Mum having cancer?!
Question: 5 years ago, my mum was diagnosed with cervical cancer. she went for many radiotherapy and chemotherapy sessions. i live on a small island and we dont have those facilities so she had to go to england for around 2 months at a time. it then spread to her bowels. at first my mum was a size 14, she then went to a size 8. she was sick all the time. my parents have now split up. recently, she got the "all clear". then we found out it had come back. she is just so fraile and weak. shes only 44 as well. i'm 13, please give me some advice, i feel as if i'm just losing her.
Answers: 5 years ago, my mum was diagnosed with cervical cancer. she went for many radiotherapy and chemotherapy sessions. i live on a small island and we dont have those facilities so she had to go to england for around 2 months at a time. it then spread to her bowels. at first my mum was a size 14, she then went to a size 8. she was sick all the time. my parents have now split up. recently, she got the "all clear". then we found out it had come back. she is just so fraile and weak. shes only 44 as well. i'm 13, please give me some advice, i feel as if i'm just losing her.
This is not a good sign i am sorry to say. once cancer comes back it is VERY hard to treat and is almost certainly terminal and incurable. I am not a doctor, and i am here to give you the facts as harsh as they are... But i dont want to 'fluff' around the edges and say everything is ok when it is not. It is not a good sign that she is already fragile and weak. Treatment will be tough on her if this is the case. She has already got secondary cancer (spread thru her body) and it will continue to spread to other organs. You are to young to be going thru this as is your mum. I just lost my Mum too on sept 7. She had kidney, liver and lung cancer she was only sick 4 months. I got sick of people saying stay positive dont give up, look on the bright side and all that crap. The reality was i was losing her and there was nothing anybody could do. i just spent every second of the day with her thats all you can do. Im here if you need ANY information or support. My thoughts are with you. xx
you just have to remember she is your mum and remember how much you love her
support her but also make sure you have somebody close to you that you can talk to
trust me you don't want to feel alone
They have studies showing that a possitive outlook on life can help you get well better and faster. Good for your mom, the survival rates have increased in the years. Help her think positive. Send her little notes, or e-mails just to say "I love you Mom!", and stuff like that. Make sure she is happy, and I wish all of you the best of luck, and I wish your mother a full recovery! Lastly, what happens happens. Remember to live your life if your mom's cancer becomes more serious. That is what she would probably want you to do anyway!
Good luck!
Mallory
My mom passed away from breast cancer when I was 5. I was horrified, but more or less because my dad was an abuser, and my sisters and I were left with him. I am now living with my aunt, uncle, 10 & 8 year old sisters & 4, 2, 2, 2 year old brothers and newborn and newborn sisters (they're actually cousins, but...)
Stay strong for your mom, remind her you'll be there for her and promise you'll never forget her. Make some sort of plan; I mean prepare yourself for the worst, but never give up hope! My cousin Brian has cancer and he had a 1% chance of survival. Now, he has a 95% chance, so it's looking better!
I am praying for you and your family!
Make sure she continues to get medical treatment and make sure that you have adult emotional support for yourself. A
relative would be preferable to help you through this time of your life. My heart goes out to you.
Spend as much time as you can with her and help her out. She will need help and it will make you feel better knowing that you are helping her. Stay in touch with your dad and let him know how she is doing. He might have some ideas or be able to help.
i dont know wat to say to you except be there as much as you can for your mom and try to except that maybe you are losing her but theres always hope....show her how much you love her . im 16 and my mom died of cancer when i was 11 . i wish i had a better understanding of wat was goin on at the time...i know wat its like to watch your parent in constant pain....your not alone and you have to remember that....talk to someone cuz it can be overwhelming....i wish i had done that and not bottled my feelings cuz this is something im still dealing with today and no one knows it...not even my brother .......you can email me anytime if you just want to talk......i hope to hear from you
I lost my mom when i was 24 she was 44year old when she die. you are probably losing her. one thing I learned it just spend time with her and love her as long has you have left. it is going to hurt like hell when she dies but it does get easier My mom has been gone for a year now and I miss her every day. so just be with her. I am every sorry I will keep you in my thought and prays
Hun. This is very tough. My grandmother had lung cancer for 10 weeks and she just recently passed away. What you need to do is take a deep breath. Next, find an activity you could do with her.
First, These are the stages of cervical cancer:
Stage 0: The cancer is found only in the top layer of cells in the tissue that lines the cervix. Stage 0 is also called carcinoma in situ.Stage I: The cancer has invaded the cervix beneath the top layer of cells. It is found only in the cervix.Stage II: The cancer extends beyond the cervix into nearby tissues. It extends to the upper part of the vagina. The cancer does not invade the lower third of the vagina or the pelvic wall (the lining of the part of the body between the hips).
tage III: The cancer extends to the lower part of the vagina. It also may have spread to the pelvic wall and nearby lymph nodes.Stage IV: The cancer has spread to the bladder, rectum, or other parts of the body.Recurrent cancer: The cancer was treated, but has returned after a period of time during which it could not be detected. The cancer may show up again in the cervix or in other parts of the body.
what you need to do is get an HPV shot from your doctor. THat prevents cervical cancer.
Hun, email me so you and i can talk.....
hi there. i'm sorry to hear about that. don't give up! the best thing to do is to be optimistic and look at the brighter side of life, i know that it will be difficult but i am sure that you and your mum will be able to pull it through. hope and faith are very important so don't give up! my baby cousin in UK and grandmum are both having cancer now and at times i just go 'why? why them?' but then again we are glad that there is treatment which helps. when i found out, it was... just unexpectedly shocking. we're just thankful it wasn't at the advanced stage. nowadays, i keep my grandmum company and visit her every other day. she'll be going for chemo in a few days.
i'm sure that your mum knows that no matter what, you'll be at her side. it's clear that you love her very dearly.
may God bless you and help you through your journey.
Awww I really feel your pain. My mom passed away of cancer when I just turned 13 (I'm almost 15 now). It was really hard to begin with, knowing that she's no longer alive. But then about a month past, I got distracted with my school work, friends, and it seemed to get more bareable. I still sometimes cry when I think about her, but I know she's still out there somewhere watching over me.
All I can say is it will get easier, trust me. Ask your friends to be there for you and talk to your dad about it. I hope all turns out well :)