Found an empty condom wrapper next to his bed?!
Question: Found an empty condom wrapper next to his bed?
1. He only lives with his mom and brother
2. His brother has his own room
3. His mom is single
4. I have seen him [play with himself] before and it wasn't with a condom on
Me and him never did anything sexual except kiss.. So i was thinking about ignoring it and just staying like i didn't know but then i just said i'm 18 now and it's no reason for me to ignore the obvious and then get hurt later. So i put on my shoes and coat and left, he approached me when i was walking to the car asking why i was leaving and i told him i didn't wanna talk about it and i'd text him... so NOW i'm getting ready to tell him...
ANY IDEAS ON HOW TO BRING UP OR SAY IT
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I think that you jumped to conclusions and WHY do girls not just come out with what is on their minds insted if saying I dont want to talk about it? It leaves us with a WTF what did i do i was not even in the room and she is mad at me now what should i do? you are not even dating and your are already distrusting him. Maybe he bought the condoms and were trying them out to see if they worked for him how to put them on his penis maybe even masterbated with them because it does catch is goo and makes cleanup easier. there could be many reasons that wrapper was there it could have even been from last year. We dont clean our rooms daily. But you thought he was having sex who knows maybe he is gay and his brother was showing him some things that he does with his other buddies.
think about it
sean
you have only been going with him for a week and you left because of an empty condom wrapper that may have been in his room for weeks. You need to call him, not text, and tell him you over reacted when you found an empty condom wrapper in his room. when/if you find another one and you know it wasn't you in his room then you can dump him.
He lives with his Mom? I knew a woman once who had sex with her son; she crept into his bed to "cure him of his homosexuality". It didn't "cure" him, he left the house next day and never went back. But she had had her kicks.
If you and this guy have been going with this guy for only a week and you have already seen him playing with himself you should probably leave. He is far too immature for you.
He's probably using that as a fantasy with you.
Don't worry about it.
You probably over reacted.
1. If you only just became a committed couple, it's silly of you to assume that he was abstinent prior to that, as if he was supposed to be "pre-committed" to you or something.
2. He very well could have used a condom to masturbate with. Just because you haven't seen him do this, it doesn't mean he hasn't! I used to masturbate with condoms to get myself used to using them.
3. Maybe he was trying on the condom to see if he liked that particular brand/size, who knows.
When you contact him, just be honest. Apologize for leaving and explain that you had seen the condom wrapper and may have over reacted, then accept his explanation (if any) and get on with your life. If he is indeed cheating, there will be other signs you will notice later and you can deal with them as things unfold. But to assume he is now, just as you first made things "official" only serves to base your relationship on a lack of trust.