Should I tell the guy I'm dating I have HPV?!


Question: I have the high risk version of HPV which causes cancer and not genital warts. Whoever gave it to me didn't know he had it. I wouldn't have discovered it but for the fact that several years ago a condom broke and then my boyfriend told me he had contracted genital warts. So I went to the doctor to get checked.

The test indicated I already had HPV, but I I didn't get the low risk HPV (genital warts) because I created antibodies when I caught the high risk HPV, whenever that might have been. Should I tell everyone I might have sex with that I have it? It is highly contagious.

They don't know that it does anything to men, but 5% of all women with HPV will get cervical cancer. Also 70% of all cervical cancer is caused by this strain of HPV.

My friends and doctors say I don't have to say anything because it doesn't affect the men I may give it to and that all adults who have had more than two sex partner probably contracted a form of HPV. I think that is uncool.

Answers: I have the high risk version of HPV which causes cancer and not genital warts. Whoever gave it to me didn't know he had it. I wouldn't have discovered it but for the fact that several years ago a condom broke and then my boyfriend told me he had contracted genital warts. So I went to the doctor to get checked.

The test indicated I already had HPV, but I I didn't get the low risk HPV (genital warts) because I created antibodies when I caught the high risk HPV, whenever that might have been. Should I tell everyone I might have sex with that I have it? It is highly contagious.

They don't know that it does anything to men, but 5% of all women with HPV will get cervical cancer. Also 70% of all cervical cancer is caused by this strain of HPV.

My friends and doctors say I don't have to say anything because it doesn't affect the men I may give it to and that all adults who have had more than two sex partner probably contracted a form of HPV. I think that is uncool.
HPV is the most common STD....and yes ur right u can't hurt him because he doesn't have a cervix however he could give it to another woman.....It takes about 2 years for ur immune system to supress the virus....However many girls these days are getting the Gardisil shot so they are immune to ur strain of HPV....u should get the shot 2 even if u already have HPV....however the infection decreases in severity after a few months unless urs is really high.....seems like ur getting the proper medical attention which is great! How close are u with him? Anyone would freak out if u told them that an although u r thinking of his health he probably won't sleep with u.....or want to be near u....if he's ok with it def use a condom which i'm sure u know....but by telling him or abstaining from sex is a very honorable thing to do....
Thank you for picking me as best answer!! I hope everything works out ok.....and believe me this disease will be eradicated in a couple generations it will no longer exist...take care. Report It

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    • You must. It is the only moral thing to do in this situation.
    You already know the answer to this question. But, I will state it for you. Yes, you are obligated to tell anyone you may have sex with that you have HPV. If your "then boyfriend" had told you, then, you would have had a choice not to have sex with him.
    If you are tested for HPV and are told by your physician, nurse or other healthcare provider that you have the virus, it is your own, personal decision whether to tell your partner. It is important to remember that most adults will get one or more types of HPV at some point in their lives. Chances are, your partner was already exposed to HPV by the time your infection was detected. Likewise, it is impossible to know for certain from whom you got the HPV virus in the first place. You could have been exposed in another relationship months or years earlier, and the infection may have been dormant in the meantime.

    In addition, if your partner is a male, you should be aware that there is currently no FDA-approved HPV test for men. Thus, there is no way to determine whether he has the virus. Fortunately, serious, HPV-related health problems also are relatively rare in men.
    Any man you have sex with will have sex with other women, and pass it on. The only way to stop the HPV outbreaks is honesty with your partners. I know how embarrassing this is, but it is necessary. I'm sure your doctors told you that your body can recover? Why don't you get rechecked, and see if you have overcome it? Otherwise, no sex without disclosure!
    It isn't true that HPV does not affect men. Thousands of American men die every year from oral and penile cancers caused by HPV.

    Eventually, you will clear up the HPV. He should wear condoms though, unless he does not care. You should tell him if you really care about him.


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