cream that speeds up the process!. However doctors who do not value the preservation of the foreskin often still trot out circumcision as a first-option treatment in the US and even some other countries!.
I myself am circumcised!. I have hated it ever since as a 12 year old I saw a mate masturbating with a foreskin and realised a little of what I had lost!. Many men resent being circumcised, some so much that they stretch to try and regain some of their lost foreskin's function!. They can never recover all the complex anatomy and lost nerve endings though!. Infant circumcision is a violation of a man's right to intact genitals and I will never forgive my parents and the medical profession for doing it to me!.
Your son will undoubtedly have some intact friends and there is every chance that he will hate it and feel mutilated if you do this to him!. Since not one major medical organization in the world recommends routine infant circumcision anymore you will have a hard time defending your decision if he questions it!. If you leave him intact he has the choice!.
GeoffWww@Answer-Health@Com
Since its introduction into the west as an anti-masturbation measure in the 19th century, circumcision proponents have trotted out endlessly changing justifications for the procedure, as earlier ones are disproved!. Most of these proposed reasons have later been proved to be based on flawed studies but the myths continue!. Even if the claims for benefit were accepted the level of any protection from disease is so low as to be easily outweighed by the risks involved in the surgery!. A few babies even die each year from circumcision complications and some lose their penis from necrotic infection!. More common complications of infant circumcision, like skin bridges or too much skin removed, do not show up until much later in life!. So the statistics do not include them in the complication rate!. (A penis with a skin bridge is much harder to clean and causes major sexual difficulties!.) However even on these artificially lowered statistics all the major medical authorities in the world now say that these risks outweigh the dubious benefits of routine infant circumcision!.
Circumcision removes over half the skin of the penis (about 15 square inches or 40 square centimetres, in an adult) and it's not just simple skin!. It's packed with nerve endings, special anatomical features like the ridged band and has a unique elastic gliding action, allowing it to slide on itself and act like lube!. This action is what most males use to masturbate with!. Circumcised males use what skin they have left, except those who are cut so tightly that they have to use lube or just rub it dry!. The intact male can stroke the entire length of his penis using his foreskin and also has the option to use lube too, if he wants to!. During intercourse the foreskin acts like lube on entry and may act as a dam, preventing lubricating secretions escaping from the vagina!. In one study women reported that sex with an intact partner was gentler and more satisfying since he doesn't have to thrust as hard to feel enough stimulation!. Removing the foreskin turns the surface of the glans from an inner mucosal membrane to outside skin!. Newly circumcised adults usually go through some weeks of intense discomfort as the glans is constantly exposed to rubbing on clothing, until it develops a thicker keratin layer and becomes less sensitive!. A recent study has shown real differences in fine touch sensitivity between circumcised and intact penises and that the most sensitive parts of the intact penis are those that would be removed by circumcision!.
Another very recent study in New Zealand followed a cohort of boys through life from birth to age 32!. About 40% were circumcised!. The intact males had a slightly lower rate of sexually transmitted infections than the circumcised but there was no significant difference!.
A few intact males have problems with tight foreskin but this is only a tiny proportion of intact males!. The condition can now be almost always treated with simple stretching exercises, sometimes in combination with a steroid cream that speeds up the process!. However doctors who do not value the preservation of the foreskin often still trot out circumcision as a first-option treatment in the US and even some other countries!.
I myself am circumcised!. I have hated it ever since as a 12 year old I saw a mate masturbating with a foreskin and realised a little of what I had lost!. Many men resent being circumcised, some so much that they stretch to try and regain some of their lost foreskin's function!. They can never recover all the complex anatomy and lost nerve endings though!. Infant circumcision is a violation of a man's right to intact genitals and I will never forgive my parents and the medical profession for doing it to me!.
Your son will undoubtedly have some intact friends and there is every chance that he will hate it and feel mutilated if you do this to him!. Since not one major medical organization in the world recommends routine infant circumcision anymore you will have a hard time defending your decision if he questions it!. If you leave him intact he has the choice!.
GeoffWww@Answer-Health@Com
The reason your husband probably wants to have him circumcised is probably because he himself is circumcised and considers that to be normal!. The problem is he doesn't know what he's missing because he's never had that part before and therefore doesn't know what's lost during circumcision!. Also he can't remember the pain of the surgery (if he was circumcised as an infant) so he thinks it's pretty harmless!. I guarantee if you show him these links and educate him a little on just how harmful circumcision actually is, he'll change his mind!.
