I think I gave my boyfriend herpes last night?!


Question: I've had this virus for over 20 years...been married 11 years of that and had many boyfriends/sex partners and NEVER given it to anyone - so he trusted me
BUT I've never had this much sex in my entire life....it's ALL THE TIME...even when I am broken out - he wants to "find a way" and we do - and I have always kept him safe.
But last night I woke up at 1am with a full-on outbreak and not sure if anything was there before we had sex or not!! Or if it just popped up after....
Usually I have symptoms for a day before I see an outbreak...and I'm careful or don't have sex
This time I felt NOTHING and we had sex - and now what?
Any advice????


Answers: I've had this virus for over 20 years...been married 11 years of that and had many boyfriends/sex partners and NEVER given it to anyone - so he trusted me
BUT I've never had this much sex in my entire life....it's ALL THE TIME...even when I am broken out - he wants to "find a way" and we do - and I have always kept him safe.
But last night I woke up at 1am with a full-on outbreak and not sure if anything was there before we had sex or not!! Or if it just popped up after....
Usually I have symptoms for a day before I see an outbreak...and I'm careful or don't have sex
This time I felt NOTHING and we had sex - and now what?
Any advice????

I think if he keeps asking to "get laid" even when he knows you're having an outbreak, isn't he kinda asking for it?
I don't know alot about this problem....but he sounds like he doesn't care if he gets it or not...
so just say "hey, broke out last night - I hope it wasn't there BEFORE i mounted you"
and see what he says
He doesn't sound like he'll be freaked out - if he wasn't freaked out about it before today

first off, you dont KNOW he has it so calm down just a bit.
Second off, it is obvious he LOVES you and he will understand...
You tried to be careful and responsible and sometimes things happens. Since you have lived with it for so long, there is not much chance that this disease will kill him.
Let yourself off the hook, it isnot like he didnt know you had it
Also there are some medications that can help to make the outbreaks less
possibly you could both take those drugs
either way
you could both go to a doctor's appointment together
It is not the end of the world

Tori,

I wouldn't worry about it that much. Chances are, he already has it, given that he sounds pretty experienced. Even if he does not, he probably won't show any symptoms anyway.

Good luck!

i think it was very careless of you to have sex with herpes obviously you have little care for your sexual partners well being I'm outraged and disgusted





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