What would you do if your brother had cancer?!
Question: My brother, of 19, is in hospital with cancer and has less than 12 months to live, what would you do if he was coming home for christmas?
Answers: My brother, of 19, is in hospital with cancer and has less than 12 months to live, what would you do if he was coming home for christmas?
I would try to make it the best Christmas that he could have and I wouldn't treat it like it was his last Christmas. My parents were told 52 years ago I would die in 18 months well I'm writing to you aren't I???? I was supposed to die after complications of child birth with my youngest, she's now 15 and I'm still here. IF your brother has a strong will to live he may very well surprise every one and survive longer and may even go into remission. Have hope and treat him mostly like he's your brother not like an invalid. That's what he wants most just to be home with his family and have things as normal as possible. I know I've been diagnosed with breast cancer and I don't plan on going any where. I want to see my grand kids and great grands first.
Spend some time with him, talk with him, and let him know you love him.
Just love him and don't dwell on the drama. Enjoy him. Make sure nothing important is left unsaid. Let go of any old stuff you haven't forgiven him for.
Make the best of it.
If you have time, make him a scrap book of happy memories that you have shared. This will comfort him now, and will comfort you when he has gone.
My thoughts are with you.
i don't know...very sad indeed.
i'm speechless here...
my strength says he'd be better off when he goes... and so will you.
possibly i will over spend on the party as i like to make it memorable for him
and do what all he like just to see him smiling
for christmas he would be my god and i will try to make him happy any way
I would make it the best fun you can have depending on his treatmentand side effects, if he is still up for it, a good boys only session off beer sport on tv and useless but somehow important conversation about anything except cancer
First of all, I am so sorry to hear that. That sucks!
First, go get some great marijuana. Then, play some music. What does he want to do? Have a great time, talk? Find him an escort? That sounds like a joke, but I am totally serious. Maybe he still has some life in him. Isn't sex one of the most life affirming things in the world? Then, do whatever. Whatever he wants.
Jesus Christ I am so sorry to hear about that. That totally sucks!
I would give my brother lots of love. I would not act weird or awkward that makes them feel the same. I am sure they want to feel as normal as possible. Tell them you love them, but don't act like they are going to die. twelve months is a year, which can be a long time or short depending on how you see it. Some people are given a shorter prognosis and have lived years beyond what the doctors say. I feel for you and your family. I hope everything goes well.
i would have a party and drink carlsberg.
Try to put on a brave front and make the Holiday as pleasant as possible.Talk about happy times and don't let it show how upset you are.A cancer patient knows how sick they are and need to enjoy as much good will as we can humanly possibly give give them .It's not as easy task trying to be happy when your grieving for that person.I wish you the best time together you and your brother can have
Make it very special everything pull out all the stops make it a Christmas that you will all remember give your brother his dream presents and take it a day at a time try to put the c word out of all your minds and enjoy what you have for now. god bless you your brother, and family., I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas together,
I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. What a tough thing to deal with. I would try to be as positive and upbeat as possible. You can make it a time for the family to bond together and show your love for each other. Keep him comfortable but I wouldn't dote over him unless needed. Relax and be yourself as much as possible.
I want to share with you also that my husband ( now 41 yrs.old) was diagnosed with Cancer at 21. It was far advanced at the time and the outlook wasn't good. He endured a lot of treatments and surgery's which took a great toll on him but he was strong in both body and spirit and managed to survive. I just wanted you to know that there is always hope even when others say otherwise sometimes. Hang in there and keep the faith! I wish you all the best!!
Have the best time I could with him. Try not to focus on his illness but on having fun. maybe do some of the things from child hood like snowball fights and sledding but if he was unable to do that I would do things like read with him and sing Christmas songs.
my sister was diagnosed in July. we were just told it has spread to her liver.
i spend as much time as possible with her... as you should with your brother..... let him cry or be angry.... we have to let them grieve. if he wants to be happy let him... if he wants to be alone... let him know that you are there for him 24/7
this is a new road that we must travel and learn from. my heart goes out to you as well as everyone else dealing with a loved one. please keep us posted on his progress.
My heart is breaking for your brother as he is so young!!
When he comes home, be there for him. Treat him as you normally would and let him talk...be a good listener!! Be sure, to let him know how much you love him and what he means to your life. Be very careful not to speak of him in past tense...it does happen with a slip of the tongue!
Also, pray for him and with him. I too, am praying for him and I will continue to do so! Please keep me informed and e-mail me if you need to talk!
Blessings upon you and your family, at this time.
gail
I would try and make it a nice time for him. i would let him talk if he feels up to it . wow, i am so sorry. i just had radiation for cancer.
If he's been in the hospital, he will likely be quite ill when he comes home. In that case, he's the one that will have to decide what to do based on how he feels at any given moment. Ask him what he wants to do. He probably has his own list of things he wants to do when he comes home.