Why being uncircumcised as an adult is usually better:
http://www!.health!.am/sex/more/most-sensi!.!.!.
http://www!.cirp!.org/library/sex_function!.!.!.
http://www!.circumstitions!.com/Restric/co!.!.!.
http://www!.sexasnatureintendedit!.com/
Why circumcision is especially bad for newborns:
http://www!.pslgroup!.com/dg/1f21e!.htm
http://www!.strimoo!.com/video/10412456/Lo!.!.!.
http://video!.google!.com/videoplay!?docid=!.!.!.
http://www!.caringforkids!.cps!.ca/pregnanc!.!.!.
Common attitudes about circumcision:
http://www!.youtube!.com/watch!?v=BdZefUABU!.!.!.
http://www!.jackinworld!.com/qow/q15!.htmlWww@Answer-Health@Com
Why being uncircumcised as an adult is usually better:
http://www!.health!.am/sex/more/most-sensi!.!.!.
http://www!.cirp!.org/library/sex_function!.!.!.
http://www!.circumstitions!.com/Restric/co!.!.!.
http://www!.sexasnatureintendedit!.com/
Why circumcision is especially bad for newborns:
http://www!.pslgroup!.com/dg/1f21e!.htm
http://www!.strimoo!.com/video/10412456/Lo!.!.!.
http://video!.google!.com/videoplay!?docid=!.!.!.
http://www!.caringforkids!.cps!.ca/pregnanc!.!.!.
Common attitudes about circumcision:
http://www!.youtube!.com/watch!?v=BdZefUABU!.!.!.
http://www!.jackinworld!.com/qow/q15!.htmlWww@Answer-Health@Com
I would recommend NOT circumcising your son!. I've included some links for your husband!. It may also help if you point out to him that you are not saying it can never be done- only that you feel it is wrong to make the choice for him!. Tell him if your son reaches 18 and wants a circumcision, you would be willing to allow it!. The benefits do not outweigh the risks!. One analysis found that for every 9 boys who might be spared a UTI by circumcision, another 12 boys at the least (the upper estimate was 40 boys) will experience severe complications from the circumcision!. Thats great if your boy is one of the 9, but horrible if he's one of the 12!. UTIs can be treated by antibiotics quite effectively!. Botched circumcisions are much more difficult to fix!. Its also worth noting that 99% of intact boys will never get an infection, compared to 99!.9% of cut boys!. That means you would have to cut 100 boys to save just one of them from infection!. Thats 99 boys cut for no reason at all!. Out of every 1000 boys who are cut, one will contract a UTI anyway!.
Only 50% of boys nationwide are circumcised!. Girls of your son's generation will likely have an entirely different view of circumcision as girls from yours!. Just because you think intact is "gross" and "unsanitary" does not mean the women of your son's generation will!. after all, think of all the differences between you and your parents!. Did you know that when your grandparents were young, circumcision was very uncommon!?
Next, it is VERY painful to an infant!. Most doctors still don't use any anesthesia, those that do rarely offer adequate anesthesia because the only stuff that works is not safe enough to use in infants for such a "minor" procedure!. Further, some of the pain meds offered to infants aren't even recommended for use on babies! Some doctors argue that it has been done "for thousands of years" without anesthetic- what they neglect to tell you is that a medical circumcision can take over 15 minutes to complete!. A Jewish ritual circumcision, by contrast, takes under 60 seconds to complete (and the baby is given wine) Here is some info on the pain!.!.!.!.!.
http://www!.cirp!.org/library/pain/
http://www!.circumcision!.org/response!.htm
http://www!.cirp!.org/library/pain/taddio2!.!.!. (note in this one that even infants offered pain meds for the procedure showed signs of PTSD)
You should also know that studies have shown that the most sensitive parts of the male anatomy of ON the foreskin- NOT the head of the penis!. By cutting off the foreskin, you remove a mans most erogenous genital tissue!. Here is a study about that!.!.!.!. (note that other studies found no difference, but they neglected to test the sensitivity of the foreskin- they only tested the glans penis of intact and cut men and didn't pay any attention to the foreskin at all) http://www!.nocirc!.org/touch-test/touchte!.!.!.
