Dear mothers of teenage boys.?!

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This may sound crazy but someone isn't messing with him are they?

You shouldnt be scared,,when he yells at you or your husband get in his face in be like what you say..and be like i will knock your lil *** out and if he tries you let him kno whos the boss just let him know your not playin..and take his video game and computer from him,,you can hit him its okay dnt be scared

I blame Dad. Why isn't he taking the boys out to do stuff- Boy Scouts/Cub Scouts, Issac Walton league, 4H, something anything that teaches responsibilty and life skills. This kid it might be too late but if you don't try, you will regret it forever.

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Ret. USAF SNCO
Dad of 2 Eagle Scouts

He needs help because this just can't pop out of nowhere.

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welcome to your childs teen years. I blame that gosh darn MTV.

Google Tough Love. Time to apply some serious firm guidance and discipline.

But also, find out what's really beneath all the anger. There's a large helping of fear there, that seems to be driving him. It might be partly personal, partly universal - e.g. the state of the world, and feeling he has no control.

Also, diet may be influencing to a small degree; so is hormones, as the psychiatrist mentioned. But that's only part of it.

OK I'm 16, and let me say years 13-15 were the worst in my life. I was just like your son. I would get furious and punch things, throw things, yell, scream (never suicidal though like your boy) but it happens to a ton of people in that age group. Anyways there's this drug called intuniv, and it helps with all of those things... I didn't really believe it would help at first but it has A LOT. On the website I'm about to post it says its for ADHD or something like that. It was first used as a drug to lower blood pressure, but then was later discovered to help ADD or something like that. I was never diagnosed with ADD, ADHD, or anything like that. It was given to me so I wouldnt beat the living hell out of things when I was mad (lower blood pressure.) Anyways I must say that I went from about an 80% average to a 92% in one year, and its rising. I still wonder during class but somehow I understand more. I never had a problem with following along in class the problem was that I didn't care. So to sum it all up I owe my grades and my mellowness to Intuniv, and this isnt some propoganda or whatever, I'm a real person. If you have any questions or anything you can shoot me an email. Hope this helps. Here is the website that tells you about the drug... http://www.drugs.com/intuniv.html

Well first of all he needs to have order in his life that you are not currently providing. Limit all his activities until there is improvement in his behavior and his grades this includes limiting his computer, and video game times if he doesn't get off the computer or video game then cut the wires off it if you must. You feed him clothe him and he owns nothing but what you give him. Make him understand that he will live by your rules and he will be happier because he will improve and see a since of accomplishment. Yes hormones are part of it you should never have to yell. Ever. If he yells or throws things or slams doors then he must be punished by a set guideline that both parents agree to and hold him accountable for his actions. If you don't get ahold of this situation now it will only get worse. You might also want to take him in to see your doctor and see about medication if his condition continues or grows worse.

ask the school counselors if they can recommend a psychologist that specializes in rebellious teens, you need to nip this in the bud before he really screws up your family.

im a fifteen year old girl and i have seen some kids my age doing things like that. usually its because they want attention, but it seems like hes getting it from you guys. i went through a phase in middle school where all i wanted to be was popular, and that meant being mean to my parents. I was bullied by other kids and I was really mean and did most of those things ur kid does but after a while i realized that i was tired of fighting. Now im in highschool and i am so much better and i think the main thing my parents did was to give me little gifts and rewards when i did good things. I think you should give him presents out of the blue or let him go out with his friends for doing good things, not negative consequences. If you punish him all the time itll just give him more reasons to think he hates you. and i definetly would look into if hes getting bullied because thats why i acted out. just tell him that if hes someones messing with him that you're there for him to talk about it; dont talk about going to the principle or teachers tho thats the last thing kids want to happen. but seriously dont punish ur kid, itll just push him away and estrange him more. be the happy cool mom thats always nice and hell wanna be around/nice to you. if he doesnt care about school ask him why. try to get him to make a list of goals that he wants to achieve in ten years (he might think its stupid at first but make him do it); my dream of being a doctor is the only reason im trying to get good grades. and if going to school is what he has to do to achieve those goals maybe he'll straighten himself out. i definetly recommend going to a therapist though; the palo alto medical foundation has some really good ones. I recommend Susan... she really got me. she works exclusively with teens. good luck