I caught my boyfriend masturbating?!


Question: I caught my boyfriend masturbating?
So the other day we got home and we settled down in to our normal routine, I put my daughter to sleep and then my boyfriend went into the bathroom, he said he had to go to the bathroom and I had told him I needed to use his laptop, well I was having problems with it, so I walked into the bathroom and he's sitting on the toilet and goes Oh **** you scared me, and I see him holding his iphone and I look down and I see his junk hanging up (I guess) and I look at his phone and hes like oh you scared me...and as he says that on the sly he exits out of a program and I confront him and ask him What were you just looking at? and he says nothing? I tell him Im not an idiot I just saw you looking at something hes like oh your seeing things I wasn't looking at anything and I ask him Were you just beating it? And hes like no I wasn't and I was like okay, whatever can you fix the laptop for me so he does and as I exit I ask him do you want me to lock the door and he's like no its okay since you brust in regardless and I tell him well you do it to me soo...
Anyways I go out to our living room and the way our house is set up is if the bathroom window is open all I have to do is look out the living room widow and I can see the toilet and shower, so I look out the window and there he is iphone in hand beating it, so now Im just freaking pissed, hurt, angry, heartbroken and embrassed and I feel like wtf? So I go in and I burst in again and Im like Dude! you just ******* lied to me, I just saw you thru the freaking window beating it and he's like well why were you looking at me? I told him cause I knew you were freaking lying to me! So long story short, I catch him confront him tell him what I saw he denys he was looking at anything, and he wouldn't show me the history, and later told me yeah he was looking at porn. I understand that masturbating is a natural normal healthy thing, but heres my question why on gods green earth would he be sitting in the bathroom masturbating to porn other girls, when I'm right out in the other room AND he has photos of me, our daughter was asleep and I wasn't even busy, why didnt he even come to me? And when I asked him that he said Every time I try to get some from you, you push me away and I tell him Thats because everytime you want it, you pick the worst times, when our daughters awake for example? Im not gonna let my daughter sit there crying while we do it? when Im making dinner not the right time either

Im so hurt by what I caught him doing, he knows Im insecure and Im up front about it too, I let him know flat out yes Im insecure I just had a baby a year ago of course Im insecure!
But why didnt he come get me if he wanted some and why did he have to look at porn he has nudes of me, I wouldnt of cared if he was just plain old masturbating, but its the fact that he didn't come get me, I wasnt doing anything, and he was looking at porn, knowing that I hate porn.

Answers:

Just tell him that next time instead of looking at porn, he should come to you. Real sex would feel better than masturbating any way.



sorry but he did nothing wrong. what right do you have to bust in on some one in the bathroom any way, did you ever hear of privacy,



surprise surprise



Men do it all the time.

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Maybe you've let yourself go and he was jerking off to old pics of you.



Give him something to masturbate to! Love it when my girl does herself while I watch.

Think you two need to communicate better. What's wrong with porn anyway?



I guess you are not pleasing him enough



NEWSFLASH - men jerk off............

What more can I add get over it.



Whilst guys jerk off a hell of a lot, his timing and attitude ain't the best.

You both need to talk this out, when your daughter isn't awake. You need to have a rational conversation without bringing emotions into it. The best way I know, is the heart-to-heart chat. You get a stuffed toy - a heart or bear - and one person starts out and gets to say whatever is on their mind. Probably, this should be you. Your man is NOT allowed to interrupt, no matter how tempting, until you have said what you need to say. Then you pass the toy across; and he says what's on HIS mind.

In turn, YOU are not allowed to interrupt HIM. Until he has finished speaking. Then he passes the toy back, and you say your bit... and so on, until both of you have finished.

He needs to spend more time making you feel wanted. But you also need to look at why you hate porn. It's not just men who look at it. In fact, the biggest 'users' of porn are actually couples.

Also, understand that often a quick w@nk is all we need to let off steam. It doesn't involve all the usual expectations that comes with sexual intercourse; plus most guys have been doing it since they were a kid or teen. It's a normal, natural part of their life. It isn't a replacement for a relationship, and can indeed, enhance it.

I suspect, though, if you can't discuss things like the way I suggest, you could be headed for trouble down the line.



Omg! The same thing happened to me a while back and i can symapthise with the hurt you feel over this!! Mens minds work different to ours, while we are content with making love and having children and a family life, they still want the filthy sex lifes and are still as selfish as ever. i would definatly keep an eye on him the next couple of weeks and dont take no **** off him. in my eyes doing what hes done is a form of cheating and i was pissed for weeks after i foundt out.
hope you can sort things out, chin up.



Ok so the only thing I can think of is that you're not exactly good looking. Also are you f************* stupid? Why the f*** would you go into the bathroom while he's in there? You must be so stupid you've never heard of privacy. I don't blame him. I would do the same thing if I had you for a gf.



I understand that a whole lot of women feel the same way about this as you do but the cold hard facts are; most guys, married or in a steady relationship, are still beating off and 99% of them are looking at erotic pictures/videos or some type of porn. It has nothing to do with his feelings about you or his love for you, it's all about his being able to separate love from sex and his much higher libido than most females for wanting to get off (one way or another, depending on the time and circumstance). He is not comparing you with any porn star or another woman either, he is simply looking at various body parts, e.g. boobs, legs and as.s. A woman's boobs her legs, and her as.s can and do give men erections and make them horny and hot and on Any Woman. "Testosterone does not discriminate!" He is going to masturbate whether you are in the house or 100 miles away and all men do this~ "Believe me they do". Don't allow this to affect your ego or self esteem, it's a man thing and it isn't going to go away. I'm not trying to justify or take up for men just because I am one but we are just slaves to our lust for the female body and it's programmed into our genes. It also perpetuates the survival of the species. I sincerely hope you can accept this.



Men and masturbation go together like peanut butter and jelly. Its not IF its going to happen, its WHEN.

The bigger question is why he would NEED to masturbate in the first place. Men need sex. Its in our very DNA. No sex regularly = masturbation regularly. If you don't want the BF to masturbate you had best be working his "tab A" a bit more often with your "slot B".



You guys need to have a better relationship and talk together about this. Your bf should be honest with you and just say what is needed to be said. You two have have a kid together, you both should know you can go to each other if somethings up, whether it be a problem, relationship, or just to talk.



He has aids...

me dipshit




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