Will i ever find someone who likes me even though i have herpes?!
Question: i messed around with a girl last year for less than a week and a few months later i found out i had herpes. i don't think there is a cure for it. but now im worried about how this will affect future relationships. i know i made a big mistake but there is nothing i can do to take it back.
Answers: i messed around with a girl last year for less than a week and a few months later i found out i had herpes. i don't think there is a cure for it. but now im worried about how this will affect future relationships. i know i made a big mistake but there is nothing i can do to take it back.
I ONLY date other herpsters and now I have found that one wonderful herpes man that I was looking for and have also relocated to be closer to him... Millions and millions of people already have the virus, its not like I have limited myself by only dating people with H...Actually, I feel that I freed myself from feeling "tainted" because of herpes and I will never have to have "the talk" with any of my potential partners.
I have herpes and Im lovin it, believe it or not, but I have come a long way with my feelings about having H. At 1st I was depressed, felt tainted, undateable and untouchable, but now that I am past that stage and come to terms with H, I have realized that it is not the end of the road, its just the begining of a new road.
I did a search on the net and joined about 10 different herpes dating site...I met LOTS of great people there and continued to have a (semi) "normal" date life through them... I have also joined herpes support groups in my area (www.charlotteh.com is my favorite) they have provided support, friendship, events (herpsters know how to party!!!) and a great way to meet other people in the same situation I have been in for the past year or so.
I encourage you to join the rest of us herpsters! You will never have to worry about meds (unless its just for your own comfort), you'll never have to have the talk, never have to feel like you have to settle for less (just because some girl accepts you and your little sores)....but most of all, you will never have to worry about spreading it!!!! You can date as much as you want and will never have any guilt because you gave someone "the gift that lasts a lifetime", they will already have it! No guilt needed!
I actually feel sorry for the people without herpes now... they have to spend their life worred about NOT GETTING an insignifficant little sore that means so little... which is a very hard thing to do since 1 in 4 people have it, 2 in 4 wont tell you they have it and 90% of those dont know that they DO have it!!!...... all I worry about is not spreading it, thats easy!!!
Good luck to you!
you will find someone... i know 3 people with herpes
one is in a ltr
one is married with 5 kids
the next is married woth one kid
Go to the doctor! they can give you prescription medication for it. If you do find a girl, make sure you tell her!
yes there is someone for everyone - i promise as long as you are a good person deep down love will always find you
we all make mistakes and bad judgment calls ya know!(we are human)
and there is medicine and condoms unfutunatly those will be part of your life forever because the last thing you wanna do is pass this along and futhure its hurt cycle . but dont get depressed love is around the corner and all things happen for a reason for whhatever the reason thi is part of your journey.
good luck and best wishes
Dnt worry u'll find someone
Just protect yourself and who ever, this is a hard question to answer, check to see if their is a cure i think their is... not sure
There is nothing you can do to take it back but there are plenty of things you can do to control it. If you have a Planned Parenthood in your area, please consult them. They deal with infectious diseases and great education. You may of made of a mistake, it is controllable. Seek medical advice from your physician. When you find the right partner and you come to the intimacy part. You need to be honest with them. Educate them. This may mean changing your own thoughts of what sex really means. Just because you are not having an outbreak does not mean you cannot give it. Men usually don't have as prominent of outbreaks as women do. First things first, EDUCATE YOURSELF about the herpes virus. Get treated for it. Find resources that can help you make a sexual partner aware that you have it. Please check out the link I am giving you. I wish you all the best. You are not alone!!
http://www.herpes.com/hsv1-2.html
ok, I have herpes too, and I asked the same question when I was diagnosed. You're right, there is no cure for it since its caused by a virus. Theres pills that help decrease the frequency of the outbreaks but it doesnt prevent transmission of the virus.
I didn't think anyone could ever love me. But then i found a great guy (I'm a girl) and he accepted me as a whole, and loved me no matter what.
An important thing to remember is to be honest with whoever you date. The right girl won't care....she'll love you for who you are not what you have...
i contracted herpes 4 years ago since then i have met some one and have 2 children there is medication to keep it under control but not a cure you just have to be careful and not have sex when you have sores.
sure you will just please tell any new girls you have them first!!
try these sites
prescription4love.com
www.STDFriends.com/Herpes-Dating
www.herpesdating.com/
www.positivesingles.com/
My boyfriend accepts that I have herpes. It doesn't even bother him at all and we never use protection.
If I say it bothers me and I worry that another man wouldn't want me, he just laughs and says an ex of his had it that he was with for years, I wouldn't believe just how many people have it (its one in four) and so many people have had something, whether it is warts or herpes, that is just life.
Not everyone is extremely squeamish about it. I've had to tell four men and I haven't had one run in the opposite direction yet. In fact three of them didn't hesitate - they were definitely still interested!
The worst reaction I got was from a man I liked who said it sounded 'a bit icky' and wanted reassurance that I would have told him before we had sex. However he had relationship hangups anyway - he hadn't had a girlfriend in years (he always ran a mile) and didn't show any interest before I told him. Even he said it wouldn't bother him if we were in a 'proper relationship' so there you go.
Not everyone sees you as a leper that they always have to use protection with either. My boyfriend doesn't want that barrier between us because he sees herpes for what it is - a minor irritation, just like cold sores are, but nothing more serious.