Why do I hurt after shutting my three sisters out for six months.?!


Question: On November of 2007 my boyfriend found out that he had cancer for the third time and is on two Chemo's and radiation to clear his body of cancer cells that tend to hide. I am so busy being his care giver and his girlfriend that I don't have time to see my sisters. My boyfriend is very sick and I have to be there for him but my three sisters are giving me alot of hell and trying to make me have a breakdown. I also have gerd and stomach ulcers that are killing me right now with them stressing me out. Due to all this stress I thought I was having a heart attack last week but at the hospital I was told that I burned my throat all the way down to my stomach. I decided to look at the stressers and make a decision on what stressers to shut out. The number one stresser is my boyfriend so I am keeping that and my three sisters are the worst ones so I am going to shut them out of my life for six months so I can take care of my sweet boyfriend and myself.


Answers: On November of 2007 my boyfriend found out that he had cancer for the third time and is on two Chemo's and radiation to clear his body of cancer cells that tend to hide. I am so busy being his care giver and his girlfriend that I don't have time to see my sisters. My boyfriend is very sick and I have to be there for him but my three sisters are giving me alot of hell and trying to make me have a breakdown. I also have gerd and stomach ulcers that are killing me right now with them stressing me out. Due to all this stress I thought I was having a heart attack last week but at the hospital I was told that I burned my throat all the way down to my stomach. I decided to look at the stressers and make a decision on what stressers to shut out. The number one stresser is my boyfriend so I am keeping that and my three sisters are the worst ones so I am going to shut them out of my life for six months so I can take care of my sweet boyfriend and myself.

give yourself only one worry hour a day, so your cortisone , which is released under stress doesn't hurt your body, it causes cancer and speedy body break down and other diseases....Good choice looking after your boyfriend. Hope you'll be able to make your sisters understand it will help your stress level.Write it to them, not by mouth. Less stress full

Can youask them to help too - maybe one at a time so you can repair your relationships with them.
They must miss you and are showing that through anger.
I am so sorry, you must be having a tough time.
Try deep breathing when you get stressed - you are making your self sick when you are stressed.

I'm sorry for your pain. Is there anyone else you could talk to?

Teacher? Clergyman?
You need to take care of yourself or you will not do anyone any good cus you will be in the hospital yourself.

Maybe his doctors could offer some solutions - visiting nurses(not Hospice) or refer you to an agency that could help.

Good luck.

Have a heart to heart with them all - together if you can and tell them you love them but need space now and are sick because you're so worried about your boyfriend...(probably the reason) anyway, talk with them only occasionally and not that three hour a day stressful stuff... my sister - I'm a guy - got a new boyfriend ten months ago and hasn't talked to me in six months - I've heard he's a heavy drinker - I stopped calling and emailing her as for months I got no responses - she knows I'd be here for her - you obviously still love your sisters that's why it hurts - but maybe you just need a little space and not have them there's driving you crazy - let them know what you've been going through - if they care about you they'll truly understand... take care of yourself as you care for him - I used to be a nurse an LPN or LVN so I know how stressful being a caretaker can be - Blessings and Peace to you and I send you good thoughts...





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