Am I gay/bi/straight? Help/advice?!
Question: Am I gay/bi/straight? Help/advice?
I currently like a boy in my grade for the past few months, i can never stop thinking about him, hes all i think about. the second i think of him i get turned on automatically. i alwys fantasize about him in sexual ways and doing different things. I like to check out guys i find attractive. When it comes to girls i hardly get turned on by them, NEVER fantasize about them i just feel like im ONLY attracted to boys. I want to get married with a girl and have kids but i want a boyfriend right now to see what its like and how it will be. If i saw a hot girl and hot boy and if i was told to choose one, i would pick the boy. i am so lost and i feel like im the only person having this problem. when i find boys attractive i alwys look at his butt and get turned on in a heartbeat but when i look at a girls i dont get turned on at all, what do i do? how do i figure out my sexuality? thank you so much.
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definitely gay
Hey don't feel like your the only out there like that cuz your not alone I have that same problem to that I deal with each day and the guys have won over the girls lol and I find guys to be so hot at times to, but as you grow older you may grow out of liking guys, but if not that's okay to be gay
Me
At your age things can still be a little confusing and it may change in time. I do not believe the gay, bi, straight thing, your either gay or straight. Most straight guys have some gay tendencies. How does he feel about you, would be the question, do you have sleepovers together?
You are NOT confused! You are NOT bisexual! This is NOT a faze!
YOU ARE ACTUALLY GAY! Don't be shy. It's a blessing! God doesn't make mistakes. Be you! Do you! Be yourself!
I think you are just a bit confused after puberty. This will stabilise after 18. I think you are straight.
You don't get to like broccoli by eating ice cream.
I don't believe you are gay. You have had middling success with girls, but your current feelings towards them are coloured by those experiences, which are perhaps less earth-shattering than you might have hoped for.
So naturally, your thoughts turn to your own sex. Only this time, the feelings are driven by lust, hormones, fantasy, desire, perhaps hope, rather than actual reality which involves potential rejections, let downs and disappointments, if it doesn't turn out how you expect. No wonder you're confused.
For now, forget the labels. They are for jam jars, luggage and vegetables.
Just let yourself experiment, if that's what you want. The only person making judgments right now, is you. Be okay with finding your way through the maze of puberty; don't fight it. Go with the flow, as the saying has it. Start to live in your heart, not your mind space. Take it one step at a time, rather than jump the hot guys straight away. That's how you get a bad rep.
Most of all, take care of YOU, love who you are, warts and all, and remember the same thing is happening to thousands of other teens, right this minute.
At 16 you are still going through puberty, with all the changes that take place due to that, and it can be a very confusing time.
I knew from about the age of 14 that I was attracted to guys and girls, but it wasn't until much later, after I'd had relationships with guys and girls, that I knew for sure that I'm bisexual.
Sexuality isn't just straight or gay, with bi in the middle, it's more of a sliding scale, and you could be anywhere on that scale.
It isn't just who you are sexually attracted to either, you need to consider your emotional preferences, and social preferences as well.
I've attached a link to a test you might want to take, I found it to be quite accurate.
Whatever you turn out to be, and you may not know for sure for a few years, just be yourself and enjoy life.
Take care, but have fun finding yourself.
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