How can I last longer while having sex?!

How can I last longer while having sex?

Men, I need your help and advice.
I am 38 years old and only got married about 2 years ago. Before I got married, I was a compulsive masterbator. I jerked off at will....I had many girls then but could still do it several times a day.

Now , that I got married I find that not only do I not last very long during sex (I come within 2 to 3 minutes) but I cannot manage more than one round of sex whenever I do it...

I still secretly masturbate. Could this be the reason?

I do not drink or smoke but have since gained a lot of weight. Could this be the reason?

.please help

Masturbating, if done very rapidly and often can train you to ejaculate quicker than you'd like. However, you can use maturbation to retrain as well! Try doing a 'start/stop' routine- when you're nearing release, stop yourself, wait a minute or two, continue, etc....

This is better done with a partner- I really hope that you have spoken with her about this, she can really help!

Also, antidepressants (the SSRI's such as effexor, prozac, paxil) have the usually unwanted side effect of extending orgasm, it is often recommended to PE's.

If you have gained weight, that usually would slow your circulation, making it harder to ejaculate. Probably not the reason.

Talk to your wife, though! Acknowledge that this is something you'd like to work on with her.