How can I get my husband to get his vasectomy reversed?!


Question: How can I get my husband to get his vasectomy reversed?
We've been married for 5 years now. I'm 37 and he's 40. My husband had a vasectomy from a previous marriage, when she broke up with because she wanted kids. Before we got married, he said that we were never going to have children and I accepted his choice. Now I changed my mind, but he still won't change his. He never was a kid person.

How can I convince my husband to get his vasectomy reversed and have children with me? How can I get him to like kids?

Answers:

His body, his choice.

End of.



You can't. Should not have married him if you planned to have children when he clearly said he did not want any. If he doesn't like kids, he doesn't need to father any kids. If he does like kids but doesn't want to try a reversal, which isn't always successful, you might see if he'd consider adoption. Given your older ages, a newborn would not reach adulthood until you are both nearly 60. But you could consider adoption of an older child and give a child a family while having an instant family yourself. Most likely your hormones are letting you know you only have a short time left to produce a child, and that is why you have changed your mind.



When a man gets a vasectomy, it is by his choice alone. When a man reverses a vasectomy, it's because of the same thing...he chooses to reverse it. There is nothing you can say or do that will make him reverse it. You can pray. You can express your feelings. You can do research and present it to him on how unhealthy vasectomies are. But in the end, it is his choice. And as someone else said, would you really want to have a child with a man who isn't that interested in being a father?

Your biological clock is ticking. Personally, I'd leave him for someone that shares your same life's interests and goals. GL.



Sorry, but he did tell you that he never wanted to have kids before he married you, yet you still choose to marry him. Now, you want kids but he still doesn't. You'll either have to accept things the way they are, as you did when you got married, or... like his first wife, you'll have to leave him as well.



If he really doesnt want children then you have to accept this. It wouldnt be fair to bring a child into the world if only one of the parents really wanted you. Of course he could really take to the idea once the child is born but there is a big risk that he wouldnt.



You can't expect him to change. You knew what you were getting when you married him. It seems men get married and hope their wives won't change. Women get married and hope their husbands will.




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