Please answer!!! dont know what to do?!


Question: Please answer!!! dont know what to do?
im 18 and asian. i been messing with this guy who is 20 and he's white.i met him at school and we're just buddys. not even friends, is how i look at it. i been having sex with him for the past two months almost. and its getting annoying. like, we're not a couple. he only texts me at night just to come over and "hang out" .. i been letting this go on for awhile now because i never had sex with a white guy before, i always been into asains. but something about him turned me on. so i kept letting him come get some whenever he wanted. i like his size too ;) anyways lol... im starting to catch feelings for him. i dont want to tell him because hes not that type to have a serious relationship. he always talks about partying and i know he loves drinking beer. so yeah, hes definitily not serious with me, he just likes getting some. i dontknow what to do cause i been letting him use me and i feel stupid, but i cant help it. hes soo good and cute.. LOL

Answers:

First of all, ignore all these trolls who insist on calling you bad names. You're old enough to decide whether to have sex or not and there's nothing wrong with having sex with a consenting adult partner.

The racial difference between you and this guy is interesting, I suppose, but ultimately irrelevant. The issue here is that you are in a purely sexual relationship with this guy. Right now, you are f**kbuddies, and you're not satisfied with that arrangement. That arrangement needs to end.

If you're certain the guy is not serious about you, end it completely. If you think he is, or at least might be, willing to commit to a long-term, exclusive relationship with you, then put that on the line and say, "Dude, we've been bumping bellies for chuckles for long enough; I want for us to be an exclusive, long-term couple. Is that what you want, too?" and then if he says yes, make sure he treats you in a manner consistent with his answer to that question.

Be firm. It doesn't matter how cute he is or how good he makes you feel in bed if the rest of your relationship with him isn't working. Good luck and be strong!



Yeah, as of right now all he wants is to party and chill. He's not into looking for a relationship, he just wants to have fun. Sex, drinking, and parties. That's normal for people around 17-24 or whatever age you stop. I wouldn't get with him though, if you like having sex with him then do so. If you don't like it tell him and he will find someone else.



Are U really confused? U ask your questions and your anwsers all mixed in but U want IT (SEX). U R letting everything go out of control. It really doesn't sound like U want to let go. I don't think anyone here can give U advice that U will follow. Plus U really need one to one communications. U need somebody to help U with your emotions.. U need to come forward to see a counselor or an adult that can give U help & support.



Your a trashy girl for giving him that sorry but I don't respect you for that but pray and ask him say I'm tired of sex let's get serious if he says no say bye!



lol ur his booty call, if ur starting to develop feelings for him you should end it before someone gets hurt.



r u prostitute? no morality at all...



will u should go on. That is not relationship in the long run u will get hurt
he will be doing something he dos not believe in. besides if he did it wont be pure love.
because the way he thinks, also as far as using u , will u r right. u taught him to do this.
now it well become harder to let go.
I had this bad experience and all i did was live in a world of denial, don't make that mistake,
fine someone who will love u and who would want a relationship.


I wish u luck,,



Don't let this guy use you, I am sure there are many white men that would want you as a girlfriend.
I am married to a Chinese woman and I am the first and only white guy she ever made love to, she also said that she likes my size,
Please find a good guy that will love you for you and not because you are putting out, he will take you out to dinner, movies and many other places since he will love to be seen with you in public.
And don't listen to these other morons that call you a slut, prostitute, etc., you are just a confused young lady.
Good Luck!y

A concerned father of 2 great daughters




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