My fiance says I should pack him a lunch every day and wake up before he does to!
Question: My fiance says I should pack him a lunch every day and wake up before he does to make him breakfast?
However, I do all the food shopping, cook dinner, take care of the cats.
He does his own laundry.
I think he is upset I don't do his laundry either (I don't because he doesn't like the wau I do his laundry so I stopped.)
I also do all the cleaning and the dishes after dinner.
This is depressing me because I feel that if Imarry him, life will feel more like a chore and I am beginning to resent him - like being in a relationship with him is just another job but it's worse - because the job is at home 24/7.
I also don't feel he even does anything for me. Like if I were to leave him today, there isn't one thing he does for me that I wouldn't be doing if I was single. He is actually MORE WORK for me.
He also doesn't even contribute 50% of all the bills if I count food bill. We both work and I think I am paying more for all the food he eats.
Is he right - is it a wife's duty to pack him lunch every day and wake up before he does to make him breakfast - at 4am?
Thanks!
Answers:
Think long and hard before you marry this guy. His demands will increase when you get married not decrease. He doesn't sound like a partner in any sense of the word. He sounds like a control freak who will use you as long as you let him. It's time for you to do some self examination and figure out why you're with someone who clearly doesn't share your values.
Wow, your "so called" man is very old school. He needs to realize that this isn't the 1930's anymore. DO NOT MARRY THIS GUY!!! (I'm a dude myself and what he expects from you is just wrong). Plus, I can see that you're not happy with your current situation so why keep yourself in a quagmire? Food for thought.
The question is how much do you love him? And is it worth it? Everybody is different. If he's not worth it leave him. If you are having problems about trivial things like that is that what you wanna marry?
Please do me a favor and not marry this guy. Unless you talk to him and he actually changes but otherwise don't marry him. It will only get worse.
Sounds like he's the ideal candidate for ex-fiance.
J
if you don't like your current relationship then try to talk with him. there is no reason why you should go on doing chores that depress you.
Are you dating Archie Bunker? (is that reference too old) He's kind of an a$$hole. Don't kill yourself over this dirtbag!
u don't got to pack him food at 4am :p do it be4 u wake up and put it in the fridge... and tell him " it's in there!"
Oh my goodness.... Sounds like his mom did everything for his dad and that's what he's used too. Can u imagine what it would be like if u had children?! Aaahhhhh! U work so of course his demands are redicilous! And the fact is he's not asking u to do these things he Expects it which makes this situation sound like a disaster. Marriage is a team effort u do things for eachother to make life easier not harder. Sorry but it sounds like y two really need to talk about your expectations from eachother. Good luck
Even though I am 14. I know enough to know this is something you probably need to talk to your fiance about. Your engaged to be married which is a contract and this is only gonna get worse. Tell him how your feeling and express that your not his maid, your his fiance. Tell him its not the ninteen fiftys. The way my parents devided it. Mom does the cooking dad does the chores. And it isn't your job to get up at 5 to pack/make breakfast. Or just make it or go to back to bed. Goodluck with him seems like a loadfull.