I cannot control my sexual desires?!

Question: I cannot control my sexual desires?

This question is mostly for guys, as I am a guy. But before some of you, too overly righteous freaks, flag my question as inappropriate, consider that this is in fact a problem for me, and I'm trying to learn as much as possible on how to get through with it. Anyway, I have recently discovered that the more I allow people to see my body, the more they praise me and give me complements, which in turn, gives me a HUGE boost of self esteem. I now understand why many guys and girls are so sexual. I used to be like a monk, never even went out with anyone. Always studies and family. But lately, I have been experiencing and people are really reaching out to me. It feels great! It feels like I am wanted, and liked! It also makes me happy because it also feels like I am sharing. Of course, don't take me wrong, I am not stupid, and I do watch out whom I am sharing with and how.... But it's a great feeling of being admired, liked, wanted... Makes me feel like a full human being. It's strange I did not find this before. On the other hand, it has become an addiction. This is all I think about. I am never satisfied. I want more and more and more. No matter how many times, (excuse my language, I ***... it feels like I can go on and on..... It's like there is this machine that sits there and wont shut off... Not to mention that I am a 25 year old. I'm not a teenager here with hormone boost... Anyway, guys, if any of you have gone through similar situations in life, please share your inputs. Please do not call me a whore, and do NOT refer to the Bible. Scientific or sociological view would be more appreciated. Thank you!

Answers:

As a 25 yo - you are in your sexual prime --
And your sexuality would only be a problem if you are being unduly promiscuous or having unprotected sex.
You may be a "late bloomer" - and are just now hitting your sexual peak - when some of your friends may have hit theirs earlier.
Your "addiction" to sex only becomes a problem when you can not do without it, can not stop it, or can not function on a daily basis because you are obsessed with sex. At that point - you need to seek counseling from a therapist.
In all of your "sharing" - Can you separate the person and the "act"? Can or are you having meaningful relationships with any of your partners? or are all of them "One-night stands"? In other words - are you being a "player" for your own gratification -- or are you developing a committed relationship with someone? What is the "end goal" of all your new-found sexual prowess??
Are you looking for Mrs. Right -- or Ms. Right-now?
Maybe by asking some tough questions of yourself -- you can determine if you need some therapy -- I'm thinking - yes ---

Just about every guy goes through their sexual roller coasters different stages of their life so, there is definitely nothing wrong with you. Just always remember to use a condom with whoever you're sharing with.

let it work its self out. or just ask your self is this necissary right now? how well do i know this person? will i end up with herpes from this guy?

and remember use condoms

My wife was a 32 year old virgin when we married - and she is trying to make up for lost time - can't seem to get enough. I'M the one that gets a headache at our house. Her motor's ALWAYS running - Mercy!

Just think - your sexuality has ALWAYS been there, hidden by doubts & fears & once you found it - whoopee - there's no going back now! LOL It will run it's course in due time. Life is not always the way it's supposed to be. It's just the way it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference.

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