Help! Serious answers, please!?!

Help! Serious answers, please!?

I’m a 25 years old guy and a virgin. I always believed in abstinence but I’ve been masturbating frequently since before puberty –recently almost every day. I’m not trying to be a pervert here.
Problem is, recently, the only way to actually be turned on is by masturbating. I don’t get aroused visually until I start masturbating; I don’t get erection unless masturbating –while watching porn- or when thinking about sex.
I started getting intimate with my GF a couple of times. While she was giving me oral, I was not turned on or get erection, not until I started fantasizing about her and when she was giving me a handjob. I was very stressed too, she’s 9 years older and has great sexual experience. She’s the 1st woman to ever be intimate with. Continues...

4 weeks ago
Before, we used to cyber sex and masturbate and I used to get good erection –she seen it on cam. After, she said maybe cam was lying –it was flaccid/smaller- then she said she was joking. My erect penis size is about 5.5’; girth is about 5’-just in case it matters, sorry if it’s irrelevant. I don’t have erectile dysfunction; I always get and maintain good erection. I’m very concerned I was not that much into porn nor masturbation until lately. I used to be aroused and get erection visually not necessarily by masturbating. BTW, I have a high sex drive.
It’s very disturbing. Is this normal? What can/should I do? Is it going to change if I replace masturbation by real sex? Ladies, would you leave your boyfriend –getting engaged soon- of 1.5 year for this or would you wait for him to be ready? Help and serious answers, please! Thanks!

I'm sorry, this sounds really stressful for you. You've probably just gotten too used to what you do, since you've been doing it for 10+ years and haven't done anything else, really. You've trained yourself that this is the only way that it is done, and you're going to need to break yourself of the habit. You should probably stop masturbating for a while. When you're with her, it seems like it's a mental game for you. Since you don't really have the anticipation of what's going to happen (since you don't really know) you probably just need to work on your mental game. Psych yourself up- think about her at other times- put her in your mind, and her doing something to you whenever you get aroused.

You probably have performance anxiety as well, because she is older and more experienced.

If I was your girlfriend, and I knew you were just getting going, physically, with a girl for your first time, I would be very patient. I think you need to be patient with yourself too. If you can get it up at all (and you said you can, when you masturbate), it's not erectile dysfunction. It sounds like it's a training issue.