Husband tells wife of 10 years, and 3 kids later he has herpes virus.?!
Question: I was recenetly told that my husband has had his first outbreak of herpes in 21 years, he was 17 years old when he was affected and treated. We have been together for 13 years, and have 4 children, and this has been his only outbreak in many years, and that he now felt compelled to tell me. We have not had intercourse in 8 days before the outbreak, and i want to know if now i am infected and what signs to look for and how long until i will know the outcome, and some precations to take, ruling out intercourse alltogether, and is it contagios when there are no visible signs.
Answers: I was recenetly told that my husband has had his first outbreak of herpes in 21 years, he was 17 years old when he was affected and treated. We have been together for 13 years, and have 4 children, and this has been his only outbreak in many years, and that he now felt compelled to tell me. We have not had intercourse in 8 days before the outbreak, and i want to know if now i am infected and what signs to look for and how long until i will know the outcome, and some precations to take, ruling out intercourse alltogether, and is it contagios when there are no visible signs.
Herpes is a disease caused by 2 strains of herpes simplex viruses: 1 and 2. It often presents as a painful, small, blister-like rash (sometimes known as fever blisters) in/around the mouth, throat, or genitals. HSV primarily infects mucus membranes, so kissing, sharing toothbrushes, sex, etc. can transmit herpes. Babies can also contract herpes during childbirth. It is also important not to allow infected secretions to touch broken skin or your eyes (such as by rubbing your eyes).
Most cases oral herpes are caused by HSV1 while genital herpes are caused by HSV2. However, due to oral-genital contact, this is not completely accurate. Approximately 60% of the world's population has HSV1, and between 20-40% of those get recurrent attacks.
Unfortunately, herpes cannot be completely eliminated once contracted. Antivirals can help reduce the length and pain of the rash. While the rash may heal, herpes viruses lie dormant within nerve cells, only to flare up during times of stress. Even if no rash is present, a carrier can still transmit the disease to another.
If your husband has had herpes for over 13 years, it very likely that you (and probably your children) are infected as well. If someone is having an outbreak, it is important to avoid contact with herpetic lesions or infected secretions. Frequent hand washing may also help reduce your chances of infection.l
Yes its contagious when there are no signs of an outbreak. Seems to me that its kin of unlikely after all these years that all of a sudden he mentions it. Get checked out. You'd know if you got it, pain blisters horrible itching and burning like fire when you pee. Sorry.
If he's had it for years, unfortunately you do have it. You guys have been married with 4 kids. There may not be signs, but the virus speads like wild flowers. Signs would be pimple like or coliflower like, red, painful around genital area. What your husband can take is valtrex to help with breakage. I would say use a condom but most likely you may have it already.
I am not sure if without signs if u can spread it. but if he does no kissing, u or the kids, but do u have signs? And wow to the 13 yr wait, did he forget,he is a man! Duh, they forget everything. And your kids are fine to right, birth didn't give them blindness right? Is he stressed out, this could be the reason for the breakout, and u should really talk together with his Dr. or your GYN. and u should get checked to. But don't hate him, and life isn't ended because of it. My sister has it and stress is a big problem to cause outbreaks, and My sister is a nice clean beautiful women, her x brought it home, so she has lived 23 yrs and one breakout to.
I would definitely go get tested, why would he never tell you? Are you sure he did not just recently obtain this?
roxylee is correct in the symptoms, but not necessarily in the part of you having it or not.
Although it is possible to transmit herpes to another person when there is no outbreak, the possibility is greatly reduced. So, although you have been together for 10 years, you may still not have it.
The other thing to remember is that is nothing more than a rash caused by a virus, no matter how people in general look at it it is just a rash. Also some people may have one outbreak, and that is how they know they have it, and then never have one again. What I am trying to say, is that even if you have it, you may or may not ever have an outbreak, and even if you do have an outbreak, it is easily treated.
I hope this helps you.
Maybe you can as other herpes people
yuck get a new husband he broke
You may want to talk to a doctor about this, 21 years latter and just now had a outbreak? That's questionable! I would be looking into his having extra activities outside the marriage. Good luck, not to be rude but you may now also have herpes.
JED