I have Genital Herpes. How do I stop thinking of suicide?!


Question: It's been months since I first got it. I'm so depressed I can't even breathe. Has anyone ever lived a happy life after getting it? Has anyone felt so depressed from it they ended their life?


Answers: It's been months since I first got it. I'm so depressed I can't even breathe. Has anyone ever lived a happy life after getting it? Has anyone felt so depressed from it they ended their life?

Mike, where are you located? There are tons of social and support group sites for you to plug into. We started one here in Charlotte, NC.

http://www.charlotteh.com/

I think the thing that has helped people cope the most is meeting other people who are coping and having normal lives with Herpes. So please don't isolate yourself.

I have problems with depression myself, and I know how hard it can be. Please dont give up. I thought that I would never find someone who could love me and treat me well. Damaged goods, you know. However, I got engaged in September, and I am happier than I have ever been.

Hang in there. Email me if you need more info about on-line resources in your area.

You can still lead a successful, it's not the end of the world.

my suggestion to you is to pray to God and also go and get the movie "the secret" and watch it 10 times... i am serious...

go to the doc and get things sorted all should be sweet.
don't be depressed life has its ups and downs and the ups are way better than the downs!

have you gone to the doctor

they can give yo VALTREX and it really does work to prevent outbreaks

also take lysine -- amino acid supplement tablet everyday

and you may never have an outbreak again
relax

there are lots of people -- i personally know 3

who have herpes who go on to marry and have healthy children and a happy family life


and a happy sex life

see a therapist and a doctor, herpes is easily treated although never curied, as its a virus and an opertunist one at that. This asshole of a virus will hide near or on your nervous system, and show its little head as soon as your immune system is down. i.e after a cold or flu, when your stress or depressed. So it vital you see a therapist to help you deal with it, its not going to go away.

Evenually you will know when your going to have an outbreak, usually a tingly feeling before the sore appears, and these is of course the time when not to have sex.

Stay mentally and physicallu healthy and you will stay on top of it.

Breath. Its not the end of the world. You should however seek medical treatment, if you havent already. Whatever you do, dont try and keep it from your doctor because you are ashamed. There is an ointment called zivorax that can help with the painful ulcers. Its expensive but worth it. I also think you should do your research. Start by googling it. The better you understand this virus the more you will learn to be ok with it. 20% of people in the US has HSV. It is normal to be shocked and depressed about something like this but I dont think you should end your life, its just begining! Keep your head up!

Ah dear Mike, I am living proof there is a happy life for you.

I've had TONS of sexual partners and I had to disclose to all of them that I had herpes. I must say, I never passed it on to any of them.
I've had 2 beautiful children.
It is a bastard, rat bastard of a virus, I was quite depressed about it when I first got it. I was only 21. The initial outbreak was brutal and I was so ashamed. There was no medication for it then.

I haven't had an outbreak for about 8 yrs.
The best way to get back at it is to be happy--that actually keeps it from coming. I have outbreaks when I am stressed, sleep deprived and depressed. So get therapy if it helps you, work out, eat well sleep your brains out and don't stop having lots of healthy wonderful sex. With disclosure and protection of course.

Keep breathing, there is no cure but you can damn near starve that rat to death.....take care--Jane

Mike, did you know that 1 in 4 has Herpes? believe smittnlilkittn...she's right..oh so right..my BF has it...do i care...YES. I do...I care about HIM, not the herpes...Hugs, Hope, Health & Happiness to you...tis ok Hun..honest!!!

God!God ! God!!

that is the punishment for your litter indiscretion. also it's for someone else who had tons of sexual partners.

I agree with Jane D

The first outbreak for me was brutual so much pain ~ I got it when I was 21 being careless about protection and trusting the person I was with had only me as a partner ~

Anyway your life can be happy after getting herpes. I have a beautiful baby girl (delivered vaginally) she doesn't have it and I haven't spread the virus to anyone

Yes it something that I HATE to have but I get fewer than 3 outbreaks a year. As someone else stated I too get them more when I am stressed and usually those three a year are after my period ~

Seek counseling if you are feeling suicidal ~

i will pray for you, but suicide is not the best choice...are you a christian or have any specific religion... if so you could go to your preacher and ask them to pray for you...i am sorry that you have an std, maybe god will cure you from it...please don't kille yourself it is the unforgiven sin because you can't ask for forgiveness when it comes to judgement day...

You need to get life in proportion.

Yes, catching herpes can be a blow but it is only a minor thing when you learn to accept it. You are making it a huge deal and it isn't.

-one in four people have hsv-2

-8 out of 10 people have hsv-1, 95% by age 50

-it is a minor skin virus, it doesn't cause you any harm, it can (for some people) be painful or uncomfortable and it is a bit of a nuisance but that is all.

-it doesn't affect your career or your family or social lives, and it only affects your personal life if you let it.

I thought it was the end of my life when I caught it. I thought no man would ever want me again, and I suppose I did consider ending it all - for all of 60 seconds. But once I got it in proportion it was fine.

Lets see how several years of living with it have affected me:

-I have told about 15 people, family, friends and lovers. I have never had a negative response. All the men I have told - four of them - accepted it absolutely. None ran, none even expressed doubt. One said it 'sounded a bit icky' but admitted he didn't know what it was. Once I had explained he said it wouldn't put him off a relationship with me. The others wanted to jump into bed regardless. I have unprotected sex with my current boyfriend, he just doesn't see it as an issue at all. The others would have been perfectly prepared to have unprotected sex with me.

-all the friends I have told don't see it as a big deal. One just said it was nothing and that everyone has it now. Most people don't care. Nobody has ever reacted badly to me telling them.

My sister also has genital herpes. Since catching it she has married and had children - it hasn't impaired her life in any way. In fact I don't know anyone whose life it has impaired, apart from those who can't get it in perspective psychologically.

Do you think all the people who get cold sores feel like this? Do you think a cold sore on your mouth is a reason to kill yourself? If not, then why is genital herpes? There are much worse things in life.





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