I have a rape question?!
Question: 2 years ago i was 14 he was 25 and tried to have sex with me but only in me for like 10 sec's...but i like studying dieseases and the bosy and started thinking about this tragedy and wondered if i could have an std// ive never had a side effect no itchies,no pain i check my vagina DAILY and no weird discharge but i just need reasurrance...and i cant go to the docs till 18 because i dont want to be questioned on why im no virgin
Answers: 2 years ago i was 14 he was 25 and tried to have sex with me but only in me for like 10 sec's...but i like studying dieseases and the bosy and started thinking about this tragedy and wondered if i could have an std// ive never had a side effect no itchies,no pain i check my vagina DAILY and no weird discharge but i just need reasurrance...and i cant go to the docs till 18 because i dont want to be questioned on why im no virgin
It's unlikely that you have any disease resulting from that traumatic event.
Remember that rape is a crime -- a form a violence against women. It is an assault, not an act of caring or tenderness. And if you were only 14 at the time, you also were a victim of a 25-year old child molestation, which is as serious a crime as rape!
You may feel guilty about this, because perhaps you were somewhere you shouldn't have been, but the other party was an adult, and he should not have done anything! This was not your fault!
I'm sure your parents would be very much concerned if they knew someone tried to rape their daughter, especially someone as old as your assailant.
I don't understand why you have not reported this to the police, but I don't know where you live. It is not too late, even now -- look at all the accusations against Catholic priests that have come out in the last few years. The question is whether the police would do anything after such a delay, when it is your word against his, there were no witnesses, and you did not tell anyone (maybe you did tell someone) sooner.
nobody will question you, unless you aren't in the great USA
but I think if 2 years went by, then you are probably ok
He raped you? Why didn't you report it? :[
It is a possibility so to be safe you should go to a planned parenthood, they dont ask those questions, its confidential (not even your parents or anyone else will NOT have to know) and if you're 16 and a student its free as well so just go to their website and you can locate one near you.
You should go to the doctor. And tell someone--your parents, a therapist, a friend. You need support. No matter if he did it for 10 seconds, it's still serious and you should get checked. Better be safe than sorry.
You should see a doctor if you are concerned (which is sounds like your are).
No doctor is going to ask why you are not a virgin. They are there to help you not judge you.
Try and be honest with them, they can asses your risk and recommend any test they think you should have.
you can go to a doctor.
they possible will ask you but they are also professionals and will keep the information in confidence.
that way you can have some weight off your shoulders by telling someone and they know exactly what they should and shouldn't be testing for.
it's good to have a doctor just for yourself. you can tell them things you wouldn't tell your parents.
You can go to the doctor. The doctor won't ask you why you are not a virgin. They will not tell your parents either. You can go to a free clinic and your parents do not even need to know. What you should not do is wait. STD's are no joke and can leave you sterile ( not able to have kids) or even kill you. That is far more important that anyone finding out you are not a virgin.
GF looking over shoulder. She says:
You should go to Planned Parenthood, or at least a local HIV clinic and be tested. You don't have to lose your virginity to contract an STD. It requires no explanation. GF says go get tested as soon as possible.
Well if you don't want to go to the doctor then there is not a lot you can do do check if you do have a STD. Some STD's can be in your system and can sit doormat for many years. These can only be picked up via a blood test or even a urine sample test. Doctors are not judgemental and he will understand your circumstances so I strongly recommend that if you are worried then go see the DOC. Take care
Ok well u should just probably relax if nothing has happened u have likley to be safe and u are not sick. But if u get mor eworried u should se a doctor or something.
Like Cathey said, planned parenthood is your best bet, they are there to help you in any way they can without anyone else knowing, you can get lots of information and tests done for free.
if 2 years have passed then I highly doubt you have an std, but some people ( like me) like to have proof about something like that. you can also tell your doctor that you are nbot sure if you have an std and if your uncomfortable answering questions the doctor asks then tell him that. he doesnt need to know anything you dont want him to.
hope this helps, good luck to you
u r crazy if you dont go get checked after u had sex u know this **** is serious yo im 14 also i was messing around with a older guyss witout a condom n no syntoms came so i didnt worry about 6 months later i had like 50 bumps down there and it hurt to move i didnt go to school for weeks its horrible, i dont have sex no mo ---dont have sex wit no condoms n plzzzzzz get checked just be safe this **** can seriously hurt u, the womans health clinic wont tell the police they dont do anythin besides ask u the names but dont give the right name n ask if u can notify the guy urlself if u do have somthing becuz they are gunnna want to talk to him
While two years ago is a while and you probably do not have a STD...you should be checked to be sure...some can lie dormant...and not be so openly seen or felt. And for the sake of taking a pervert off the streets...report that nasty scumbag.
