Have HPV since Aug, boyfriend knew, just found warts.... now he's freaking..!
Question: I got diagnosed back in August and had told my boyfriend then about it, he seemed ok with it, weve had a sort of rocky relationship to start with.... well I just recently found warts because of the HPV and I feared telling him, but I did and now he keeps telling me he doesn't know what to do, that he still loves me but he doesn't even want to come near me because he feels like I'm dirty.......
the saddest part is I keep trying to explain to him that HE may have been the carrier even though he insists he uses condoms everytime he's ever been with another girl (when we weren't together) ..... but I told him condoms don't necessarily protect against it, which I guess he doesn't want to hear...... anyways.......
I told him like 3 days ago and he's still acting distant, said our relationship was over last night, but we were still friends, then texted me today to say he felt like a jerk for doing it but he still doesn't know what to do..... I know he loves me, and I know why he feels
Answers: I got diagnosed back in August and had told my boyfriend then about it, he seemed ok with it, weve had a sort of rocky relationship to start with.... well I just recently found warts because of the HPV and I feared telling him, but I did and now he keeps telling me he doesn't know what to do, that he still loves me but he doesn't even want to come near me because he feels like I'm dirty.......
the saddest part is I keep trying to explain to him that HE may have been the carrier even though he insists he uses condoms everytime he's ever been with another girl (when we weren't together) ..... but I told him condoms don't necessarily protect against it, which I guess he doesn't want to hear...... anyways.......
I told him like 3 days ago and he's still acting distant, said our relationship was over last night, but we were still friends, then texted me today to say he felt like a jerk for doing it but he still doesn't know what to do..... I know he loves me, and I know why he feels
IM GOING THOURGH THIS RIGHT NOW! i know what he is going through and i know how he feels you answered my question early.
Its not that he think s your dirty or gross, he is freaked out because its out of the normal, and he is probably afraid of something happening example you leaving him, or that he might get it, or he already has it. THATS WHAT IM GOING THROUGH. Im scared because im scared of the uncertain, i cant really explain it besides that it is defiently a challenge. Me and my boyfriend are taking a break to give me time to think about this and im doing that, thats why im on here tonight to secound opinions, and i think thats what he needs is space and knowlegde about it so he will feel better about it, if he really loves you he will stay with you.
HPV is rampant. I believe it's 50% of men and women are infected with HPV at some time. In men, it can but rarely does cause problems whereas we women have to worry about the possibility of cervical cancer. You are right, he may have it, too. As of now, there is no test for men. Unless they have visible warts they won't be diagnosed. As far as the mental aspect of this goes, what more can you do? You've explained to him that he could be carrying it. Does he realize how common it is? Chances are you aren't the first he's been with who has it, and won't be the last. If he thinks your dirty, that's his business. I don't even know what to say other than I guess your relationship isn't going to work out. I understand it could be scary, but once you learn all the facts... not so much. Especially for men. Good luck to you.
hes a dumb ***.... google the info and print it off and high light the important stuff.
Its skin on skin contact...condoms do NOTHING!~
and your body can cure itself of the virus (after you have used the proper meds)
Dont freak....you are NOT dirty. Hes uneducated. Your best defense is knowledge....read about it. What doesnt kill you makes you stronger!
hes dumb u arent dirty if he loves ya then he would of never left u
On a man point of view. He is scared of getting a disease from you. In his mind you are a dirty disease women who allow herself to get HPV. He's not a Dumb a22 as some stupid people like to say, he just scared and don't know what to do. Condoms does offer some protection but it's very little on HPV. There is treatments but no cures. Take him with you to your next Doctor's visit and let him ask questions. You also need to learn all you can to help control outbreaks. You will get a lot of advice from people who don't know sh@t about your relationship. Only you two can solve any problems that you both may be having and your doctor is the only one that has some of the answers about HPV.