Men only please: Why on earth would my husband ask me not to get a boob job?!

Everything you have speculated upon are true answers for some people. Some may apply to him, some may not. Only he can tell you this.

But the rational, cut through the drama answer to this is to compromise with him. I know us men don't like to 'talk' that much, especially such subjects with our significant others. However, you need to discuss it in whatever way you can.

If he just won't open up to you one on one.. ask him if he would mind emailing so he could have time to answer at his convenience and it might be easier to express things. For some people this is true. Or any other atmosphere... the thing is you can't, obviously, just force him to have a specific conversation. In his mind he has answered the question with all the comprehensive thought it requires. You don't think so. :)

You seem to indicate you have a rather large difference in size between your natural breasts. Common, but a large difference can logically, even from a mans perspective, be a fairly large inconvenience. So on that alone you could have them 'matched up' so to speak. Only minimally increasing in size. I'm talking half a cup or less for symmetry. Perhaps less of an increase, and playing more into the making them 'equal' is a better argument from your side.

You want him to support you during this.. so before this is done it needs to be settled of course. Nor do you want anything else that is semi-permanent to create extra strife in the relationship.

I would say this. If you have a D cup and C cup as it stands. I would think it reasonable to stay with the D cup,and have the surgeon lift the breasts as well while things are being 'done', so to speak. It will look bigger simply because of the lift, but also because the C is now the full D. It will be noticeable, especially to those who know you of course. But shouldn't be so drastic people are just gawking .

Do men not enjoy the feel of fake breasts? Meh.. another one of those some do some don't. I think that is phrased inappropriately. Men enjoy the feel of all breasts (on reasonable looking females) real or fake. Now do they enjoy more a real breast vs a fake.. perhaps, some.. most don't really care to be honest. (I cannot speak for all of mankind :) .. but from my experience, friends, and so on it is definitely not something that we even really think of.

The implant can technically be placed under the breast muscle, but in your case I think it would have a better effect on the outside. The surgeon will be able to address that in a split second though.

Yes, some guys go for less attractive men (as do women) due to their own insecurities. In obvious logic, the less attractive the less likely other guys will flirt with her, the less opportunities she will have to leave me, cheat on me, etc... perhaps even realize what a 'catch' she has with me.. and vice versa. How prevalent this is.. I really don't know. A comprehensive study would need to be done I suppose. :)

So the argument that you have indirectly made could be perhaps he is beating around the bush, avoiding the question because he doesn't want your 'appeal' to go up.. for reasons of insecurity, etc. Who knows, and I don't think alot of guys would openly admit such insecurities in this situation, so don't expect that answer out of him, nor hint towards that notion. It won't go over well, so isn't worth the trouble.

Again, compromise, and communicate.. anyway you can! It doesn't have to be face to face.. get creative. Be tactful, carefully think things out but don't over-think and over analyze your way out of solid statements. Keep it concise , short, and to the point, but not over generalized. (unlike this reply ;) )

Lastly, be as honest as you are in this post with him. Maybe tone down the 'frustration' a little (of course).. but otherwise let him know exactly what your problem is in a really nice and tactful way that will lure him into wanting to answer.

Also, think of the pro's vs con's. Do this yourself, WRITE it down on paper. Give it some time, add to it over a few days. Then analyze your list. Now use those pro's to help with any insecurities or problems you may anticipate he has. IE: Think of our sex, this should spice it up... (He will probably respond I like them/you just the way you are.. ) **Which is the best answer and if true really hard to argue against**. IE: It will renew my own confidence as I have be self conscious of this since before we met and always said when I had the means to do this I would. (( I think you should play the self-conscious, self psychological, with a bit of the inconvenience factor more than how good you will look.))

Hopefully you will get alot of answers that will put you in a place to better deal with this.

Take care,

You're going to do it, anyway - so - what's your problem.
There are risks involved & he's thinking ahead to your 60th birthday & whether they will look like hanging baskets - or they spring a leak & cause death defying illnesses, etc.
He may not like the idea of parts of you being 'artificial.'

Hunny maybe he just likes you for you, maybe he wants you to be perfect in your own skin (which you are already) and not have fake things cut into you, he obviously loves you for you, dont change x

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You should be able to communicate openly with your husband about this.

Most men prefer women with real breasts and he probably thinks you look good.

im so glad my wife has small boobs, they are like 32A and they really are “adorable assets” !:)

Nah when i see a women with fake boobs... you ask yourself "What else if fake about that women"

Im guessing you want cancer too?

we tend to prefer natural over big

maybe he doesn't like the plastic look

If you were my wife, I'd support your decision for a "boob job" if it made you feel better about yourself as long as it weren't some radical change. In fact what you propose is rather reasonable.
I don't think your husband is clinging to your insecurity so much as he is to his own. He may be worried that once the new and improved you hits the streets that you may attract more attention from other men. To your husband, that's potential competition. Maybe he fears that you would stray.
But then again, maybe he just likes you the way you are. Maybe your breasts don't mean as much to him as you yourself mean to him.
It certainly is a shame that he wont discuss the matter with you. My instinct would be to tell him that if he won't at least discuss it with you that you'll just do it anyway. But that is not very conducive of a healthy happy marriage.

He knows he likes large breasts,but odds are he didn't marry you for your boobs. He might not want you to change if he thinks you're doing it for him. It could be seen as a man's low character if his wife thinks she has to change herself for him. He may not want to be "that kind of guy". Or perhaps he prefers an "all natural woman". The only way to really know of his hesitation is to talk with him. Tell him the truth, that this is for you. Communication is key.

God bless!

maybe he likes you the way you are. he,s the only 1 that you have to please is,nt it? unless you have to please yourself. he picked you did,nt he and you had big boobs then did,nt you? so he took you the way your were. if you go ahead and get it don,t unknown to him your relationship might not be as good. myself a woman,s boobs is the last thing that i,am interested in. i look foe a nice personality and a nice smile.