You were almost half his age, and that is a crime. Rape is a crime punishable by law...and he should be reported to prevent him from doing that to other minors. I know it is hard for you to go forward...but it is always best to be honest and come clean with things like that. Your health could very well depend upon it. Sorry you have been put through this and I hope things can get worked out in your head with this. Take care...and know your not alone. Heart2Heart
All girls (in the U.S.) your age are now getting a new shot for the sexually transmitted virus that causes almost all cervical cancer. Even if you were a virgin, your doctor would recommend that you get that shot. Your parents shouldn't be suspicious of your getting the shot, because all girls and women ages 9-27 are supposed to be getting it now.
Doctors may ask you about your sexual history. Believe me, it takes a lot (more than what you've told here) to shock most people in the medical field. And it is your choice as to whether you want to go into detail with them about what happened. Remember, it is kind of our job to lecture young people, so don't take it personally!
I hope you are away from that man, because besides being a criminal, he sounds like a pedophile. Keep safe!
you could go to your local health department and get tested for stds and or go to a planned parenthood and have them test you.. just to be on the safe side and to ease your mind. dont need a parent with you at the pph ..good luck
I would go to someone whether conselor, parent, or some adult you trust. Being raped is horrible and although you may not feel anything the std could be hiding and you don't want to take any chances. Just go to the doctor I promise they will help you.
The most popuar STD is HSV-1(80% adult according to ashastd.org), which doesn't cause obvious symptom. And 1 in 4 adults have HSV-2, which would be very obvious in weeks after you was infected. I don't think you you have HSV-2, but you may have HSV-2. The best way is to go to doctors. don't worry for virgin. Also, you can ask this question at the STD social http://www.pozcupid.com. People on that site are masters
Have you told or talked to anyone? It really would be very helpful... it can help you process and cope with that happened. Even if you already spoke to someone, that doesn't mean this is all "taken care of" and in the past; healing is ongoing. Taking care of yourself and the aftermath, even if was two years ago, is really paramount.
It's easier to cope with the possibility of an STD than is to cope with having been raped... and it seems, based on the language you used in writing this question... that it's the latter that is really still bothering you.
In any case, going to the doctor is a good place to start. She won't ask you why you're not a virgin, but she can care for your physical health concerns and if you choose to tell her about the rape, she can be a great resource for you.
Take care.
You should really go to the doctor. No one will ask if you are or are not a virgin. Even if they do ask any questions due to privacy laws they cannot share that information with anyone else. Why didn't you report this rape?
You make an interesting point here - especially about how many people think, and your vanity here.
You do not want to go to the docs (you CAN, so it's your choice not to)... because you do not want to explain why you are not a virgin. But apparently, you would have no problem potentially dying of AIDS and then having to explain to your doc, parents, friends, etc. how you got THAT, while being a virgin. Nice ego you have there.
Get over yourself, and get to a family planning clinic or someplace where you feel comfortable talking to someone. As with anyone, if you have ANY reason to suspect that you might have a medical issue, go to the doctor. But your fears and ego to the side. Your health comes first.
However, at this point, it doesn't sound like you have anything to worry about. But if you have any reason to worry, see the doctor.
Also, you call it a rape, but never said if you filed charges. The way you casually mention not wanting to explain your lack of virginity sounds like it really wasn't a rape. A rape is something that needs to be reported, or at least you should tell someone. This isn't about you being promiscuous and worrying that people think you're easy. This is about a crime that was committed against you. Deal with it properly. Talk to someone, and soon. Not your childhood buddies, but someone older who can actually help you, and not fill your head with stories.
First of all this is not your fault. THat I have to say. But you shuld tell someone. I would be careful though since you are still legally underage and I doctor is a mandated reporter of child abuse so just don't reveal any details if you feel like you don't want to drag it all out. It's oaky to feel that way, but I would tell someone and talk abut it. It could cause problems later when you do decide to have sex. Emotional problems maybe. As for STDs get tested, if anything, for peace of mind. Many STD don't present any symptoms at all and can cause infertility in women and cancer HPV and cervical cancer for example yuo should get tested. Many other posters gave good options so i would try one of those.
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rapist r crazy
like me