I need help, please! was molested as a child. serious answers, please?!


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I need help, please! was molested as a child. serious answers, please?

I’m 24 and a guy. When I was 10 I was molested by two of my neighbors and it happened occasionally later but not for long. I could overcome this by myself and went on with my life. I have a great family and great friends. I’ve joined one a top college and almost done. I had a strict upbringing also. I started to think about this again just lately after the break-up with my ex girlfriend of a year –she was 8 years older. She cheated, gave her chances, cheated again, used me emotionally and financially, treated me like crap. Finally I broke-up with her 8 months ago. She was molested, raped, ex-sex addict, ex-alcoholic, ex-drug addicted and was married to an abusive husband whom she finally cheated with and went back to. Nobody knows about me being molested. I’m a virgin –I chose to be- and the couple of times I tried to have sex with her I was not much excited and didn’t have erection. continues...

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4 weeks ago
The relationship was very stressful especially her long sexual addiction of all kinds, it made me very stressed to get intimate with her. I did not stay with her despite of how badly she treated me because I felt I don’t deserve any better but because I loved her so much for so long. Now, I started to think about me being molested could be holding me back from having real sex? I do masturbate –sadly watch much porn- and have no problem with erection or ED. I had a very low self-esteem and self-worth after her repeated cheating while I treated her like a princess. Now, I started to think about my bad experience and it’s getting worse with my self-esteem and gets me worried about being able to have real sex? I have absolutely no desire at all to same sex or children. I love to be with a woman and I get highly aroused with it. continues...

4 weeks ago
People say I’m good looking and a lot of hot girls at college ask me out and on the personality side I’m kind, caring, funny, outgoing and has always been praised to be very smart. I’m not seeing anyone now. I was totally over being molested but now I think about it a lot after the sex thing with my ex and her cheating. My self-esteem and self-worth are very low. Anyone been there? What did you do? Could be my experience holding me back from real sex? Or it was the stressful relationship and being a virgin? HELP, PLEASE! Serious answers, please!


Answers:

It sounds like you found someone that had a similar experience and past as you, which is not what you need. No wonder you couldn't go through with it with her, you were both victims.

Make sure that the next girl that you start a relationship with is different than any other girl you have dated and hasn't had the same abuse or most importantly any symptoms of a deeper issue (alcoholic, drugs, over sexuality.)

Good luck.




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