Guys answer please :)?!


Question: Guys answer please :)?
Ok. I am a 17 year old Christian and so is he. It may be irrelevant but Christians do have slightly different styles of dating compared to.. non-Christians.

He talks to me all the time. Like ALL the time. He sometimes jokes around and says things about me being attractive or pretty. He asks me about my day and tells me every detail of his. He talks to me about deep issues.

I usually get the feel straight away for guys who are interested in me but I simply cannot work this one out. It's messing with my head. I can't figure out whether I have a crush on him because I'm interested in the way I don't know what he's thinking or feeling or because I actually like him. He's nice, caring, could possibly be very loving, funny (sometimes it's just lame), attractive, manly and he seems very protective.

I know if I want to find out how he feels I should indicate my interest. But it's so hard for me. I've never had to make the first move as the guy always has. Another obstacle - 2, possibly 3 of my friends like him. One is completely in love with him. He's not the typical ladies man, so I don't know what's going on.

Please, what should I do?

Answers:

As a Christian you are right it is different, there is a standard and he is more than likely being careful to not fall to hard too fast. he's 17 hormones are flowing and he has normal desires, joking around and being silly can be his way of blowing off that going too far feeling.
I know for me, it was more important to build a friendship and a trust first once that is truly in place, you can start building on that. Girls do like definition and a label, that might not be his thing, talk about that. I know as a guy, its so hard for us to not go to the next level, but its sounds like he answers to a higher power. Pray and ask God about this relationship, if he;s really the one for you or not.
I would pray like this, Lord I know you have a plan that is good for my life, your Word says that is jeremiah 29:11. I know I have plans desires and I only want your will and purpose for my life , i know that it will bring true joy and happiness that will last my whole life long. please close any and all door that I may have opened or that have been opened for me. open the proper doors and seal the doors that do not align with Your perfect plan for. In Jesus name amen.
it will work. it worked for me. I'm married now we walked in purity our wedding night was our first. God has truly blessed us with a great friendship and marriage most do not have in our current culture. blessings

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Clearly he is interested in you, and as you sem to be having a good time together, why would you want to change anything?

Showing that you are interested is not the same as making the first move. There are already many moves made. All you have to do is to keep enjoying is company.

One day, perhaps, you guys will have to confront the 'sexual intercourse' barrier. BUt here's no need to hurry, and as you are Christians, maybe you will marry first anyway.



If you like him a lot, why don't make a first move, now girl can do that too, to hold someone she love.
Just go for it, no regret.

You go, Girl !!



i agreee with railey you can make the first move......



Not sure what is your question.

This guy is a compulsive communicator
I think he likes you.

Is it a problem you are competing with one of your friends
Why do you find it a problem to "indicate your interest".

I'm not sure you are making the first move
but this guy may be waiting for you to respond to his moves.

Also i'm not sure why the Christian thing is getting in the way
unless you are both "virgin marriage" freaks.

How typical actually is American style "ladies man"
( most of whom spend their life drinking with the boys).

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wow...you do not get a ladies man and you are unsatisfied? Sorry...but if i were a girl I would be more than satisfied!

Well...just forget what wrote up there and read! He might be very obsessive because he talks to you like all the time....but maybe he is a loner too and that is why you are troubling to know his feelings! Loners usually do not want to show their feelings....but girl he is with you all the time....he must really like you to do that....I myself would get bored of someone if i talked to them all day long!

Just show some interest in him...and he will probably make the first step for once----and how could you expect someone to whom you show no interest make the 1st step huh?!! And if still he does not make it then if you want to go one with him just do it yourself! Everything has a first time! :D

And yeah...your type of dating is exactly like anyone else....you just do not involve sex! And sex is not dating...it is just sex--and maybe love too!




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