You should know that infant boys are EASIER to care for when they are intact!. The foreskin does not retract until late childhood or even puberty, so you do nothing special, just wipe the outside of his penis clean and leave it alone!. Furthermore, to prevent painful and bleeding erections later in life, doctors are now commonly leaving more skin behind- in a cut boy this means you may have to push the left over skin back at every diaper change and clean beneath it to prevent it from adhering or infecting!. The very thing that mother's think they avoid by circumcising! In short- Intact = wipe like a finger, NEVER retract Cut= vaseline, clean thoroughly, push back remaining skin to prevent adhesions etc (the last step perhaps for several months or years)
Here is an excellent tutorial on the basics of intact care and circumcision!.!.!.!.
http://www!.lactivistintactivist!.com/!?pag!.!.!.
Another factor in your decision is that circumcised boys experience a 12% increase in their risk of MRSA infection!. MRSA is commonly picked up in hospitals (where circumcision is performed in non-sterile conditions) and has been known to kill adults!. I wouldn't want to deal with it in an infant!. 12% is a BIG risk, the risk of a boy "needing" a circ later in life is WELL below that- under 1%!. http://www!.nocirc!.org/publish/12-Answers!.!.!.
The so called "benefits" of circumcision are generally trumped up!. A big one now is that it "prevents" AIDS!. All the studies showing "benefits" like this have been poorly designed and inconclusive!. Also, for every study that finds a "benefit" there are more studies that find no benefit!. http://www!.icgi!.org/
It is rather eye-opening to see how circumcision first became popular in the US to begin with!. It was virtually unknown in this country until the 20th century!. This slide show takes you through the rise of circumcision!.!.!.!. http://youtube!.com/watch!?v=f4unKTMpBGA
Finally, you should watch a video or two of the procedure so you are fully informed of what your infant will go through!. I will warn you that these are graphic!. If you can't handle watching them as an adult, why would you eWww@Answer-Health@Com
Only 50% of boys nationwide are circumcised!. Girls of your son's generation will likely have an entirely different view of circumcision as girls from yours!. Just because you think intact is "gross" and "unsanitary" does not mean the women of your son's generation will!. after all, think of all the differences between you and your parents!. Did you know that when your grandparents were young, circumcision was very uncommon!?
Next, it is VERY painful to an infant!. Most doctors still don't use any anesthesia, those that do rarely offer adequate anesthesia because the only stuff that works is not safe enough to use in infants for such a "minor" procedure!. Further, some of the pain meds offered to infants aren't even recommended for use on babies! Some doctors argue that it has been done "for thousands of years" without anesthetic- what they neglect to tell you is that a medical circumcision can take over 15 minutes to complete!. A Jewish ritual circumcision, by contrast, takes under 60 seconds to complete (and the baby is given wine) Here is some info on the pain!.!.!.!.!.
http://www!.cirp!.org/library/pain/
http://www!.circumcision!.org/response!.htm
http://www!.cirp!.org/library/pain/taddio2!.!.!. (note in this one that even infants offered pain meds for the procedure showed signs of PTSD)
You should also know that studies have shown that the most sensitive parts of the male anatomy of ON the foreskin- NOT the head of the penis!. By cutting off the foreskin, you remove a mans most erogenous genital tissue!. Here is a study about that!.!.!.!. (note that other studies found no difference, but they neglected to test the sensitivity of the foreskin- they only tested the glans penis of intact and cut men and didn't pay any attention to the foreskin at all) http://www!.nocirc!.org/touch-test/touchte!.!.!.
You should know that infant boys are EASIER to care for when they are intact!. The foreskin does not retract until late childhood or even puberty, so you do nothing special, just wipe the outside of his penis clean and leave it alone!. Furthermore, to prevent painful and bleeding erections later in life, doctors are now commonly leaving more skin behind- in a cut boy this means you may have to push the left over skin back at every diaper change and clean beneath it to prevent it from adhering or infecting!. The very thing that mother's think they avoid by circumcising! In short- Intact = wipe like a finger, NEVER retract Cut= vaseline, clean thoroughly, push back remaining skin to prevent adhesions etc (the last step perhaps for several months or years)
Here is an excellent tutorial on the basics of intact care and circumcision!.!.!.!.
http://www!.lactivistintactivist!.com/!?pag!.!.!.
Another factor in your decision is that circumcised boys experience a 12% increase in their risk of MRSA infection!. MRSA is commonly picked up in hospitals (where circumcision is performed in non-sterile conditions) and has been known to kill adults!. I wouldn't want to deal with it in an infant!. 12% is a BIG risk, the risk of a boy "needing" a circ later in life is WELL below that- under 1%!. http://www!.nocirc!.org/publish/12-Answers!.!.!.
