What's wrong with wanting to keep your virginity until marriage?!
Question: What's wrong with wanting to keep your virginity until marriage?
WHY!?
It's that persons prerogative and not anyone else's. So what if that person want someone who also is saving themselves? It's about being clean and pure along with the other person.
I can't wrap my head around it. Why is it wrong to not have sex and only want to marry someone who also hasn't had sex?
Answers:
ABSOULUTELY NOTHING.
I`m a teenage girl, and I never plan on having sex until I`m married. However, I find this extremely hard with the media making it so 'casual'. I find myself curious, and I don`t know if I will be able to achieve it. I see the people who choose abstience as honorable. The peer pressure of highschool (even middle school) is horrible, and I cannot even begin to imagine what the adult pressures are. I have deep respect for anyone who even attempts abstinence.
I don't think anything is wrong with "moral obligations to save it for marriage"
if you are posting a question in Religion section.
But this is Mens Health and I answer on that basis.
Saving it for marriage is fine if you marry at 15.
Because Human Body is designed to start Sex at c.14 in most boys
and because "saving it" just doesn't keep.
You only have to Answer questions on here for a couple of years
to learn that all the guys having problems in sex are guys who
"saved it" and waited until 20's to start.
Amazingly the boys who start at 14 or so just seem to sail through.
I am not encouraging this = merely reporting a fact.
Certainly boys who start sex later han 16 seem to have more problems.
I can't see how someone is cleaner or purer at say 25.
Marriage is a very important step in Life. It is immoral to waltz into it with
no experience at all, and then discover you are both sexually incompatible.
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Believe it or not, I know lots of young adults who are saving themselves for marriage. This concept is not as common as it once was, but there are a lot more young adults who espouse this value than there were, for instance, in the 1970s/80s.
Ultimately, it is the choice of the individual; it is individual values which are valued these days, not primarily societal values.
I have a lot of contact with young people, and it is truly amazing how many of them are deciding to wait. One young friend tells me that the number of HS students who are virgins is about 60%; this agrees very well with research I have read which puts the number at 57% and trending upward. This research was several years ago, so I think my young friend really has a handle on the question.
Not everyone looks down on that view. I wish I had kept it until marriage. My wife did, and it is a wonderful thing. Lots of people feel that way, but because of pressure from peers, the media, TV, and etc. most people unfortunately see it the other way. Keep your faith, stay strong, and it will be well worth it to find a bride who is also a virgin, and you will enjoy a lifetime of learning about it with her. To sum it up, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it, and everything right.
It's always going to be a battle of temptation. We live in a spiritual warfare you just need abstain from it. There nothing like having sex with someone you really care about other than that it's just sex. Jesus forgives all sins even of sexual immorality. So it becomes a battle of faith and what kind of values you really have. Being able to say no just because you feel you don't have to.
I think it is not wrong to have before marriage and it is also not bad to marry to someone who also hasn't had sex.
There's nothing wrong with it. I applaud your decision. Not many people these days care enough about their future to do what you're doing.
My wife & I were both virgins when we married. We survived.
So far, it's been 36 years & still going strong.
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