Can anyone help me with herpes?!
Question: Okay so I am 19 years old. When I was 8+ years old I was sexually abused by a man...who had herpes...Nothing ever came up so my mom didn't take me to get any tests. I decided to go on my own about a year ago, the doctor told me that if I didn't have an outbreak it would be harder to diagnose it, and it was very expensive so I didn't bother to have it. Now the bumps have came up, the itch and burn...they hurt so bad I can barely walk. And I don't even want to think about peeing!! I have researched and they tend to come out when you are stressed...one word----Christmas!! Now I do plan to go to my local health department to get tested. My problem I have a boyfriend, who I have been sexually active with I told him about what happened to me when I was a child, and that he did have Herpes. My boyfriend just brushed it off and told me to stop worrying. How can I tell him?? How can I cope with this? That it wasn't my choice? Thanks for all the help!!
Answers: Okay so I am 19 years old. When I was 8+ years old I was sexually abused by a man...who had herpes...Nothing ever came up so my mom didn't take me to get any tests. I decided to go on my own about a year ago, the doctor told me that if I didn't have an outbreak it would be harder to diagnose it, and it was very expensive so I didn't bother to have it. Now the bumps have came up, the itch and burn...they hurt so bad I can barely walk. And I don't even want to think about peeing!! I have researched and they tend to come out when you are stressed...one word----Christmas!! Now I do plan to go to my local health department to get tested. My problem I have a boyfriend, who I have been sexually active with I told him about what happened to me when I was a child, and that he did have Herpes. My boyfriend just brushed it off and told me to stop worrying. How can I tell him?? How can I cope with this? That it wasn't my choice? Thanks for all the help!!
i got herpes when i was 19. i am now 42. i ran warm bath water to sit and pee in because of the extreme sting. i know it sounds gross but there is no sting so u can empty your bladder in peace. u can stand up and soap yourself off after wards. make sure u wash your hands last so u dont rub your eyes or face and spread the virus. i would then dry off, put a blow dryer on a low setting and squat over it to thoroughly to dry the area. u may discover keeping the area extra dry helps and speeds along the healing process. i broke out before my period for a couple years. other things that would trigger a recurrence was stress, being sick or a sunburn so stay away from tanning beds. i know what u mean about being barely able to walk. i wore sweatpants, loose shorts or skirts but move the wrong way and OUCH!!! suppressive medication does work. i took them for about 4 years. i have gone years without breaking out. if i feel that tell tale itch i use visualization to prevent one. u need to calm down. u will stay constantly broke out otherwise. i know u are worried about your boyfriend getting it before u knew u had it. all u can do is tell him. u can live with it. i know when i first was diagnosed i contemplated ending it all because it so affected my life. all i can say is it does it better. your boyfriend may not have contracted it from you. but dont wait and see if he breaks out that would be heartless. and that doesnt sound like u. i have been married 7 1/2 years and my husband doesn't have it. we never use condoms but being new with the symptoms as u are i would use them.
I'm sorry I know how you feel I was raped when I was 9.
When I told my previous boyfriend he didn't take it very well....that's why we're through.
Just tell your boyfriend. It sounds like he's already accepted it anyway and that he loves you enough for it not to be a big deal
If you have genital herpes infection, you can easily pass or transmit the virus to an uninfected partner during sex.
Most people get genital herpes by having sex with someone who is shedding the herpes virus either during an outbreak or an asymptomatic (without symptoms) period. People who do not know they have herpes play an important role in transmission because they are unaware they can infect a sexual partner.
You can transmit herpes through close contact other than sexual intercourse, through oral sex or close skin-to-skin contact, for example.
The virus is spread rarely, if at all, by objects such as a toilet seat or hot tub.
Reduce your risk of spreading herpes
People with herpes should follow a few simple steps to avoid spreading the infection to other places on their body or other people.
Avoid touching the infected area during an outbreak, and wash your hands after contact with that area.
Do not have sexual contact (vaginal, oral, or anal) from the time of your first genital symptoms until your symptoms are completely gone.
Although there is no cure for genital herpes, your health care provider might prescribe an antiviral medicine to treat your symptoms and to help prevent future outbreaks. This can decrease the risk of passing herpes to sexual partners. Medicines to treat genital herpes are
Acyclovir (Zovirax)
Famciclovir (Famvir)
Valacyclovir (
Prevention
Because herpes can be transmitted from someone who has no symptoms, using the precautions listed below is not enough to prevent transmission. Recently, the Food and Drug Administration approved Valtrex for use in preventing transmission of genital herpes. It has to be taken continuously by the infected person, and while it significantly decreases the risk of the transmission of herpes, transmission can still occur.
Do not have oral-genital contact if you or your sexual partner has any symptoms or findings of oral herpes.
Using barriers such as latex condoms during sexual activity may decrease transmission when you use them consistently and correctly, but transmission can still occur since condoms may not cover all infected areas.
You can get tested to find out if you are infected with the herpes virus
Living With Genital Herpes
If you're living with genital herpes, remember that you're not alone. One in five Americans has genital herpes. The key to living with it is learning how to recognize and manage your symptoms. This section has some other important information that will help you minimize the effect genital herpes has on your life.
Genital Herpes Issues and Your Family
Some facts about herpes you should know, along with steps you can take to prevent the transmission of the herpes virus to your family.
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Genital Herpes and Your Sex Life
Having genital herpes does not have to mean an end to your sex life. Here are some things you may wish to think about before getting involved in a sexual relationship.
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Stress Management and Dealing with Genital Herpes Outbreaks
Simple changes in your lifestyle may help reduce the amount of stress you are feeling, which may in turn help to reduce the frequency of your outbreaks.
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Talking to Your Partner/Family about Genital Herpes
Telling someone you know and care about that you have genital herpes can be difficult, and you may be afraid of having the discussion. Here are some suggestions to help you.
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Coping and Acceptance
There are a variety of emotions that may occur with a diagnosis of genital herpes. Here are some ways you can learn to cope with them.
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Women and Genital Herpes
Studies have shown that women are more often infected with Herpes Simplex Virus-2 compared with men. Learn how to manage genital herpes issues that are specific to women.
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HIV and Genital Herpes
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