Desperate!!!! Our sex is becoming more of a responsibilty than fun? ):?!

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But each partner has a responsibility to the other. Bottom line: you were there for sex; it died and there's nothing else to hold you???

I looked for a health related question in there but never did find it.

i don't see a men's heath question in this either...

try family and relationships dear...

Well you guys need to sit down and figure out why you fight more when you aren't having sex, because I will say this, if you don't fix this problem you guys won't last much longer and you certainly won't last in a marriage. Sex should never be used as a band aid, it will lead to issues as you guys already experience.

You will always get into ebbs and flows with sex like this in any relationship. Things get routine and boring sometimes, that's just how things work.

So take some time with each other and sit down and talk about why you feel you fight more. Also the best advice I can give anyone in a relationship is pick your battles, seriously, it's not worth fighting over every tiny little thing. LET IT GO! My rule of thumb with my partner is, if it's not going to matter a month or twp from now, let it go, it's not worth even bringing up in the conversation.
Also you two have to be able to sit down and talk to eachother in a mature way without getting mad or upset. He needs to be able to sit down with you and say for instance "I don't like how you always come home from work and unload on me" And you have to be able to not get upset and just disguss maybe how you can come home and talk about your day without making him feel like a constant venting block. You have to be able to communicate honestly about everything and not get upset and turn it into a fight. If you can't do that then you probably shouldn't be together.

-Connor

you mean it acts like a everyday chore instead of fun? well dear take this from a old man that,s been around. what i see is happening is there,s a communication gap. what i mean you are blaming each other. what you both need to do put your differences aside and sit down and talk things out. that,s what,s wrong with most relationships and marriages today. they don,t take the time to communicate together. they are always blaming each other. you both need to sit down, talk to each other without hollering and realize what each of you mean to each other. then after that the sex should get back on track and be better. sex should,nt be something you have to do, it should be something both of you want to do.