Why, Why, Why???!
Question: I have a friend that has been in Illinois, from TX. for the last 9 months carrying for her terminally ill father with lung cancer. The other day my friend found a lump in her own breast. Today the specialist has told her it is a mass and suspects cancer. Why has God allowed my friend to have possible cancer when she has devoted her whole life to taking care of her terminally ill father. She has had to leave her husband in TX. to work these months, so she can care for her father. She has had to take a leave of absence from her very supportive job in TX. too. Now she is down to her last few dollars and still hanging in there for dad. What are we going to do if she has cancer too. She has no one to care for her, or her father. Her husband is a alchoholic in TX. Her home is in TX. My health is not stable enough to take care of her. So now what do you suggest I do? I am beside myself with grief. This is my best friend! Why does God allow this? I live in IL. Just a few words of advise. Tear
Answers: I have a friend that has been in Illinois, from TX. for the last 9 months carrying for her terminally ill father with lung cancer. The other day my friend found a lump in her own breast. Today the specialist has told her it is a mass and suspects cancer. Why has God allowed my friend to have possible cancer when she has devoted her whole life to taking care of her terminally ill father. She has had to leave her husband in TX. to work these months, so she can care for her father. She has had to take a leave of absence from her very supportive job in TX. too. Now she is down to her last few dollars and still hanging in there for dad. What are we going to do if she has cancer too. She has no one to care for her, or her father. Her husband is a alchoholic in TX. Her home is in TX. My health is not stable enough to take care of her. So now what do you suggest I do? I am beside myself with grief. This is my best friend! Why does God allow this? I live in IL. Just a few words of advise. Tear
I understand how you feel.. ((((HUGS))))
Sweetie, No matter how good we take care of this earthly body. It is going to age, and fail. There is no way around it.. However, The essence, (soul) does live on. Praise God..
I took care of my beloved elderly Mom for 16 years. Most of my every waking moments were filled with her care, in one way or another. In that time, I battled cancer, Diabetes, High blood pressure, biopsies after biopsies, several Cancer treatments, Laser, 12 surgeries, Loosing hair and teeth. Hunger and destitution. My dad dying, My husband being severely electrocuted and becoming disabled (Heart and Brain Damage). About 6 years ago. As well as ten years of him being an acute falling down drunk, many years ago. During that (drunk) time I found out I had cancer..I was 23 years old. I am now 52. And, due to the surgery required for the cancer, Could never have kids.. But, I still took care of Mom. It was part of the reason for MY being.. She needs to take care of her Dad.. She would never be able to live with herself, IF, she did NOT, take care of her Dad.. It would be harder for her.. I can`t imagine how I could sleep or rest knowing my beloved parent was suffering .. Be there when she needs you.. You are doing a good job now.
Why am I telling you all this?
SO, you will understand that this is what gives her to courage to get up everyday and keep living..
One more thing, Being away from her alcoholic husband at this time may just be a blessing.. The stress of living with a drunk is beyond belief. Let alone facing cancer too..
She has such a powerful testimony. You can`t have a testimony without the tests.. I would be honored to pray for her, If you drop me a note and let me know you would like it.. I have many spaces open in my prayer time, I would love to add yours/hers to it.
It is important for you, to NOT beat yourself up.. God is carrying the load right now.. Let him.. He can drive the bus.. Just sit back, he can do miracles beyond our wildest imaginations.. You are doing the best you can, that is all anyone can ask.. You are a good friend and I pray all God`s blessings for you..
Peace & God bless from Texas. <><
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So the saying goes, and it is best to believe it, "God only gives us as much as we can handle." I wish had something more to say or help you. I will keep you and your friend in my prayers.
Regarding what your friend is doing, who could disagree that this is the best anybody can do for anyone, whether family or not. It is truly wonderful that she's been able to surpass so much in order to care for her father.
I will hope that she's taking care of this problem she's developed, whether it is cancer or something benign. Also I will tell you that it is not frequent, but it does happen that during or right after such health crisis in one family member, another follows. One such case was that of Christopher Reeves' (SUPERMAN); less than 6 months after he died, his wife who'd care constantly for him was found to have cancer, and died about six months after that.
Another case was that of actor Edward Albert who had stopped his movie and TV career to take care of his father, actor Eddie Albert who apparently was suffering from Alzheimer, and less than a year after his father's death he himself died from cancer. I know of quite a few similar stories but can't remember enough right now to relate here.
In cases where more than one family member is struck with same disease_at same time or soon after, it is, as you might know, due to a gene.
This is where you must try and see what God's role in all this is: For centuries there's been those that believe in destiny, while others simply say it is "God's will" that such and such a thing happened. Others, of course, say it is only NATURE doing the best it can. While others simply don't believe anything at all, and remain oblivious to these type of thing.
