Am I Gay, Bisexual Or Straight? Please help? (BA gets rewarded)?!


Question: Am I Gay, Bisexual Or Straight? Please help? (BA gets rewarded)?
I am a 16 year old boy. Lately, I've been pretty confused and stressed over determining what my sexuality maybe. I've had girlfriends before but the last time I had one was like a year and a half ago. Girls and even guys alwys say how is a good-looking, attractive, wealthy young boy like you single? I thank them but at the same time I say to myself for 2 reasons : 1. Although I'm confident with how I look and others love my appearance, I'm not the nicest person & 2 cuz my sexuality is getting in the way. I want to get married to a girl and have kids..but only problem is I don't get turned on by girls really; if I do it takes alot of work and effort. As for a boy I find attractive, it'll take a heartbeat for me to get turned on by him. I ALWYS fantasize sexually about boys but never girls and I want a boyfriend on the downlow to see what it's like and if I'd like it. Yes, I can see myself in a relationship with a boy but I can also see myself with a girl. I currently like this boy in my grade, he's all I think about and I don't even think about girls breasts or butt. Instead I like to look at attractive guys butts in jeans, etc. I wanna relationship with both a boy and girl but I feel more attracted to boys and because of this I feel it's keeping me from having a girlfriend. I haven't asked a girl out in a LONG time and idk what to do...what can I do to figure out my sexuality? what may it be? how do I accept it? any help or advice is greatly appreciated, thanks.

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I don't think you should label yourself, just go with whatever makes you happy. Whether you like boys or girls it shouldn't matter as long as you're happy with yourself and are free of your insecurities.



You can fantasize about whatever you choose, but from the sounds of this you are simply bisexual, nothing wrong with it, you just have to accept it, the sooner you accept it the happier you will be.



Sounds like you've answered your own question by the way you keep saying your more into boys, but also chucking in the part about liking girls too.
So from what i've read & the way you have portrayed yourself, i would say bisexual.



Have a sleepover with your best (male) friends, and go from there.

Meaning, play some games, watch porn, talk about masturbation and puberty, play truth and dare... see what happens.

Good luck.



you asked what i have in my mind exactly! I still do not have a answer as well :/ :( well good luck with it, and am not jus sayin it, but i've been going through this for quite a while! :/



There IS something wrong with being gay. You can be friends with guys, but do NOT have a sexual relationship except with a girl.

Holy Bible



i get you im 16 and i do like a boy and i feel the same way you do
i consider myself bi so i think your bi



You are a boy you wanted the girls but attracted towards the boys once you have s*e*x with a girl you will be alright but try after 3 years dont hurry now!...

I tried it and i am successful



you gay boy
accept who you are

and touch yourself to the thought of a guy then a girl and see when you end faster



You know yourself pretty well and what is the confusion? You are gay 100%!



Hanging a label on yourself is not good. Certain things you have to remember, first your going threw puberty and things are a little mixed up right now, they will change, but in what direction it is hard to say. You might trying sleeping over with this friend, if he cares about you, and he may be having the same problem and decide to experiment, most your age or younger do. Don't be shy hiding when your changing, see how he reacts to it, he may just be scared like you are. Guys need time with other guys for relaxation and just guy stuff, nothing wrong with nudity, it does not equal sex, unless you want it too, it just a totally free feeling that you can only have nude, and no your not going to be molested or raped, this has been blown out of proportion and it usually happens with a family member rather than someone you know or don't know. All guys like to look at other guys regardless of what they say, no harm and no foul. If something happens, it does, if it don't, don't worry your perfectly normal teenager going threw puberty, make the most of it.



We are supposed to have come a long way in civilization and yet it seems to me that the Western Nations, especially the USA, is turning into a haven for bigots. We need to accept each other's individuality and realize that we are not all right wing religious nuts.
I would suggest, after reading your question, that you do not break your head over this sort of thing. You are still young and have your life in front of you. All of us have various degrees of straight, bi and gay in us. Even the straightest guy would not want to watch porn where the actor has a limp small penis. They want to watch huge,throbbing, raging cOcks!.
Live your life and do what feels good.



It sounds like you are more attracted to a boy, and if you are thinking sexually about him-sounds like you are gay. There is NOTHING wrong with this. Maybe find a man who is openly gay and date him and experiment. You can still have a family with a man and adopt a child if it comes down to it. Do what feels right.



theres no harm in trying out a guy. give it a go and see how you like it, if you like men more than women than thats your answer its ok to like men if your a guy its just a way of exploring yourself and others. dont worry about what people think its your choice on what you want to do with yourself and whatever makes you happy should make others be happy for you. just take your time and think about what you want to do its your own decision :) and be happy with what you choose for yourself, remember its only up to you and its not anyones business if they dont like it oh well thats their problem as long as your happy :)...hope i helped




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