The so called "benefits" of circumcision are generally trumped up!. A big one now is that it "prevents" AIDS!. All the studies showing "benefits" like this have been poorly designed and inconclusive!. Also, for every study that finds a "benefit" there are more studies that find no benefit!. http://www!.icgi!.org/
It is rather eye-opening to see how circumcision first became popular in the US to begin with!. It was virtually unknown in this country until the 20th century!. This slide show takes you through the rise of circumcision!.!.!.!. http://youtube!.com/watch!?v=f4unKTMpBGA
Finally, you should watch a video or two of the procedure so you are fully informed of what your infant will go through!. I will warn you that these are graphic!. If you can't handle watching them as an adult, why would you eWww@Answer-Health@Com
Aww!. My husband was the same (he is cut), until I showed him all my research! The truth of the matter is, it's NOT necessary and is quite painful, plus ups the risk of infections!! :( Why do that!?!?
If your son decides later on as an adult to be cut, he can do it since it is HIS penis!. Once it's cut you cannot go back!!
Here are some good links for you to show your husband:
http://www!.naturalfamilyonline!.com/5-bc/!.!.!.
http://www!.glorialemay!.com/blog/!?p=57
http://mothersagainstcirc!.org/
http://www!.jewsagainstcircumcision!.org/
http://www!.udonet!.com/circumcision/chris!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If your son decides later on as an adult to be cut, he can do it since it is HIS penis!. Once it's cut you cannot go back!!
Here are some good links for you to show your husband:
http://www!.naturalfamilyonline!.com/5-bc/!.!.!.
http://www!.glorialemay!.com/blog/!?p=57
http://mothersagainstcirc!.org/
http://www!.jewsagainstcircumcision!.org/
http://www!.udonet!.com/circumcision/chris!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Circumcision isn't necessary, but it will decrease your son's risk of getting infections (such as STDs, HIV, and skin infections) later on in life, because the bacteria/viruses can get caught underneath the foreskin!. He will also have better hygiene in that area!.
I did it for my son, and I feel like it was the right decision!. But that's just me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I did it for my son, and I feel like it was the right decision!. But that's just me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'd get the kid circumcised!.
If you don't it can develop problems later in life!. Why are so against it and why is he so for it!? If it's more important to him than you id do itWww@Answer-Health@Com
If you don't it can develop problems later in life!. Why are so against it and why is he so for it!? If it's more important to him than you id do itWww@Answer-Health@Com
This is something that only you & your husband can come to terms with!. Nobody else has the right to tell you one way or the other what should or should not be done!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well, first off, i'll say if you're not American, you should not get it done as it is uncommon in Europe, Canada, and Australia!.
if you're American, (which im assuming you are because most people on this website are) then i would perhaps consult a medical professional about it (but NOT YOUR doctor- one of the reasons the rates of circumcision are high in the USA is because doctors make more money by doing it- this is no so with universal health care in other western countries)
other than that, i can only give my opinion, and the pro's and con's i'm familiar with!. personally i am not circumcised (im Canadian), however i wish i was 'cut' at birth, mainly for one reason-- looks!. personally, i feel it looks better, so, for the basic sense of confidence in sexual situations!. as for health concerns, i've heard conflicting info on this!. i've heard that being uncircumcised increases the chance of STD's i've heard it decreases it, so i think you would want to do your own research!. i recommend looking for multiple sources as one may be biased (eg!. sources from different countries)!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
if you're American, (which im assuming you are because most people on this website are) then i would perhaps consult a medical professional about it (but NOT YOUR doctor- one of the reasons the rates of circumcision are high in the USA is because doctors make more money by doing it- this is no so with universal health care in other western countries)
other than that, i can only give my opinion, and the pro's and con's i'm familiar with!. personally i am not circumcised (im Canadian), however i wish i was 'cut' at birth, mainly for one reason-- looks!. personally, i feel it looks better, so, for the basic sense of confidence in sexual situations!. as for health concerns, i've heard conflicting info on this!. i've heard that being uncircumcised increases the chance of STD's i've heard it decreases it, so i think you would want to do your own research!. i recommend looking for multiple sources as one may be biased (eg!. sources from different countries)!.Www@Answer-Health@Com