This is my own opinion: It is not destiny, God, bad luck, or any type of foreign influence (such as being jinxed, etc.); It is only our own bodies which are flawed and which scientists know as faulty genes, faulty DNA.
If you go directly to the BIBLE you'll understand what I mean. God had created MEN (humanity) in his own image, which of course we must understand as not in a physical way, but in the spiritual, Godly, saintly manner. And this is where our faith and believes come in, of course.
What happened that we ended up where and how we are? Well it is right there in the first few pages of the very first book in the BIBLE, in GENESIS: Eve's faith and belief floundered; she disobeyed GOD and HE explicitly emphasised what would happen to all of humanity.
I advise you to keep on being as supportive of your friend as you've been till now. Commend her. Help her out emotionally and spiritually when she's depressed or confused, since she herself will probably be asking of all this what you yourself have asked: "How can this be happening to me?! Why me?
Also, where is the gentleman, the father; in the hospital, hospice or home? Has his condition deteriorated? Is he under doctor's and/or nurses care? Has he had more than one doctor's opinion? Reason I ask is because I had a very similar situation regarding a misdiagnosis in my immediate family; an array of doctors were saying "cancer" at every turn, and it was all a lot of misunderstandings, mistakes, etc.
I'm not religious i think a lot of it has to do with ,our environment, what we eat, drink etc. even though there's vitamins and minerals out there for us to take as supplements , every thing is just so polluted, our food our water, our air ,etc; and over the generations our bodies have developed weakness to the things , and boom it gets us. in my family there's a history of cancer going back generations although most of the time it occurred later in life for may ancestors ,in their 60's and up . except for my aunt and see got colon cancer in her late 50's. but what happens i was diagnosed with it two years ago at 46 yrs old, well its not fun but you just have to make the best of it and go on .!!! and feeling sorry doesn't help any thing , think positive it could be a lot worse. could be starving in Africa.
There is a stipulation of science which states that for every action there is bound to be a reaction... every human life is like a computer program, just fill in some data's and u get the results...Through our ACTS we fill in those data's and the results are there...We enjoy the fruits of those data's and pay for it in the next life...I give you an example.. Suppose I have stolen your money.... definitely I'm not going to return to u in this life but definitely I shall have to do this in the next life...SO ACTION OF THIS LIFE FINDS ITS REACTION IN THE NEXT LIFE...so what u r referring is the reaction only of the sins committed in the previous life...concept of continuity of life explains this.
P.J., First, it has not been diagnosed as cancer...as of now. This situation is a hard one but, life is hard and we can only do what we can do!! God says He will never leave us nor, forsake us....it is NOT God who doles out illness! But, when it comes, It is God in whom we can trust totally! He will make a way where we cannot! Stand upon the promsies that God provided and remind HIM of HIS promises! He says too! Shore up your faith hun, as Gd knows all that this precious one has given up, for the love of her father! Hmmm, reminds me of someone.....oh yes, Jesus! God came to earth, in flesh ! Now, that is love and I pray with all my heart, your dear friend knows HIM and that HE loves her and will be by her side...no matter how difficult!!
I am praying for this situation and for you. I see your pain and all I can say, give it to the Lord....let Him guide you and look for the good....which always comes from bad! Another promise!!
Please e-mail me if you need or, want too.
gail
I happen to live in IL, too. The weather hasn't been the greatest.
To answer your question, I don't know. But it hasn't been diagnosed as cancer. Also there are many cancer survivors. The key is she needs to get it checked, and consider several doctor's advice. You, as a friend, can give her the moral support that a friend can do, especially since her husband isn't. Dr. Dobson has written a book called When God Doesn't Make Sense. This may help. I will pray for your friend, her dad, her husband, and also for comfort for you. I would ask you to turn your faith to Jesus. If you don't know Him, or have any questions, please e mail me.
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I can't answer the why's but I will give you prayer.
Lord, Give this woman strength and turn this around for her and her best friend Lord we trust in You though we don't understand the whys. I pray for a miracle for Your Daughters and lift them up as You place them under your mighty Wings surround them with Your Love and give them Peace and comfort that passes all understanding. Praise You Lord that You sent Your son to Die for Our sins that we may be whole in You Give those cells LIFE. Lord bless this bestfriend as she is taking care of her father. Take care of her. We place all our hope and trust in YOU Lord! In Jesus's Mighty Name We Pray,AMEN!!?EveryDay Prayer Warrior?
Dear P.J. Please do not lose heart over seemingly overwhelming hardship. We are never going to understand why we are given disease and hardships in our life. The dear lady who answered above mine is pretty powerful.
I'm so sorry for everything you &your friend is going though , lets pray our Heavenly Father we lift this sweet lady & her friend up to you Bless them heavenly Father help them and her friends father heal from all this cancer& illness Lord God and Lord we Pray that you put the husband in his place and show him how selfish he is being and show him his wife needs him more than ever in Jesus name we pray Amen.